the person from whom we need to learn a lot!

hai all...

why all human beings like dogs?...and there is no human being of the past or present or future who did not/do not/ will not like dogs?

because we need not adjust with dogs, they will adapt with any human being!!!!

the most flexible animal on earth!!!!

human being - the most inflexible animal on earth!!!...incomparable with dogs in any way!!...he lives with dogs around, but can never learn good things from them!!...especially the 'unconditional love'!!!

But sadly we keep them and maintain them only for our own selfish motive of 'need for love' not for looking after a dog or for giving a life for a dog.

1. there is no dog which is not liked by any human being 
2. every human being likes dogs some time or the other 
3. every human being has a dog in his life 
4. There is no human being who has not liked a dog in his life. There are many human beings whom we do not like in our life. 
5. dog, the ultimate symbol of love that nature has created for human beings to learn from them about the definition of love!!

one post in net says the following...

10 Things Your Dog Would Tell You..

1. My life is likely to last 10 to 15 years. Any separation from you will be painful: remember that before you get me.

2. Give me time to understand what you want of me.

3. Place your trust in me- it is crucial to my well being.

4. Do not be angry at me for long, and do not lock me up as punishment.

5. You have your work, your entertainment,and your friends. I only have you.

6. Talk to me sometimes. Even if I don’t understands your words, I understand your voice when it is speaking to me.

7. Be aware that how ever you treat me, I will never forget.

8. Remember before you hit me that I have teeth that could easily hurt you, but I choose not to bite you because I love you.

9. Before you scold me for being uncooperative, obstinate, or lazy, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I might not be getting the right food, or I have been out too long, or my heart is getting too old and weak.

10. Take care of me when I get old; you too will grow old. Go with me on difficult journeys. Never say: “I cannot bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence.” Everything is easier for me if you are there, even my death.

so, when are we going to learn from dogs??

rams 

Why the best man of our life becomes worst man after some years?

hai all...as per abraham maslow all human beings have five levels of needs...(of course, there is a sixth one too...which most of the people in the world do not know...self-transcendence!!)...they happen one after the other...after the lower level of needs are met...

Now, in the life of a human being when which level will be met???

It is a question mark!!...for different people different levels will get met at different ages...and we look for all these needs from people, organisations, social systems around. The highest needs are expected from the spouse as there is a body need.

As two people in relationship are bonded by their needs and expectations from each other, and both of them can never always dwell in the same level of need, no one can satisfy other for ever!!

We might like our spouse when the needs are matching and may not like our spouse when the needs are not matching. If we understand this and give the space and reduce our urges then the relationship will remain great on all the threads. Otherwise it will be great only in few threads and not in others.

rams

How to spread a religion or caste or culture or race or language?

hai all...

All around the world, all those who want to spread their religion, or language or caste or culture speak their throat off through all their holes. They don't check out two things....1. whether they live as per their religion etc. 2. whether that life gives happiness, good health and peace.

It is very simple...1.any religion that gives the above will surely survive and spread.
2. any religion that does not give the above basic three things will die on its own, however much people try to keep it alive.

controlling, forcing, scaring are not the positive methods of spreading a religion. It will spread only violence.

any individual should feel freedom of all kinds by following a religion...it should be less of beliefs...more of intellectual thinking, clearing confusions in the mind and following...not blind following...then it will be followed by all...but most of the religions today are suffocating...mostly by the people who force, control, scare and try to spread it.
People will follow only out of fear, externally, not internally, just to save themselves from getting killed.

So, the best way of spreading a religion or language or caste or culture is

1. to make it the one that gives happiness, good physical-mental-social health, peace and self actualisation.

2. live as per that so that when others see you happy, healthy, peaceful and successful then they will automatically follow that. Human beings have inborn modelling behaviour (role modelling) and copying. All these at 1 above are infectious and contagious. These positives spread fast like wild fire without we putting in any effort and consciousness.

These are the most simple and positive ways of spreading. All other methods being followed now are all ballllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllls!!!...they will only kill it and will not spread!!!

 

rams

what is meditation?

hai all...

some bits from my fb postings...

we keep reading and hearing many sayings...who said is never important...what is said is more important...we, the biggest fools, forget the words, never live up to them, but latch on to the person, adore him, make him god, get driven emotionally, start communities and associations on him, reap selfish benefits, does not allow any comparisons and kill each other!!

meditation is not just sitting at one place and focusing the mind...it is all about doing it all the time, throughout the day, throughout the life, morning to evening, while doing all types of chores, activities, jobs....being in the present...enjoying each moment...conceiving entire life as 'an experience of learning!'....

rams 

What is the use of hating?

hai all...

