Lock down is creating a hell for the lovers!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL LOVERS...

Lock-down has created the toughest times and hell for the lovers. They are not able to meet. They are not able to talk to each other in-front of parents. As almost all the loves all over the world are driven by nature for procreation, they are shouting against each other in messages due to unfulfilled needs, desires, wants, expectations and the frustration, anger and sadness which comes as a result.  The end result is break-up!!...Because the words spelt against the other person ...words of suspect...words that insult the person and family members...all these finally strains and breaks the relationship.

So, please engage in healthy life styles so that the needs from the other person is less and manageable...and you don't land up in loosing your person!!

You have only a body and a mind which only have the needs and wants. Keep both of them safe!!

Cold water baths, eating boiled vegetable food, no oil, no fried stuff, no junk food, yoga, meditation, engage in studies or any other activity which requires lots of professional thinking...like this there are many!!

All the best!!

Peacefully  yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Sir, you oldies have enjoyed the life and telling us youngsters…Control…Control…Control…Is it fair?

Dear all…THIS IS FOR STUDENTS….

One question….One answer…

Qn. Sir, you oldies have enjoyed the life and telling us  youngsters…Control…Control…Control…Is it fair?

Ans: As population increases, resources will only become scarce, we will have to pay for everything in a capitalist economy, and the prices will only go up. So, cost of living every single day on this earth will only become dearer day by day. So, no one can live the way our parents or grandparents have lived. Every boy has to earn for him and his family by 20 years of age. With the financial burden increasing due to high prices and costly education of children, every boy will marry only a working girl, and so, girls also have to get their job to get married in a marriage centric culture here. Therefore, one cannot depend on parental or ancestral property income for day to day living. Society respects only those who earn their living by themselves through decent and respectable job. Girls also marry such boys only. One cannot live away from society if he is dependent on others’ income for him and his family. We get feeling of acceptance, the very basic need for good mental health, from people around us…i.e family, relatives and society.  In the absence of feeling of acceptance, we will get only feeling of rejection leading to depression, addictive behaviours, personality disorders and other such mental health issues. You should feel ashamed if you cannot make yourself employable after 20 years of education!!...Therefore, you have to get a job when you finish your college study at 20 or 21.

            As population increases, competition will only increase for everything. So, one needs to be competitive in schools, colleges and in jobs. So, you need more time to study and improve the employability skills, to be different and one-up than others. If you spend your precious time running behind pleasures then how can you study well and get a job to earn your living?...film heroes earn crores to run behind females in movies!!...Do you get?

            All the achievers on earth have handled their body needs in a way they can find more time for knowledge and skill development and kept their body and mind stress free to focus on their goals. All those who spent their school and college time on pleasures, and did not improve their employability have been suffering for entire life.  Look at the lives of who fell in love, got married and produced children before becoming employable, especially those without parental support for money. Money is not everything but it is almost everything. If you have to become winner, you have to first win your body!

            Animals can live with multiple partners because they don’t have mind and so the element of peace is not there. We have mind, a complex mind, which needs to be peaceful for good mental health. It can’t be peaceful with multiple partners due to its possessiveness. It becomes weak with multiple partners. So, emotional weakness leads to cascading troubles in life. So, all such people will have no peace and their body will get diseases due to unhealthy life style and mental disorders due to unnatural living, because humans have sixth sense, unlike animals, which they are supposed to use to surmount all these issues of their body and mind.

            Control means resisting after creating the arousal, urges and cravings for solids, liquids, gases and other body needs. This is a stressful situation. So, regulating the body desires through healthy life style is the solution.

            If you want to be an achiever and a global student, employee or researcher then you can’t be slave of your body, and have to win over your body and its pleasure needs to win in life!

            Your parents, your teachers and the prospective family girls, all expect the same from you…You need to be employable and get a job when you leave the college!!

            So, choice is yours!!...You want to live like a human being with chest up and chin up for entire life or die every moment with shame by being dependent on others!!

            You decide!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR STUDENTS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR STUDENTS...

     The major effect of the COVID-19 will be economy. The global economy and the Indian economy will get affected considerably. The demand in the job market will get affected. Also, organisations will rethink about the number of employees at various levels and might reduce the numbers. Therefore, we need to be proactive and do the following:-

  (a) If we are already employed, then we need to work dedicated to a level that the organisation feels we are the most important resource and cannot be removed. Change of job at this juncture is too risky. It takes considerable time for the economy to stabilise when it gets affected globally.

  (b) If we are still studying at the beginning or middle of a course, then we need to pull up, focus and do hard work on acquiring the knowledge, employability skills and higher competency levels in these, to a level that we are different, we are able to outperform others in the interview and the organisation feels we are the best and to be recruited without any choice or doubt. Added qualifications with generic courses or specific knowedge or skill sets relatated courses, global certifications, foreign language skills, patents, paper publications in peer reviewed journals, projects, internships, experience in generic jobs or specifica skills sets etc will help you to get identified differently in a crowd and make your job prospects better.

   (c) If we are in the final year, then we have one more year during which time you have to do the above quickly.

