Kaliyug does not teach us to be smart...only the rotten culture teaches us this...but kaliyug really teaches us to be ethical, humane and follow value systems...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL WHO FEEL KALIYUG IS GOING TO DESTROY THE WORLD...

It is only setting the stage...pushing the human beings to the brink of extinction...to make them realise the value of certain life philosophies...

1. All those who use chanakya and Sakuni negative strategies to become smart and win in life...can only 'feel' that they have won in a particular issue or case...in making wealth, money, power, authority, fame, fear-value, social status, identity, image, promotions....but very shortly they will realise that they miserably failed in overall life. The winner in life will always be who is ethical...who follows good human value systems...who pursues positives in life...without disturbing the peace, happiness and good health of others...who does not do things which will destroy the world...earth...spoil others...make others addicted to pleasures etc.

In olden days this realization came late in life...now and in future, at the nearing of kaliyug, it will come sooner to the all those negative people and they will realise that they landed up in irrepairable damage to their only one precious life!!

So, it is better to be ethical, follow human values of life and positive life principles...away from the negative culture going around everywhere!!...It might appear momentarily that god or karma cheated them, but if they think deeply they will discover that god and karma always stood by them for a larger scale success in life!!

God will stand by only these people...Karma will stand by only these people!!

All negative strategists will land up in soup!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL WHO FEEL KALIYUG IS DESTROYING THE PEACE, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL WHO FEEL KALIYUG IS DESTROYING THE PEACE, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS!!

Books and people say that presently it is kaliyug and therefore peace and health is all ruined.

I feel other way!! I think the stage is perfectly set for people to become human beings...good human beings...closer to god!!

The reasons are below:-

(i) Today every one's interest is HOW TO MAKE THE PEOPLE TO GET ADDICTED...to their foods...to their restaurants...to their clubs and pubs...to their shops...to their products...to their treatments...to their services...to their news channels...to their tv programmes...to their movies...So, every one studies psychology to find out HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE ADDICTED?...They are not bothered about the consequences of environment, health and peace of people, good life for people...THEY WANT TO MAKE PEOPLE ADDICTED TO PLEASURE ELEMENTS...so that they can never remain in peace, health and happiness...so that their products and service business can flourish!!...IF PEOPLE ARE PEACEFUL, HAPPY, HEALTHY, CONTENTED, FULFILLED...THEN WHO WILL BUY PRODUCTS AND SERVICES?? (no TV required, no movies, no restaurants, no shopping malls...nothhhhing is required!!

To sell, they use various strategies...

1. They attach social status to their products and services...knowing that indians want to boast of themselves much more than what they are in reality. e.g branded products, expensive items and services. They know that indians want to gain attention, image, identity, social status, ego satisfaction on WHAT THEY POSSESS PHYSICALLY...THROUGH WEALTH, POWER, AUTHORITY, FEAR VALUE and not through HOW GOOD A HUMAN BEING THEY ARE...WHO THEY ARE BY PERSONALITY TRAITS...ETC.

2. They attach god to their products and services...’good man’ image to people and organisations...so that people will believe them.

Less sleep due to addictions (tv, mobile, internet etc), more dissatisfaction due to away from reality, less work outs, more stress on job, anxiety in all domains of life, unhealthy cooked food with oil, frying etc, dangerous soft drinks, preservatives, old stored food, junk food..cancer...ulcers...diabetes...high BP...psychological issues...social issues...sadness...frustration...anger...endless list!!

So, to live peacefully, happily and healthily people have no other way other than TO LIVE AS PER NATURE...

1. Buy or grow natural fresh foods which are not genetically modified and grown without chemicals...not packed or tinned or frozen...cook them in sand pots in a healthy way...without frying and packeted masalas...

2. Concentrate on group games on grounds with lots of physical activity like running, positive laughs, sweat etc for stress bursting and entertainment rather than TV or films or other addictive sources.

