"if we don't marry as per the wishes of parents then we will not get a share in their property. Is it true?...What is your opinion on this?"

Dear all...One question...One answer...

Qn...Sir, there is a whatsapp message which says if we don't marry as per the wishes of parents then we will not get a share in their property. Is it true?...What is your opinion on this?

Ans: There are already enough sensational debates and discussions on TV channels on various issues to keep the viewers addicted at the edge of the sofa. Let us not add more!!

Let us not worry about if it is true or false...whether it is right or wrong...!!...It is truly immaterial!!

Let us look at our own selves. Our life should be good. We should live comfortably and independently with our family of wife and children with all kinds of affordability of education, food, clothing and other basic-needs and comfort-wants. So, we should become employable to earn a decent living for the kind of lifestyle we want to live. We should also become authoritative and powerful, more than the parents, legally, socially and financially. You should take them to your place of work and living to make them realize/understand that you are stronger than them. Then they will 'feel' weak and we are stronger than them. They will probably feel insecure. If they are independent of you for financial and emotional needs then they will feel happy and leave you in your way. If they are dependent on you, then they will feel in their subconscious mind that you are the rich and safest for them. You should be loving and caring to them so that they support you...they are with you...and you get their support for your marriage dreams...and you get their property also!...Their support will be very useful at home when you make the family at an alien place, rear the children, and are busy with your dream profession, passions and goals. So, don't make yourself weak.

Initially if they don't agree for your marriage proposal, don't fight with them. Don't argue with them. Show and make them realize your kind of profession and it's demands from your wife with respect to her age, qualifications, skill sets, appearance, talents, aptitude, potential, personality traits, lifestyle, culture, language skills of the place of working and living. Be full of loving and caring for them. But be firm about whom you will marry. You may consider the factors and suggestions which they tell you. Clarify their apprehensions and fears. Make them understand. If you don't agree with them, then explain them politely at the right time, right place and right social situation. Full-fill all their unaccomplished / unfulfilled dreams and goals and when they are happy, elated and feel good about your gesture and responsibility to them, that is the right time to explain your view points where they are contradicting. They are sure to fall flat, if not same time, certainly later, after munching everything, seeing your firmness, your love and care for them, the genuineness in your point of view and that you are more powerful than them, and if they don't agree, then you will go ahead as per your wish and they can do nothing about it and in totality they will be the losers as they will miss you, who is their strength!! So, some time or the other they will agree to your proposal.

By doing the above, you will make your parents happy, you will deliver the duties as a child to your parents, they will like you and love you, by keeping them with you after changing them you will only become stronger, by fighting with them and leaving them you will only become weaker and lose your trusted strength and support, as no one can be more caring, supporting, reliable and trustworthy than parents at the time of crisis and danger. Don't lose hope, because even the wildest of the animals have been tamed by humans. So, nothing is impossible!!

By keeping them on your stride you are increasing your social strength and also your children will get grandparents!!

So, think positive and take the most successful and trusted weapon of non-violence and love in your hands!!

You are sure to win them and get their property also!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!