THIS IS FOR ALL LOVERS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL LOVERS...

Every one says Love is God...Love is Blind...Love is Divine...and all such things!!

Every one says their love is the best...Godly...Divine...ultimate...no one can experience such a love...springing from the soul...incomparable...never ever can happen to anyone...eternal...beyond words...beyond worldly experience...no psychologist or psychiatrist can understand...in fact all these guys are idiots...my love is beyond science and research...the list is endless!!

These are the descriptions of all who experienced love!!

Truly, is love bad?...Is love a disease?...Is love a disorder?...Should we love?...Why people suffer in love?...Why love creates all negatives like sadness, anger, frustration, hate, break-up, divorce, rape, murder, crimes etc?

Love is a must for mental peace!...It is the back bone of life!...But love has no lust!!...Mostly what we perceive or our films portray or what our culture says as love is truly lust!!

It becomes a disease or disorder or reaches a state requiring therapy or treatment when it becomes excessive...becomes an addiction...becomes an obsession...and it does not allow all the people concerned to live in peace, happiness, health, freedom, success, pursuing their passion, dream, goals, aims etc.

ANYTHING TOO MUCH IS BAD!!...WHETHER GOOD OR BAD!!...IS IT NOT??

So, when love becomes too much, it disturbs the life and day to day living...performing our basic chores...discharging duties and responsibilities...at home, office and society.

Some confuse lust to be love. The thoughts...the feelings...the behaviours that emanate out of lust is thought of by both the individuals as love!!

Lust is related to pleasure domain...it revolves around body needs...it has all the negatives like sadness, fights, demands, controls, needs, wants, orders, master-slave, expectations, possessiveness, rapes, acid-attacks, murders, crimes, break-ups, divorce etc. Lust wants to own the person...cage that person...curtails the freedom...does not allow the other person to pursue their hobbies...interests...aims...goals...etc...feels he or she has full control of the other person...wants to master that person to keep as slave...it does not hesitate to go to any extent of damaging self or the other person to satiate the lust feeling...it is not bothered about shame, image, legal issues, after effects, social consequences etc...it blinds a person...even little amounts of lust blinds...(Love in the correct quantity is not blind...it does not blind a person...only excessive love leads to possessiveness for securities of all personal gains, blinds the person...including the motherly love!!)...it is a big list of negatives about lust...woffffffffffff!!!

Can lust be overcome?...As long as the gynaec system is active and functional, one can not!!...But by reducing the activeness of this system we can reduce the lust, urges and cravings...and its negative effects on our life, relationships and health!!

Love is related to the HAPPINESS or ANANDHA...domain...it has only positive thoughts...positive feelings...positive behaviours....highest state of adaptability to each other...no demands...no expectations...no controls...no master-slave, both equal...only giving...no wanting...only feeling that 'how i can support you to be peaceful, happy, healthy, free'...it never fades...never fails...no hates or anger or anxiety or frustration...once loved is forever loved...no divorce...no break-up, no sadness, no fights...no crying out of need dissatisfaction...no crimes...no thoughts of damaging the other person...no thoughts about curtailing the freedom in all domains...in fact Love professes the concept of 'no one needs to give freedom to the other person...every one is free...no one owns anyone...no one buys anyone...no one can buy anyone...people are not commodities...relationships are not services...paid services in emotional or life or living-business'...love is that connects (not binds) two people in a total free space of experiencing the world or earth or life...

Love can be unconditional like that of a mother or father. It could be involving conditional and unconditional elements and circumstances like that of siblings. There are several loves like this experienced by different people.

Excessive love is also dangerous, painful, disturbing, and brings in possessiveness and almost all the negative issues related to lust!!

It could also involve the element of lust, like in the case of spouse relationships. Lust is the element that brings in all sorrows and negatives in married life. Lust creates cravings and urges. Love creates longing (e.g mother longs for the daughter...husband urges or craves for his wife...he can also long for...it depends what is more...lust or love!!)...Every one has both lust and love in married life...the percentage of love and lust varies...if lust is more, then they suffer more...if love is more then they enjoy their life and relationship more...If only people can win over this lust, reduce lust, reduces their urges and cravings, pitch their love relationship beyond body in several other domains of interest....like art...forms...travels...knowledge...wisdom...skills...etc...

Anything when it becomes too much is a disease or disorder...whether it is lust or love...how much of love is more or how much is less?...it depends upon how much the other person can accommodate...give...their comfort zone and limits or boundaries...it is better not to expect or demand or want or need anything from the other person, so that, everything that one gets is perceived as abundance!!...When our expectations or needs or wants are too much then any amount by the other person is only less for us!!

So, the crux is...

1. relieve your mind from body by keeping the lust levels very low...by eating and pursuing healthy food and life style filled with more of reading, playing group fun games involving physical activities of running, jumping, positive laughing etc that make us to sweat, pursuing art forms, exercises, more attachment to nature, listening to songs, watching positive programmes, knowledge and skill enhancement programmes...goal based, achievements based...passion based...life...of course, without comparisons and anxiety which are stress sources...LIFE IS AN ENTERTAINMENT...PASSIONS AND GOALS ARE FUN...!!

2. Pursue love or lust which you and the other person can chew...enjoy and not suffer...ANY THING IN EXCESS IS A POISON!!

3. Reduce dependence on other human beings for anything on earth!!..Total avoidance is not possible and not healthy!!

THERE ARE 1500+ POSTS ON THIS SUBJECT IN THE BLOG...FUNNYRAMS...DWELLING EACH AND EVERY MICROSCOPIC ASPECT OF LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS!!

Peacefully yours...rams....psychologist!!