3. Don’t get addicted to anything.

4. Buy products and services that are health enhancing, and not health compromising!

5. Moment we boycott health compromising food, entertainment and other stuff, they will die their natural death.

SO, IN REALITY, KALIYUGA IS FORCING US TO GO TO HEALTH ENHANCING LIFE STYLE, LIFE PHILOSOPHIES ON VARIOUS ISSUES...AS WE ARE AT THE BRINK OF DANGER AND DEATH...AS PER EVOLUTION, ALL ORGANISMS WILL BECOME EXTINCT ONE DAY...HUMAN BEINGS ARE NOT AN EXCEPTION...BUT WE CAN DELAY IT THROUGH TRANSFORMING KALIYUG TO A HEAVENLY YUG...IT IS NOT IN THE HANDS OF OTHERS...IT IS IN OUR OWN HANDS...LET US NOT BLAME OTHERS AND THINGS HAPPENING AROUND!!

more issues requiring change in family, marriages, education, relationships, etc later...

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Learning to fail is also important in life!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PRESENT AND FUTURE PARENTS...

In this competitive world, we have in-grilled in the minds of children that THEY ARE BORN TO WIN IN EVERYTHING...THEY CAN NOT FAIL...whether it is education, or games or any competitions anywhere...!!

End result is they become adamant that they have to win!!...And when they face the first failure...they totally break...as they don't have the strength to face the failure!!

IS THERE ANY ONE ON EARTH WHO HAS NOT FACED FAILURE AT LEAST ONCE AND IN ONE DOMAIN OF LIFE AND LIVING??

So, failure is as normal as success...equal probability in the present and future uncertainties in all domains...

So, there is an urgent need to make the children to face small failures too which does not cost much in life, so that they are able to cope up, know the value of health, happiness, peace, life, people and relationships more than money, wealth, winning in competitions...!!

If this is not taught, then they collapse miserably when they face their first failure in life!!

If it happens to be in love...or marriage then the damages faced or perceived by them is grave!!....They are unable to accept this failure...so they are adamant and animal like here too saying 'I will win by any means here also!!' and land up in doing all things which can not give them peace!!

SO, LET US LEARN TO FACE FAILURES ALSO...WITHOUT MUCH OF LOSS AND DAMAGE!!

LET US TEACH THIS TO OUR CHILDREN TOO!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL LOVERS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL LOVERS...

Every one says Love is God...Love is Blind...Love is Divine...and all such things!!

Every one says their love is the best...Godly...Divine...ultimate...no one can experience such a love...springing from the soul...incomparable...never ever can happen to anyone...eternal...beyond words...beyond worldly experience...no psychologist or psychiatrist can understand...in fact all these guys are idiots...my love is beyond science and research...the list is endless!!

These are the descriptions of all who experienced love!!

Truly, is love bad?...Is love a disease?...Is love a disorder?...Should we love?...Why people suffer in love?...Why love creates all negatives like sadness, anger, frustration, hate, break-up, divorce, rape, murder, crimes etc?

Love is a must for mental peace!...It is the back bone of life!...But love has no lust!!...Mostly what we perceive or our films portray or what our culture says as love is truly lust!!

It becomes a disease or disorder or reaches a state requiring therapy or treatment when it becomes excessive...becomes an addiction...becomes an obsession...and it does not allow all the people concerned to live in peace, happiness, health, freedom, success, pursuing their passion, dream, goals, aims etc.

ANYTHING TOO MUCH IS BAD!!...WHETHER GOOD OR BAD!!...IS IT NOT??

So, when love becomes too much, it disturbs the life and day to day living...performing our basic chores...discharging duties and responsibilities...at home, office and society.

Some confuse lust to be love. The thoughts...the feelings...the behaviours that emanate out of lust is thought of by both the individuals as love!!

