Tuesday, 24 November 2020

"sir, i need help. My husband does not do pampering these days (or caressing or fondling or amorous talk or 'konjal)!!

 Dear all...One Question...One Answer...

 

Qn. "Sir, I am 50 years old. My husband used to do lots of Konjals with me during initial days of marriage. That has reduced slowly over a period of time and now he has totally forgotten and does not do it. He only does some official family talks. I want him to be with me the way he was 25 years back!!"

Ans:

"Baby animals are playful, active. Adult animals are romantic and active. Old animals have none of these!!"

Anyone wants to do Konjals with babies and children as they are cute, innocent, always smiling, active, do not know their age, always want to be happy and do not behave for social acceptance.

So, forget your age and social status of mother, mother-in-law and such other bla bla. Don't think about the future. Be mentally free. Do yoga, meditation and other mental and physical exercises. Be energetic, active and effervescent. You can't go back to your appearance 25 years back, but certainly put in efforts and be cute, innocent, playful and romantic. Don't be like an old animal and make him also like the above!... Think young, dress young, talk young, be mentally young, don't be much conscious about socially acceptable behaviours or conscious of society etc.!!

I am sure, he might not be doing konjals, but continues to be a responsible husband and father.

When men age, they will show their love more in behaviours of being responsible, caring and supporting, and emotions that help for exhibiting these behaviours, rather than indulging in or less indulging in behaviours that lead to reproductive acts.

Any relationship that is formed with a motivation of only reproductive needs will weaken/vanish. Relationships sustaining with a motivation of other body needs will remain till the needs are satisfied. A relationship beyond these will remain strong for eternity!!

So, change and change him through your changed thinking, behaviours and emotions!!...Certainly there will be an improvement!!...All the best!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

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