What is required to 'LIVE' on this earth?

Hai all...

Most of us only 'exist' or 'survive'.

Our life is only a struggle for survival every minute! Very few people who have more EQ and SQ only 'live'.

Those who live will have peace, happiness and good memories/fantasies of the past, present and future.

Those who 'exist' or 'survive' will only have sadness, bad memories and restlessness. In case there is a small improvement in their life then they might have limited +ves of the above. 

Those who feel that 'life is a struggle.It is full of unknown threats every day.Every one is a danger!' will only struggle to exist or survive. Those who feel responsibility to the social systems in which they are members and take things easily will live.

This is enough for now.

happily yours...rams

what is the simple thing to be done for a good mental health?

For good mental health....

every day we should speak to some close friend of nearly same age with whom we can take all the liberty and converse informally using words like 'dei, loosu, vetti, yennadaa machhan, yennadi' and such other equivalent intimate words...every one has such friends...school/college mates...but we loose them in the journey of life and land up with organizational, official and social relationships with boundaries, rules and regulations where there is no freedom and intimacy for the mind.

peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!

What to do when a person in our life fights with us and makes our life miserable?

Hai all...

All of us have many people in our life. We keep fighting with them. They become head ache too many times. We feel like ending the relationship too. Some times we don't know what to do. No point in trying to change others after some attempts.

We have to just ask ourselves 'Do i need that person in my life forever or not?'

If the answer is 'No', just peel off quietly leaving some room to join back in case there is a change in that person or in our decision. All human beings make decision errors. All human beings change continuously during their life cycle. We have to check whether we have the patience. In relationships, strategies and planning will only bring failures. Love and patience only will bring success.

If the answer is 'yes' then it is better to change ourselves and adapt to that person. We can adjust and place ourselves in the ok state within the discomfort.

We will get 'yes' answer with only those whom we like beyond our needs and wants from that person.
If the other person is exploiting your obsession then it is better to contact a counselor or psychiatrist who will take you out of the obsession and set you free.

If the other person is in obsessive love or addictive love then it is not love. Better peel off. They have to be treated. You can't be happy and peaceful in that relationship. If you feel you are in obsession then it is better to change ourselves or take help and change. Obsession is not love when it affects our and others' health, happiness, peace, daily chores and success in life.

peacefully yours....rams...psychologist.

why we need to be in the present moment always?

Hai all...i read this today....
"the reason we need to be in the present moment is this:
there is intelligence that permeates everywhere and everything.That means there is amazing intelligence even around us all the time. when we relax all the cells in our bodies and ourselves, we get access to this amazing intelligence. so we can soak in this amazing intelligence when we are totally relaxed inside and be in the present"

rams

For all those who feel 'I' and 'Me'!!

Hai all...

egoistic people can not love anyone and can never get loved by any one!

And it is impossible to live with good physical-mental-social health without loving some one or being loved by some one!

rams-psychologist

We should not live like human beings on earth!!!!

hai all...

We should not live like human beings!!

Then we will be sad, suffer, no peace, get diseases and die!!

Because basis of life here is...'Life is full of sorrows. Life is a struggle. Every one is a cheat & threat & suspicious. We have to be alert. So, life is full of anxiety, sorrows, fights, sadness, fear. Any number of gods, holy books, god men are not able to keep human beings peaceful, happy & healthy.

Instead, start living like god!!

i.e thinking "Life is fun. Life is to live happily & peacefully. Every one is good. All are helpful. Accept life as it is. Don't resist destiny. Destiny is always good and +ve. We only perceive -ve & fear. We are part of nature & remain in some form always. If we live like this we will be peaceful, happy, radiate health, peace & happiness to all. Gods, god men, holy books are not necessary!!! We will become noble, guru, rishi & god!!

rams

How to handle troublesome relationships???

Hai all...

All of us have many people in our life. We keep fighting with them. They become head ache too many times. We feel like ending the relationship too. Some times we don't know what to do. No point in trying to change others after some attempts.


We have to just ask ourselves 'Do i need that person in my life forever or not?'

If the answer is 'No', just peel off quietly leaving some room to join back in case there is a change in that person or in our decision. All human beings make decision errors. All human beings change continuously during their life cycle. We have to check whether we have the patience. In relationships, strategies and planning will only bring failures. Love and patience only will bring success.

If the answer is 'yes' then it is better to change ourselves and adapt to that person. We can adjust and place ourselves in the ok state within the discomfort.

We will get 'yes' answer with only those whom we like beyond our needs and wants from that person.
If the other person is exploiting your obsession then it is better to contact a counselor or psychiatrist who will take you out of the obsession and set you free.

If the other person is in obsessive love or addictive love then it is not love. Better peel off. They have to be treated. You can't be happy and peaceful in that relationship. If you feel you are in obsession then it is better to change ourselves or take help and change. Obsession is not love when it affects our and others' health, happiness, peace, daily chores and success in life.

peacefully yours....rams...psychologist.