Lust is related to pleasure domain...it revolves around body needs...it has all the negatives like sadness, fights, demands, controls, needs, wants, orders, master-slave, expectations, possessiveness, rapes, acid-attacks, murders, crimes, break-ups, divorce etc. Lust wants to own the person...cage that person...curtails the freedom...does not allow the other person to pursue their hobbies...interests...aims...goals...etc...feels he or she has full control of the other person...wants to master that person to keep as slave...it does not hesitate to go to any extent of damaging self or the other person to satiate the lust feeling...it is not bothered about shame, image, legal issues, after effects, social consequences etc...it blinds a person...even little amounts of lust blinds...(Love in the correct quantity is not blind...it does not blind a person...only excessive love leads to possessiveness for securities of all personal gains, blinds the person...including the motherly love!!)...it is a big list of negatives about lust...woffffffffffff!!!

Can lust be overcome?...As long as the gynaec system is active and functional, one can not!!...But by reducing the activeness of this system we can reduce the lust, urges and cravings...and its negative effects on our life, relationships and health!!

Love is related to the HAPPINESS or ANANDHA...domain...it has only positive thoughts...positive feelings...positive behaviours....highest state of adaptability to each other...no demands...no expectations...no controls...no master-slave, both equal...only giving...no wanting...only feeling that 'how i can support you to be peaceful, happy, healthy, free'...it never fades...never fails...no hates or anger or anxiety or frustration...once loved is forever loved...no divorce...no break-up, no sadness, no fights...no crying out of need dissatisfaction...no crimes...no thoughts of damaging the other person...no thoughts about curtailing the freedom in all domains...in fact Love professes the concept of 'no one needs to give freedom to the other person...every one is free...no one owns anyone...no one buys anyone...no one can buy anyone...people are not commodities...relationships are not services...paid services in emotional or life or living-business'...love is that connects (not binds) two people in a total free space of experiencing the world or earth or life...

Love can be unconditional like that of a mother or father. It could be involving conditional and unconditional elements and circumstances like that of siblings. There are several loves like this experienced by different people.

Excessive love is also dangerous, painful, disturbing, and brings in possessiveness and almost all the negative issues related to lust!!

It could also involve the element of lust, like in the case of spouse relationships. Lust is the element that brings in all sorrows and negatives in married life. Lust creates cravings and urges. Love creates longing (e.g mother longs for the daughter...husband urges or craves for his wife...he can also long for...it depends what is more...lust or love!!)...Every one has both lust and love in married life...the percentage of love and lust varies...if lust is more, then they suffer more...if love is more then they enjoy their life and relationship more...If only people can win over this lust, reduce lust, reduces their urges and cravings, pitch their love relationship beyond body in several other domains of interest....like art...forms...travels...knowledge...wisdom...skills...etc...

Anything when it becomes too much is a disease or disorder...whether it is lust or love...how much of love is more or how much is less?...it depends upon how much the other person can accommodate...give...their comfort zone and limits or boundaries...it is better not to expect or demand or want or need anything from the other person, so that, everything that one gets is perceived as abundance!!...When our expectations or needs or wants are too much then any amount by the other person is only less for us!!

So, the crux is...

1. relieve your mind from body by keeping the lust levels very low...by eating and pursuing healthy food and life style filled with more of reading, playing group fun games involving physical activities of running, jumping, positive laughing etc that make us to sweat, pursuing art forms, exercises, more attachment to nature, listening to songs, watching positive programmes, knowledge and skill enhancement programmes...goal based, achievements based...passion based...life...of course, without comparisons and anxiety which are stress sources...LIFE IS AN ENTERTAINMENT...PASSIONS AND GOALS ARE FUN...!!

2. Pursue love or lust which you and the other person can chew...enjoy and not suffer...ANY THING IN EXCESS IS A POISON!!

3. Reduce dependence on other human beings for anything on earth!!..Total avoidance is not possible and not healthy!!

THERE ARE 1500+ POSTS ON THIS SUBJECT IN THE BLOG...FUNNYRAMS...DWELLING EACH AND EVERY MICROSCOPIC ASPECT OF LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS!!

Peacefully yours...rams....psychologist!!

What is the solution for those who want to commit suicide during night hours?