"If you hate someone too much you will have no freedom from them. You will be born with them or they will be born to you. Then you are stuck with them for your lifetime; not only this lifetime but even the next lifetime. So it is better that you make peace and be happy with them so that you get freedom..law of karma will make sure we are bound to people with whom we have strong emotions be it love or hatred...that is why wise people don't hate anyone.we also feel strong attraction to one or two people in this universe...and not with too many people...and that is why it is not true that you can reach peak of intimacy with many people but only with extremely few people!!!!...you meet your soulmate in this life..but then we have a choice either to listen to our inner voice and pursue the relationship or move on...but when we move on, we are never happy in this life'."

rams

What is 'Religion'?

hai all...

1. religion is not for following.
2. religion is not for dressing up or keeping an identity for us.
3. religion is not about gods.
4. religion is not adoring a person.
5. religion is not about being emotionally attached.
6. religion is not for earning the food, water, shelter, women or for other lively hoods.
7. religion is not about fighting.
8. religion is not about comparisons.
9. religion is not about 'only' thinking about it all the time.
10. religion is not about forcing others to follow.
11. religion is not about showing off.
12. religion is not about wearing religious marks on the body.
13. religion is not for making relationships.
14. religion is not the basic of life.
15. we need not belong to any religion to be happy, healthy and successful.
16. religion is not about having a blind mind. 
17. Religion is not about not thinking. 
18. Religion is not about not questioning. 
19. Religion is not about not using the brain. 
20. Religion is not about being rigid, orthodox and unsocial.
21. Religion is not about a 'life full of beliefs' as beliefs change from person to person that is suitable to them.
22. Religion is not about rituals and ceremonials.
23. Religion is not about holy books.

24. religion is for filling up forms.
25. religion is for keeping our parents and others happy.

26. fools follow a known religion.
27. those who follow a known religion are frogs in a well.
28. those who follow a known religion become emotional and possessive.
29. those who follow a known religion therefore discriminate, fight, abuse other religions and dwell in negatives, hates, frustration.

30. Wise people read all religions. Take the best of all. Leave the negatives. Positives are the ones that give us happiness, good mental, physical and social health. Negatives are the remaining all. Suit each of the learning to their profession, environment, think logically, practically, humanly and make their OWN RELIGION. They don't keep it as knowledge or information in their CPU. They install it and they become their religion.
It is a custom made, designer operating system made by and for only us. It can be and should be upgraded and modified time to time with changed environment to be happy, healthy and successful.  

31. Religion is being scientific
32. Religion is about subjecting it to research
33. Religion is about being logical, realistic and practical.
34. Religion is being human
35. Religion is about radiating love and peace
36. Religion is about accepting all human beings as they are and as one
37. Religion is about all positives to living, non living and nature.
38. Religion is life and living without being conscious about it.

rams

About romance...

Hai all...

Romance…hmmm…the most important thing in life to complete the basic purpose. What is romance?...all behaviours that lead to attraction of opposite sexes and reproduction. If there was no romance on earth, then no reproduction. Living organisms would have become extinct. Without romance life is dull. Relationship between husband and wife becomes incomplete. Romance adds taste to the living and without it life is tasteless. It is not possible to imagine or state the ‘romanceless life or living’ without experiencing it personally.

Is there any girl who would like to marry a guy with whom she does not experience romantic feelings?...is there any boy who will marry a girl with whom he does not experience romantic feelings?...the most dreadful words that a husband or wife can hear from their spouse would be ‘I don’t get aroused by seeing you or by being with you!’….’you have lost the romance value!’…every one wants to hear from their spouse ‘You are highly romantic!!’…It gives a feeling of acceptance and when we don’t feel romantic with our spouse then both feel a deep sense of feeling of rejection leading to frustration, longing for the feeling of acceptance in life etc.

One among the subtle problems of old age is loss of romantic value to the other person. They try to compensate it with lots of  love and affection through other behaviours, but it does not match as both are two different entities and needs of life.

Men generally get romantic from the appearance of girls. Girls get romantic by experiencing the personality behaviours of the boys. A least percentage of people / occasions men get romantic by experiencing the behaviours of girls and girls rarely experience romantic only by the appearance of men. If romantic behaviours do not emanate from personality behaviours, then the resultant reproductive behaviour is just only animalistic, lasts only for a short time till the act is done.

So, the crux is…1. It is important for both girls and boys to keep their appearance beautiful / handsome throughout life to retain the romance value through exercises for body and mind, good eating habits, healthy life styles and nurturing relationships…2. Retain the cuteness through behaviours even during middle and old age, as appearance gets lost but behaviours can be permanent….

rams