a conversation about orphan girls!

hai friends...how are we?...i had shared the above photo in the facebook...there was a comment...and i had commented on it...the conversations are below...hope you enjoy the conversation...

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Arun Kumar I am not sure about reality of this picture,

 but message through it, is very clear appreciate what you 

have! Lovely , yes it breaks your heart too. May I ask Mr 

God for the fault of this child to get such punishment? Or

 on behalf of all orphans what is the mistake of child in 

being born? By religious beliefs god is the creator, god is 

the supporter and god is the destroyer? If that is correct

 where is the 2nd step missing?

Saturday at 17:21 · Like

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Manickarajan Ramasubramanian Yes sir…valid point…

god creates and destroys…supposed to support too…why 

god misses on this for some?...in fact I wrote a story

 many years back about an orphaned teen age girl who is 

gang raped and struggling for life…at that time she asks 

many questions in her mind to her mom…’Mom! Where 

are you?...I have never seen your face!...never had your 

warmth!...i have not sensed how it is to be on the mom’s

 laps and hugs…but I have seen others getting it…even 

birds and animals…I want to see you mom!...doctors say I

 may not survive…Can’t I see you once in my life?...what 

sin I have committed?...people say the sins of parents 

affects the children!...what sin you and dad committed?

...why should I be punished for that!...is god there?...am I

 a criminal?...am I worst that an insect?...why should I be 

punished like this?...i am sure you must be very beautiful 

and fair skinned mom!...why did you give your beauty and 

fair skin to me?...why am I not dark?...why I am not ugly?

...look at my condition now because you hve given me 

your beauty!...mom, tell me, why did you leave me?...was

 I a burden to you?...did I ask for money or wealth?...i 

would have drank only few drops of milk and would have 

remained safe in your hugs and cuddles?...am I not 

deserving that?...even a small insect gets these from its 

mother!...am I worst than an insect?...did you think I will 

be a burden for you?...if I am not required for you, why 

did you give me birth?...you could have killed me same

 time!...look at me now…I have been suffering, suffering 

and only suffering all throughout life!...cried any time I 

saw a bird feeding its baby bird!...had I got your hugs and 

cuddles, today I would have become the strongest girl on

 earth…would have looked after you nicely…no one would

 have exploited me like this…can you see my condition?

...can you understand my pains?...can you see what has 

happened to me because you are not there with me?

...why did you leave me?...did you sell me?...was I a

 commodity?...am I not your flesh?...am I not your dream

 kid?...did you see my face after birth?...how can a mother

 leave her child, after bearing her for 10 months and 

giving the birth, which is ‘life and death’ for a woman?...did

 you throw me in a gutter?...or in a dust bin?...or on the

 road?...where did you throw me?.....like this it goes on sir 

and slowly she can see things getting blurred in front of

 her eyes…her vision becomes blank…her eyes close…

nurses put cotton in her nose and close the face with the

 bed sheet…there she leaves this earth!...beautiful earth!!!

Though our ancestors have analysed such issues…why a

 good person has to suffer?...why a bad person flourish?

...why a hard working person does not get his due?...and

 have given answers like…karma…previous birth sins…sins

 of his or her parents…etc…I think ‘nature is the god…it

 has produced all of us like any other living being…has

 given advanced brain…sixth sense…to be the

representative of god…representative of nature…so 

protect all living beings…to protect nature…to be good…to

 be happy…to radiate love and affection…but we have

 become worst than animals…there is a post in my blog

 which compares human beings and other living organisms

 on earth…which clearly brings out that we are the worst

 animals…whereas we are gods…gods are no different

 than us or other organisms or nature…but we have 

understood god wrongly as ‘a powerful, magical thing that

 can give us what we want, produce and destroy’…I

 think the primitive man was right in worshipping ‘nature’

 as god…living without any sort of discriminations…but 

evolution has produced orphans and many other things…

more in my blog…funnyrams.blogspot.com

Saturday at 18:41 · Like · 1

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Arun Kumar Subbu, i must say you have reached

 enlightenment, you understand and analyze answers in a 

manner which is done by somebody with lots of self belief.

 I will try and post my small submission on gods and

 religion. with change in time a lot has to change and we

 cannot keep hiding in garb of soothing words of nothing.

( like our rulers of today).There is no previous birth if no

 body knows about it , all justice all answers have to come

 for this life in this life only. Keep writing it is all worth in

 gold.