   (d) Those who have already passed out this month and not got job need to do the above quickly or else look at higher education option to avoid waste of time.

   (e) Decide corporate or govt or public sector...if higher studies, then course, subject, whether India or abroad etc.... much earlier and prepare well. The demand for people in all markets will get affected because of COVID-19. So, we need to be proactive.

  (f) Follow a multi-pronged approach so that you do not fall down and get some job or course or occupation to meet your means and ends and don't sit idle at home. If you are a boy it is all the more important in our culture to get employed somewhere, as boys are supposed to work and not sit at home, and whereas, girls can easily bail out and get engaged and remain engaged in life through marriage, family etc during such hard times and look at career later after a gap. Of course, girls who have career as their priority will surely shine and get their dream job.

  (g) If you have restrictions, please consider throwing them away. Keep an open policy of anywhere, any-job etc so that you don't curtail your oppurtunities. Or accordingly become too strong in employability in the industry or sector you are looking at.

  (h) Most of the jobs have the requirement of certain common knowledge and skill sets. Each job will need certain specific knowledge and skill sets too. So, we need to prepare accordingly.

   (i) Outstanding written and oral English communications skills is the basic to be employable and it comes by speaking and writing more in a day with the person with whom you communicate more in a day!...Use your love and lover effectively for acquiring this skill...at least some use will be there in life out of this relationship to feel thankful at the end!!

In short, just wake-up and jump out before you fall down!!

peacefully yours.....Rams!!

"What you need is Love!"

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY STUDENTS...I happened to read a  status share in whatsapp saying,

"What you need is Love!"

I feel, it should be "What you need to have in you is Love!" or "What you need to be is Love"

This only means 'Be a resource of unconditional love!'. But be a source of unconditional love only to those who are also resources of unconditional love. Not to parasites, obsession cases and other personality disorder cases who are conditional, demanding, controlling, suspecting and inhuman. There are far too many in the society today, married and unmarried, husbands and lovers, who are excellent bosses, or peers or subordinates or friends or whatever relationship they can strike with, but when it comes to emotional relationship or life long bonding, i find they are only conditional which can lead to loss of peace and other domains of health. So, you land up in a situation of 'going to someone for something, in marriage or out of marriage, and losing everything in the process...mental, physical and social well-being, job, self respect, self confidence, social status and finally life on earth!!'.

Also, i find many trying to attract others through 'physical appearance' which does not last long. In fact, it can be lost in just few days or in a moment also. Also, people only develop crush for physical appearance that crush does not last long and can not lead to peaceful and life long committed relationships. Try to attract by your personality traits, human qualities, by being what you are and who you are, which will remain for life and attract people for life long and committed relationships. A human being can fall for a crush or live without a crush, but can't live without the motherly love from another human being or living organisms. Reality is better than perceived or fantasies in this case.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

'Sir, i keep reading humans are bad. Animals and plants are best. What is the truth sir?'

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Qn: 'Sir, i keep reading humans are bad. Animals and plants are best. What is the truth sir?'

Ans: Nature's creation of Humanbeing is the holiest and beautiful creation beyond doubts. Sixthsense is the fantastic creation and the best of the evolutions so far. So, when we refer to Humanbeing, we truly refer to the 'VISUAL FORM OF SIXTH SENSE'!!...The visual form of god on earth!!

It comes to use only when the remaining five senses do their positive true job of supporting the sixth sense. But when these five senses support the devil and greed needs of pleasures of the body, and not the genuine survival needs of the body, then sixth sense gets burried, and we become real devils. This form of humanbeing only is bad. This only makes him to commit those acts which are visualised as crimes. There are many crimes which go unnoticed and not covered under the legal ambit. When the five senses truly do the human act, then sixth sense surfaces, and when sixth sense rules, there is no way that he can commit anything bad. He becomes the best creation on earth, the human form of god on earth. 

Animals do not have greed in pleasures. They only have the survival need. So, they are next best moving creations. The ultimate non moving creation is the plant life. 

So, therefore, all the creations on earth are divine in true sense. 

Solids, gases and liquids which go inside the body mostly decides the needs of the body. So, if these are kept right then mostly body is disease free. By practicing healthy positive life style in all other domains too, we can keep the body out of the devil needs. By following true, healthy, positive mental constructs regarding life and living, we can keep the thoughts, emotions and resultant behaviours on track. If these are done, then we can dwell in the sixth sense for more times in our lives. When we dwell in sixth sense, then we become the real humanbeing and god on earth during those moments. 

So, the crux is.....

1. Human beings are the best ever creations on earth. Sixthsense is the ultimate form of evolution so far. 

2. We need to keep the body right with proper life style to keep the remaining five senses support the sixth sense, and not the devil needs of the body.

3. Animals and plants are the next best creations and all the creations on earth are divine.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

"Do animals and other living beings pray God like what all we ask and beg!! Not at all!!"

Dear all...i keep receiving many positive and negative criticisms, lots of questions, lots of value additions from  many...

