Some of my thoughts....

Dear all read this question and answer today....

"'i love my boyfriend very deeply. but i don't want to move to where he is. of course he cannot leave that place because of his job, but he has promised to move to my place after a couple of years! so i don't know what to do! should i live with him or just leave and stay where i want to live?'
'you are telling me that you love him very deeply. this kind of deep intense love does not happen all the time. it is not like you can order this love online and buy it anywhere whenever you want. this kind of love can never happen in your life again. so don't lose it. be with him and things will work out'

in present and in future this will also be a big problem ie wanting to live in different places among lovers!!!. and they should be willing to find a way to deal with this. complexity is only increasing!
in such living the physiological needs do not get satisfied which leads to frustration, measuring love, sadness, crying, controlling and demanding...when such behaviours, thinking and emotions arise, they need to know that the biological needs are high and have to apply coping skills and come out of this stress....so that they continue with their love...peacefully and happily....
rams



Dear all...when the water level in Chennai is rising above first floor and second floor human beings can move up to higher levels, but what will the cattle, hens, cats, dogs do?
rams


Dear all....The people of chennai, Tamil Nadu and all those watching what is happening there, are undergoing a course of 'Art of Living and Loving' being conducted by The God!!
rams



Dear all...when i see what is happening around in chennai this is what appears in my mind....
"When The Nature, The God, is quiet, human beings become 'animals' and start dancing like demons, destroying each other and The Nature with all sorts of Religions, Caste, Language differences.
When The Nature, The God, starts dancing like a demon (oozhithhaandavam!!), these 'animals' become HUMAN BEINGS, forget all differences and become Gods!!"

we want The God to teach us Lessons of Life?
rams

THIS IS FOR ALL TEENAGERS, COLLEGE STUDENTS AND THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE WITH SOME ONE OUT OF THE MARRIAGE

dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL TEENAGERS, COLLEGE STUDENTS AND THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE WITH SOME ONE OUT OF THE MARRIAGE....today all the college students have one or more love experiences by the time they complete the college life...
most of these loves start with 'bell ringing in their mind and body' when they look at a person or after some or prolonged interactions with that person in the class, labs, workshops, combined study times, social evenings, get-to-gathers, industrial visits, picnics, drama/culturals practises etc...
repeated interaction and socialisation with a person involving intellectual and emotional elements, sharing of views, opinions, thoughts, feelings etc and when they find frequency and bandwidth matching then they start loving each other...
1. initially they are just classmates
2. then they get attracted
3. then they become friends and start working together in labs and workshops and start talking
4. then they become good friends and start going out together everywhere
5. then they become best friends sharing their views and feelings and their phones are always engaged or out of coverage area, nothing and no one matters to them, they feel only both of them exist on this earth!!
6. then they become thick friends sharing their family issues and privacy
7. they start missing each other, start demanding for phone calls and priorities, start controlling each other, become possessive of each other's time-emotions-friendships-priorities etc
8. then the fight starts and life becomes a hell or 'painful pleasure'
9. then they start finding out who they are in the minds of the other, what is that relationship etc
10. usually every one conceives the relationship they have been missing in their lives....for a male it can be mother, sister, friend, lover, wife, soul mate etc....for a girl also it could be father, brother, friend, lover, husband, soul mate etc
11. when both of them perceive the same type of relationship then the frequencies match....when they are different then the issues becomes all fights, sobbing, frustrations, etc.
12. when the relationship is only at the mind level needs satiation then generally there is no possessiveness...then the love is cool, no demands, no controls, no fights, no crying...it is always fun....irrespective where they live together or far away and whether one is available when they need etc...
13. when the relationship is only at body level or both at body and mind level then all the negatives start....and the relationship can break after the first or few physical intimacies and mating, before or after marriage, if the relationship is only body based attraction.
14. If it is both body and mind based then positives will be present when they are together and the needs are satiated...negatives will be present when their needs are not satiated and when they are separated...
15. if they use the 'positive coping skills' then they will be all cool, calm, composed and live great...when they use 'negative coping skills' then they will be in their 'wells of painful pleasures' which they will enjoy, remain there, talk good when their needs are met, and fight when their needs are not met...
14. break ups can happen irrespective of any of the situations listed in above serial numbers at any stage.
15. they will not forget each other. Memories will haunt that person who fell in love at mind level.
16. they might join together again when they perceive that one can not live without the other whether before marriage or after marriage, at mind level or both.
17. there have been few illustrious episodes in love dephicted in the movie 'nee thaaney yen pon vasantham' movie...where two people who are in love both mind and body level from childhood is nicely shown with the positive and negative moments.
18. if their love is beyond the body and mind needs and expectations then they will become the devotee of each other and live their life off...with out any marriage in their life, single, or marrying some one due to the compulsions of the family, society etc and live a robotic life with spells of pleasure from husband or children or both with the memories in their heart fluttering always or once in a while...they might join together or not at a later stage in life when they both become single again....
18. i am sure from the above points one can find out what is happening in their love life, where they are, what will happen in future, what will happen to their life before and after marriage etc...so, accordingly they can take decisions now itself....and avoid damages to their mind and relationships....
19. people falling in love with another person after marriage also undergo all the above...the situations and dialogues you see in these clips also will happen...they will all the time keep measuring....keep asking for priorities...controlling....demanding....which they may not be able to comply in behaviours due to their circumstances....generally such people are physically separated at different place, cities, countries etc...so, physical need satiation will not be there and if they are not using positive coping skills then they will always be fighting...they will also feel miserable at nights when they think that their lover must be 'sleeping' with his or her life mate. They will also suspect that one will forget the other if not remained in contact and so will not mind calling continuously, waiting for them for hours without sleep on phone or in reality physically....all their troubles will vanish only when they join and start living together...but there will be several ifs and buts...
so, the crux is...
1. know the dynamics above and know where you are, what is that relationship, what will happen etc
2. patience, mutual trust, understanding and believing that 'time is the best cure' is important to win
3. using positive coping skills is must to live in peace and keep the relationship safe and secure....also to keep the other person in peace and happiness
4. whatever is there in the destiny will certainly happen
peacefully yours...rams....
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My fantasy world!!