Saturday at 19:09 · Unlike · 1

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Manickarajan Ramasubramanian thank you so much 

sir for the nice words...there is nothing great in these 

writings of mine. Any one who thinks in reality, not live in

 imaginary world, keeps asking questions about everything

 that is happening, without emotions, with a cool mind, 

without provoking others, i am sure will get only these

 things as the answers...you are right in saying that we

 have deviated too far away from reality, humanness, 

peaceful living, healthy living, the real meaning of 

successful living during the process of evolution...during

 the process of inventing things for happy and healthy

 living..If this trend continues i am sure the earth will not 

have its natural death. It is time to come out of evolution 

and revolutionize our life with the way the primitive man

 lived, but with the healthy and happy comforts we have 

produced with science...thank you sir!

Saturday at 20:50 · Like · 1

hai guys and gals...hope you enjoyed the conversation...

keep rocking...byeeeeeee!

rams

what should be our strategy in life with respect to behaviours?

hai friends...how are we?...

All of us are born in a family. We have parents. Most of our beliefs, habits, culture etc are learnt from out parents, relatives, neighbours and friends. But we are not comfortable with many of the issues. We are not happy. We are unable to follow. It does not give us satisfaction. We stress ourselves physically and mentally to follow them.
All of us are different. Our bodies are different. Minds are different. 
 
So, which religion to follow?...which temple to go?...which god to worship?...which guru to follow?...which sacred or holy book to read?...which food to eat?...whom to listen to?...what type of dress to wear?...should we party?...every direction you turn, every waking moment, every person you see gives lots of advices, opinions, compulsions, directions, orders…
 
All the above tell us how to live!
 
It is not worth following any god, any guru, any religion, reading any holy book, going to any temple, doing any pooja, listening to any one, if any of these is not giving us happiness, good physical, mental and social health and success…it is not worth leaving any religion or god or faith or belief or any guru, any book, any temple, any pooja, any suggestion, any ritual, if it is giving us happiness, good health and success.

hope you agree with me?

bye guys and gals...keep rocking!

rams

We have three people inside us. We are not one. Who are those three people?

hai friends...how are we?...it is nice to know that while i am typing this, there is some one in US reading some post in the blog...very good!

We think we are one...one human being. But actually it is not so!...we have three people inside us...when i say 'i am rams!'...or funnyrams...i am not one person...i am a combination of three people. Three organisms.  It is not only for me. It is for all human beings. Who are they?...what are their characteristics?...what do they do inside us?...let us see about them here...ok...

What is personality structure?

I generally refer to this saying ‘every human being has three organisms inside. They are alert and functioning all the time inside us. When I say ‘I am rams’, I refer to the ‘combination of all these three organisms’.

Freud describes it as ‘three partite structure of the human personality’.

The names of the three organisms inside us are named as follows:-

(a)     Id (pronounced as ‘yid’)

(b)    The Ego

(c)      The Super ego

Id is the most important organism, as most of our behaviours are due to this. The most disturbing, basic, fundamental, essential and dangerous organism. It is there from birth to death. There is no human being without this organism. If this is not there, we cannot be alive. It is responsible for all the scandals, rapes, thefts, scams and all the bad things and negativities of life that we read in the newspapers or watch in TV channels!!!

Does a new born infant has anything called its personality?...yes…it has!

At the time of birth, the personality of the infant remains to be an embodiment of id.

Therefore, id is the original system of personality. In the course of development or growth of the infant, it is differentiated into the ego and the super ego.

The id is occupied by a mass of ‘blind instincts’…the basic fundamental instincts of life!...thirst, hunger, to breath, sexual or reproductive urge, identifying dangers and protecting from them etc.

There is no logical organization of these instincts and impulses in the id. Therefore, instincts that contradict one another may simultaneously be present in the id. No sense of time prevails in the id…e.g we feel hungry or sexual needs any time.

Impulses already present in the id and also the new impulses (e.g tabooed sexual desires) repressed and sent to be hidden in the unconscious can remain unaltered for indefinite period in the id. That is how repressed traumatic experiences of childhood tend to persist and persevere in the adulthood and later.

Id is essentially ‘amoral’ in its character. It has no sense of values and cannot discriminate the good from the evil. It adheres to only ‘pleasure’ principle. It’s only concern is to release tension instantly and relegate the organism to a comfort zone involving constant and low level or energy.