Hai all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

I have not been able to understand one thing...How can be a person in life saving service (let me not use the word PROFESSION or JOB....as these words have a connotation of earning money for the service...paid-service...so, they are likely to be looking at their wrist watches all the time for the next patient and they may not be available for 24 hours service!) say that the person will attend to a patient or a person with difficulty in living (people suffering from psychological disorders or discomforts or illnesses...or finding social issues in normal peaceful day-to-day living!!) only on stipulated clinic timings?

Of course, in hospitals doctors and nurses are made available for 24 hours service on payment!!

But in the case of patients with non-clinical psychological issues...i.e people with normal day-to-day living issues which sometimes can push a person to loneliness, decisions to end the life, severe depression etc momentarily during the silent sleeping hours...when they are at their homes...may be alone...then what happens?...Can a psychologist say ‘only during clinic hours!’...how many psychologists lift their phone or make them selves available to attend to such cases, even if they are paid?

Psychiatrists can not prescribe medicine over phone as psychiatric medicines are not given by pharmacies without doctor’s prescription. So, they have to physically attend to the patient, write the prescription and handover to the patient!!

So, what is the solution?

Psychologists should render counselling as a free service!!

But they also have to or want to live in their own house, buy mansions and villas...have to live their posh lavish rich life in comparison with others...other doctors!!...So, they can argue ‘I have saved your life!..So, why not you pay me commensurately like you pay other doctors!!’

Who is best?...A person ready to give free 24X7X365 service or a person ready to give the same service on payment or ‘can provide service only during day time, clinic hours’??...All these three can be argued favourably or unfavourably!!...You decide who is the best!!..Of course, money minded counsellors expect the patient to come often, repeatedly, so that their financial income is assured!!

One solution to such cases who need psychological counselling during silent hours or on highly private issues which they don’t want to share with any one...is VIRTUAL COUNSELLING!!...For this a team of psychologists and computer science students capable of generating software packages should work together. They should think about all possible questions, all possible answers, all possible eventualities etc and accordingly develop this software so that any one who has serious life threatening psychological issues can resort to VIRTUAL COUNSELLING!!...It would be a great service to the humanity!!....Any one interested in doing this??

This is the urgent need of the hour and in future!!

So, the crux is...

1. Ideal best Psychological counselling is a 24X7X365 free service by dedicated people who are really interested in saving life of people.

2. I only hope more people come up for 24X7X365 counselling service at least on payment basis.

3. I only hope the dedication for service and humanity increases rather than dedication for paid service.

4. I wish more people take up this service...more people take up education in this field...not for making money and wealth, but for real service for people and humanity!!

5. I also wish that people respect those who provide free service, and do not suspect such service providers.

Peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!

What is to be learnt in life during childhood first to keep our entire life THE BEST, WITH ONLY SUCCESS!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

All relationships and life events happen in our life for our spiritual development!!

i.e to learn about meaning and purpose of life so that we become more matured, evolved, grown, adaptable, calm, cool, balanced, stable and able to take right decisions that is good for all, know the value of people and relationships...what to do and what not to do...how to empower ourselves and others with peace, good health, happiness, contentment and fulfillment...etc etc...i.e to think, feel and do all positives in life!!

If we have not learnt all the above at the early stage in life, not taught all the above and how to handle things, people and relationships in a matured way... then we suffer during the spiritual development processes that occur in our life...through life events and relationships...and either learn and change for betterment...or suffer and die of loneliness, diseases, disorders and ailments.

So, first all parents should learn the above.

Then teach their children all the above during the age of 3 to 10 years. So that the children are independently able to think and take decisions...know the meaning and purpose of life...the value of people and relationships...and do not suffer.

One who learns all the above will become a gnaani...or gyani...and also will be able to do well in all domains of life...professional life...personal life...family life...social life...etc.

Peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!

How to get Respect, love and affection, care and support, a feeling of acceptance??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Respect, love and affection, care and support, a feeling of acceptance of the person comes...

1. in an organisation.....only when you show commensurate productivity

2. at home....only when you are a responsible member of family

3. in society...only when you are a good human being

4. in a relationship...only by being unconditional and devotional

otherwise there is no point in crying that we are not getting respect or love affection or care and support or a feeling of acceptance...

peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!