‘sir, help me. I am heart broken. She/he has blocked me!’ is on the increase...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS, TEACHERS AND ADOLESCENTS...

Today adolescents and early adults (13 to 30 years age) have a mobile and all kinds of social networks with thousands of friends and emotional relationships too. But are they capable of handling them?...Have they been trained for handling such large number of relationships and distractions of social networking?...What do they do?...They keep blocking and unblocking friends at the drop of the hat...landing up in break-ups...Divorce etc without knowing that these are not the solutions and they will only damage the mental health of both seriously. Sometimes feeling 'missed-the-bus' after the break-up. Major reason is they don't communicate well to resolve the issues. They take decisions impulsively. They get emotionally stretched to their limits and beyond which results in a traumatic life.

The end result is they are torn to pieces in their mind and life. Many don't do well in schools, colleges and organisations...arrears, no placements, debarred from colleges, thrown out of the job, and getting used to drinking, smoking and other health compromising habits too…and land up as a burden and pain for their ownselves and family. Depressions and medication are common.

Is there any one to teach them Relationships Management before they reach adolescence?...who will teach them?...Parents only control. Teachers are almost the same, as, they are also parents!! Both claim to be experts…but do they know?...They might be training based on their own or heard experiences. But they are not qualified and trained. So, they also mess up. There are even colleges where a girl student or staff talking to a boy or man student/staff is a punishable offence. Are they right?...NO!!!!!....Ultimately boys and girls have to work in organisations in teams with people of opposite sexes...live at different places and interact with people of all kinds...and finally get married to a person of opposite sex and live without any relationship issues!!...So, coeducation schools with multicultural and multilingual environment is the best to grow, mature and evolve.

Therefore, Relationships are here to stay!!...Especially the adolescents are immature, unfamiliar with relationships, and unable to handle a surge of new kind of relationships from all directions during their early stage in life....this continues even during early adult stage!!...parents and others only scare them...this is not good...they should know everything about human thoughts...feelings...and behaviours so that they are able to handle people and relationships themselves!!!
Because after joining organisations...after marriage...after relocating to a new place...when they meet new people....come across many new relationships...they should know how to handle them. Parents and teachers can't be there everywhere and always!!!

Therefore, along with the teaching about menstruation, child birth, pregnancy etc people of both sexes need to be taught about the changes that take place in the body externally and internally, their effects on the hormone and other systems, their impact on the patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours, role modelling, the true definition and meaning of Love, the kind of attractions, dreams, passions, obsessions they will come across, the causes and effects of these, the fantasies in thoughts, dreams, decision making they will come across, the way to handle all these in their own thoughts, feelings and behaviours, assertiveness training, relaxtion therapy, anger management, management of frustration and other related neative thoughts and emotions and other therapies, Relationship Management etc need to be taught to them by well qualified and experienced experts in schools.

Else it is sure that every brain and life here is likely to get torn/shattered at the tender age of adolescence, during the growth and maturing stage itself and the horrifying experiences are likely to cause a major effect in their perceptions about opposite sexes, learning and personalities. Many evolve to be with personality disorders that they become unsuitable for a marriage or family living!!

Hope the school administrations and parents do something about this!!...Because ‘sir, help me. I am heart broken. She/he has blocked me!’ is on the increase amongst people of all ages!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!