'How to become thin?...'How to get a 'good' husband?'...How to get a 'good' wife?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR STUDENTS...and PARENTS...

Many students ask me 'How to become thin?...How to become lean?...How to loose weight?' etc.

Some also ask 'How to get a 'good' husband?'...or 'How to get a 'good' wife?'

Ans. For the first question...first of all the question itself is wrong and can lead to loss health...so, never ask such a question. Always think "How can i be healthy?"...Many want to become lean and thin, follow one intervention, lose health, indulge in unsustainable health compromising strategies, land up serious or moderate health issues, give up, get depressed, become more fat, land up with life style diseases, and land up with frustration and learned helplessness.

Instead, if we identify the health compromising life style activities that we are pursuing, modify or change them, think about this appearance issue as a whole, apply multiple and life-long sustainable interventions focusing on overall health, modify the health compromising life style to health enhancing life style activities then we sure to lose weight, glow, radiate, beautiful, attractive, physically and mentally healthy!!

For the second, here again the question itself is wrong!!... All are generally good. It is just that we are not able to get along with others. Definition of 'good' differs from person to person. Only rigid, egoistic, primitive people can't find a good spouse in a human being. If we are flexible, adaptive, accepting people as they are, understand that all of us are different due to so many factors and we keep changing continuously (and therefore no one can be a perfect match for entire life!!), down to earth, willing to accept minor issues of life or individuals, willing to change, then generally we are able to find good spouse in every person. So, be a good human being, your spouse will automatically become a good wife or husband. If not, if has personality disorder issues, then he or she can be easily corrected, made adaptable, with therapies and counselling or with medicines too, if required. Hmmmm.....here again 'good human being' is relative. Every person or relationship is an Andhra Chilli only till everything is known or experienced. After that it becomes yesterday's curd rice!!...Every new person or new relationship is Andhra chilli, spicy, tasty, sweet till we start living with that person or it becomes another curd rice!!...Of course, we can keep changing the flavour of the curd rice, but it is in OUR HANDS!!

We can attract a person in two ways....1. Physical appearance...2. Personality attributes.

First one vanishes in no time, so attraction goes and we can become a curd rice!! But positive personality attributes are divine, belong to happiness domain, like a mother's love, needed for every one for entire life, so beauty remains strong forever!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!