THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS AND THOSE WHO FEEL TEENAGED!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS AND THOSE WHO FEEL TEENAGED!!

We human beings are social animals. We can't live alone. Our birth moment itself is with default relationships and people in our lives who care for us...parents, siblings and grand parents.

Are we satisfied with what they give?...No!...We want some more relationships namely friends of both sexes, lover, soulmate, life mate etc.

As we move on in life, we keep meeting many people at school, college, office, society, neighbourhood, social websites, parties and other places of socialising. We communicate with them, observe them, find some matching interests, traits, start liking them, get attracted to them and develop relationships.

How many relationships last a life time?...why they do not last a life time?...When a relationship fails?

How many relationships give us peace, happiness, good health, self empowerment, motivation, inspiration, help us to move up in life, live a contented, fulfilled, meaningful life of success and self actualisation?....Why they don't give all these for life time?

1. Initial phase of knowing each other with curiosity is funfilled. It has the element of common likes, dislikes, tastes, interests, goals, wants, needs, expectations etc.

2. We need to understand that the above keep changing and therefore we need to keep changing with the interests of 'our person'. Else some other person with the matching interests and other bla bla will take our place.

3. As long as relationships remain at only talking level and people change with the changing interests and needs then the relationship can last a long time.

4. Moment they go physical, then urges, security needs ("i want for life time"), expectations, possessiveness, suspicion and other related stuff results in sadness, anger, frustration, fights and eventually breakage of relationship. So, it is better to remain at 'decent communication' level only to keep the relationships intact and forever.

5. Some are extroverts. They will have many people in their life as they like talking. But if they bend to giving physical relationships to retain the people in their lives, then they will suffer and will make other people also suffer.

6. Some want variety. So, they will have more people in their lives at the same time or they will keep moving on.

7. In the present world of easy relationship-forming oppurtunities, choices are more for everyone. So, every one keep moving from one to the others...a. for want of variety....b. for want of matching age, needs, interests etc...c. when they feel satisfied with their needs with that person

8. Those who get emotionally attached suffer when the other person leaves or remains without any needs met.

9. Some need physical intimacies direly. But they fall in love with people at distance or people who can't spare time and emotions with them and they suffer. So, fall in love with those nearby and can spend time, energy and emotions to the level of your need and variety.

10. So, we need to be spiritually (i.e stable, steady and healthy mind) good to tackle all these issues in life. Parents need to educate and groom children to get this capability, provided they also know this and learn themselves from experts.

So, the crux and thumb rule is...

1. Never fall in love with a person at distance and who can't spare the time, energy and emotions if you have physical needs.

2. Keep relationships at decent communication levels only. Otherwise it is certain to break. If you don't mind suffering and breaking then you may go ahead with physical intimacies and all types of communication.

3. In relationships, what you have, to give the other person, has no meaning to the other person. What they want from you, whether you have and ready to give only will matter.

Peacefully yours....rams....health psychologist!!