When people agree to what is written, then they appreciate us. When it does not match with their beliefs, faiths or life experiences or learnt lessons they negatively criticize. It only shows that they need to evolve more to come out of their mental constructs and making judgements out of those. And we also need to be with open mind to accept anything as input, suggestion, opinion for the study of human behaviour. After all, every human being is different, environs like climate and culture are different, life challenges faced by them and the lessons learnt are different...that is why they are unique and everyone needs to be analysed differently.

An interesting observation from a reader regarding the y'day's Story of a Peepal Tree is below...

"Yes sir. We are smaller/lesser than any other living being around. Only waste living being created by God is we Humans!!...We are created to disturb others' peace!!

Organs and other parts of humanbody can help other human lives. Not any other living being on earth lives for it's own well-being. Only by our death, we can let other living beings on earth to live and that too when are buried. By burning the bodies, we only pollute.

The life or the body parts of other living beings can be used in medicines and their body can be used by other animals to eat and survive.

So we humans are filthiest, dirtiest, nasty, useless and fit for nothing living creatures in this world created by so called GOD. GOD's success story is in creation of other living creatures and GOD's other side is a failure, that is We!!

Do animals and other living beings pray God like what all we ask and beg!! Not at all!!

They love, live and die!! We don’t love, don’t live, don't let other humans and other living organisms live, and finally die useless to anyone!!

Whatever we do, even other living beings can do, what is that one difference which other living beings can’t do is walk on two legs and use our hands that's all!!

So marriage,  education, sex, babies, achievements and awards and money... all these we created to bring in difference between we humans in what we have and do!!

Live untill we die. That's all. In this gap we destroy and disturb the peace of other living beings and life around us!!'




Yes. I agree with the above. So, there is a need to redefine the life we live so that our single oppurtunity to live here is not wasted and becomes meaningful. All the trillions and trillions of organisms on this earth do not have religions, way of life, way of living, gods, prayers, languages and all the human created mess. They just live WITH NATURE. We have evolved from them. This body is similar to theirs with respect to needs and wants. But the mind this body creates to satiate it's needs is the devil which makes him to do all that described above. So, the need is to focus on the body to keep it calm, cool and divine. It is better not to use name of any religion or existing scriptures like Vedhas etc as debates and arguments start then!!...Body is the animal part and sixth sense of the mind is the human part. But the body devil hardly allows the brain to dwell in the sixth sense part of the mind, but drives the brain to create thoughts, emotions and behaviours of devils for satiation of the needs of the Devil-Body!!...So, define your own life and living to avoid the happening of above and live the life as per your terms. Only question we have to ask to ourselves before we follow our terms of life is 'Will this give me good health to my body, mind, relationships forever and keep the earth livable for eternity?'. If the answer is YES, then you are right to yourself and live your life!!...If useful to others, they will observe and follow with modifications wherever required to suit their environs or habitat.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

'I may be an orphan...but one day i will become a History!!'

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY TO STUDENTS...

Yesterday, during morning walks, i spoke to this road side Peepal Tree plant. It spoke it's heart out...it said

"Thank you sir for sparing few minutes for this abandoned road side orphan plant...that's me!!...My birth may be out of a shit of a bird. Fine. I came out of a tiny seed that was eaten by a crow. I don't know who my mother is. Where my mother is. It is immaterial to me. I germinated on my own. I put my first tender root inside this earth on my own. I searched for wetness. I searched for that one drop of water for my survival as a unborn baby.

Today i am up and outside to breath the air. Face the sunlight. I make my own food. I live on my own. I don't look for any one's help. I don't lean on anyone. I may be a roadside insignificant small plant today. But one day i will become a history here. I will slowly grow my trunk to several feet and metres. I will send thousands of roots to several metres wide and far deep inside the earth. I will create hundreds of branches. I will give shelter to thousand of birds. I will produce millions of seeds and send to all over this country to produce many of my children. Many humans will rest under me. Children will play under me. I will purify millions of tons of air for humans to breath. I will bring rains and rains forever on this earth. I will grow so big, with my roots even from the branches falling on this earth and going deep and deep inside, that no human can ever destroy me.

Even if you uproot me, i will come out in the form of thousands of plants from tons of roots that you can't remove from the earth. I will not cry to anyone for my food. I am not dependent on anyone. I don't have a powerful brain like you. But i have my WILL POWER... PERSEVERENCE... RESILIENCE...SELF CONFIDENCE...POSITIVE SELF CONCEPT...to remain tall and strong. I will not cry and commit suicide like you humans!!...I will not become a parasite, lazy bumb like you all!!

I am thankful to god that i don't have such a powerful brain and mind like you all. I don't have sixth sense. I don't have five senses like other evolved animals. I have only one sense. But i will use it well!!...I will withstand all the weather. No tsunami or storm or tornado can make me fall. All trees nearby can fall on me. I will support them all. I don't need doctors and hospitals. I can look after myself and heal others. I don't need schools and colleges to learn. I will make myself a University for others to learn from my life!! I will look after everyone who comes under my shade.

Yes, today i may be small, abandoned, weak, orphaned, insignificant plant, but i will silently, slowly and steadily grow in a way that no one notices, and one day i will make and become a history!!

Are we anyway less than this Peepal Tree??

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!