Id is not oriented to reality. Id always tries to obtain pleasure and avoid pain.

In psychoanalysis we use a term called ‘primary process’. It refers to id’s approach towards wish fulfillment by avoiding pain and gain pleasure. It is an illusory process. It constitutes an hallucinatory form of experience in which ‘desired object’ is present in the form of memory image of the desired one. Nocturnal dreams represent fulfillment or attempted fulfillment of a wish.

The id processes remain entirely unconscious. The processes are inferred by analyzing the manifestation of the processes in the dreams, free associations, and neurotic and psychotic formation.  These phenomena are called ‘instinct derivatives’.

Several primitive instincts are associated with the id. However, sexual and aggressive instincts receive special premium.

This id has a big problem!!...its problem is by itself it is not capable of reducing the tension. For e.g a hunger experience by a person cannot be satiated by images of food and the tension cannot be relieved by such form of wish fulfillment. If id is not safeguarded and is left to its own strategies it might annihilate itself.

let us see about the remaining two people and how they are related to this id etc in the next post...ok!

bye guys and gals...keep rocking!

rams

why two people have different personality traits and why some traits are common?

hai friends...how are we?

the statistics today indicates 22 human beings from US have visited the blog and read, during the last 06 hours...that too during night time there!...thank you guys and gals!...you deserve a hug for that!

We keep observing others consciously and unconsciously all the time. People differ from one another widely and wildly. Why?...No two persons are alike. Why?...At the same time people have certain common traits or characteristics. Why?...What are the sources of such individual differences?...or commonality?...to what extent they differ?...to what extent they are common?...Is it possible to predict how an individual may behave in certain defined situation based on certain theoretical assumption?...How far the specific source of personality differences are stable?...are they long enduring?...or transient?...why people are unique?...can you make wild guesses on these questions?.

Psychologists have followed different paths to find answers for these questions.

Evolutionary psychologists say that different human beings ‘adapt to the environment in different ways’. They follow different strategies. This is the reason for difference in individual differences. So, as per them, “alternative adoptive strategies followed by human individuals belonging to the animal kingdom” is the reason for differences.

Some say that ‘genetic inheritance’…i.e the complex interplay of the genetic components and the environmental influences is the reason for the differences.

When we view the human beings as one extending from lower species then ‘biological under pinnings of temperament and complex behaviour’ emerges as the reason for the differences.

Some say that psychodynamic factors such as ‘unconscious  mind’ is the reason. They say that instinctive drives and forces and developmental experiences shape one’s personality. Sigmund Freud says that the unconscious determines the thinking, willing and feeling of the individuals. He stresses that internal psychological processes are of primary importance for explaining the nature of the individual. Early child hood experiences have greater impact on one’s personality. Unconscious motivation contributes to various psychological phenomena. Rationality and morality sustain our ego and super ego. Individuals resort to defense mechanism to foster their ego. Even the ‘conscious’ experience and its interaction with the ‘unconscious’ matters. Social factors play a significant role in development of an individual.

Social cognitive theorists say that ‘socialisation and the effect of cognitive processes’ are the reason for the differences. 

Freud, in his classical psychoanalytic theory says ‘human behaviour is determined by the unconscious’. According to him the structure of personality includes (a) conscious (b) preconscious (c) unconscious.

What one is presently aware of constitutes the conscious. Consciousness is riveted by our focus on what is happening at the current immediate moment, ‘here and now’.

In preconscious state we are not aware of certain facts related to our past experiences. But they are available for recall.

Unconscious refers to a state where the facts related to experience, especially emotional experience may not be felt at the ‘present’ moment. It can be voluntarily recalled by the individual. This material remains dormant and remains buried underneath in the mind.

Unconscious usually consists of the traumatic childhood experiences and tabooed sexual desires. The material hidden in the unconscious could hardly be retrieved by the awakened state of awareness. But the influence of the unconscious is felt in all aspects of behaviour.

According to Freud, mind is like an iceberg merged in water with 90% inside and 10% visible outside. Majority of our emotional experiences are buried under the unconscious and what we see as behaviour outside is only but a small portion of the mental structure.

So, this is the brief (?) about why we differ. More will follow in the days to come!

see you guys and gals...stay tuned to funnyrams!

bye....

rams