Dear all...just do this and see what and how you feel...

feel at the midst of a huuuuuuuuuuuuge garden...you see only greens and gardens till the end of your view all around....surrounded by water falls and hills, pleasant climate, good breeze, beautiful flowers, good natural fragrance, lots of birds and butterflies, sounds of nature, no one around you, no responsibilities, you are not a son or father or husband or wife or sister or mother or relative of some one...no bosses and no targets...no botheration about promotions, undercuts, red tapism etc...you are just a free person on this earth...your mind is absolutely free...no person in mind...no relationship in mind...it is not thinking about the next moment...no anxiety...no fear...full of confidence and awareness of blank mind...no worries about the next day or future...no thoughts of the failures of the past...no fears of unknowns of future...feeling the entire earth is yours...then entire world is yours...just to enjoy and not to destroy...how do you feel?...

now you come back to the reality...the mother earth...the place you are...your surroundings...the people around...the relationships around...think about the next meal...think about your job...think about your boss...think about your past...think about your future...we will know what we have created???...on the name of culture, society and social systems!!!!

God, The Nature has created those at Para 1.

Human beings, we, have created those at Para 2.

You know now what to do, how to live, where to live, whom to have in your life, what sort of relationships we have to make etc...

peacefully yours...rams...

throw away the religions and remain far away from fanatics, else no peace!!!...and it is not worth living without at least peace, forget about happiness and success!!

dear all...yes...it is the religious leaders and their fanatics (those kept in 'imaginary, painful pleasure wells'!) who have divided every one, societies and have screwed up the lives of people and the world...hmmmmmmmm...through away all these and liberate yourself for peace....rams

you never know which person, which place, which word will give that spark of enlightenment!!.

dear all....yes...listen to all and listen to everything....there will be some percentage of value and usefulness in it...you never know which person, which place, which word gives that spark of enlightenment!!...so don't miss out the oppurtunity!!......rams...

how to know if you love a person?

Dear all...lots of thought and lessons rush in the mind, but no time to type...here are some more....

1. if you have loved a person at the mind level beyond the needs and expectations, it is impossible to forget that person. You might live a stable normal life. But can never forget...the memories related to that person will always give pleasantness, happiness, calmness, peace and of course, pleasures too, beyond the normal levels of pleasure!!

2. also if you are able to forget a person that means you did not love that person at the mind level beyond the needs and expectations, but just loved at the body level or on papers listing the pluses and minuses, measuring and evaluating, calculating profits and losses!!

rams

the secret of 'why people run behind junk or health compromising foods?'

Dear all...the punch lines for the day from my observations and research......

1. In general, those who live a sedentary life without doing health enhancing behaviours for the physical, mental and social health are driven to crave behind health compromising foods.

2. those who indulge in health enhancing behaviours do not control or force themselves not to eat health compromising food, it is just that they don't generally get craving for such foods.

3. some foods are generally tasty, tempting, have addictive chemicals and therefore are health compromising and so to be eaten in small quantities like medicines. If you eat health compromising foods like a meal, then one day you will end up eating the meals like medicines, and you will not be able to eat these craving foods also even a bit. That time you will feel like it is better to die rather than living this hell life, but you will not be able to die. Is such a life required??

4. so, eat health enhancing foods when you are hungry and distribute them through out the entire day and not to hog too much at the same time. Eat health compromising foods for taste buds once in a while in small quantities like medicines.

5. when you do yoga, asanas, pranayam, all types of other kriyas, walks, runs, gym etc...i.e health enhancing behaviours, the sedentary life will go, you will form a strong body and mind and healthy social relationships and you will free yourself from these junk foods and 'pleasures' and you will enjoy the most tasty health enhancing foods and that time you will say 'hmmmmm...how insensible and ignorant i was!!!...i wish i experienced this 'happiness' and great feeling earlier in my life and lived this beautiful life!!'...in fact you will enjoy these junk foods also in a much better way after you make the health enhancing behaviours as your back bone of life and living!!

6. so you now know the reason why some people say health compromising foods are tasty and 'pleasurable' and equally the other group of people who follow health enhancing behaviours also say they enjoy the 'happiness' from their 'plant product health enhancing foods'...

peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist...