THIS IS FOR ALL CHILDREN WHO LOVE THEIR MOTHER AND CELEBRATE MOTHERS' DAY!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL CHILDREN WHO LOVE THEIR MOTHER AND CELEBRATE MOTHERS' DAY!!

So....you love your mother, right?

Ok...then...relieve her today from the drudgery of cooking, washing the clothes, cleaning the floor, bath room, toilets and surroundings, cleaning the utensils and house keeping!!...She has been doing all these for decades and really really tired!!...Let her take rest today!!

So, you share her burden today, let her take rest and make her feel good that her children can live on their own, do things on their own, they are responsible, they can take care of the home in her absence, they can make families and look after them and be reassured that she will be taken care off when she becomes old and unable to perform her duties.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Sir, what do you say about ‘Friends with Benefits’?

Qn. Sir, what do you say about ‘Friends with Benefits’?

Ans:  This is a new relationship that has been invented by the youngsters of today. It means ‘There is no commitment in this relationship. Anyone can peel off from the relationship anytime without even intimating the other person or with or without the consent of the other person. There are no emotions between the individuals. It is only mutual understanding, accepting and sharing of each other’s needs whenever it is comfortable for both’.

Now, the answer for the question…The short answer is below. The long answer is below that.

The natural POSSESSIVENSS and OBSESSIVE characteristics of human beings will not allow them to be in good mental health in this relationship...so, 'friendship with benefits' of body needs will not give good mental health!!...It might appear to be good due to the ‘feeling of goodness’ it gives till one lands up with the possessiveness and obsessions!!...Thereafter it will only be guilt, pain, downfall, depression, spoiled mental health, crimes etc etc in life!!

The long answer is…We don’t know who we are with respect to handling of our emotions or feelings, obsessions and possessiveness. We don’t know our stability on these issues. We don’t know when we will slip or when we will remain stable and confident.

After all these are variables in one’s life and keeps changing depending upon our age, stage in life, life experiences, challenges, ability to face or accept perceived failures, our ability to face them, our body needs, mind needs, socialisation needs, state of hormones and neurotransmitter secretions, Emotional Quotient, Spiritual Quotient etc. All these are interdependent functions each influencing the other.

After all, the various secretions, chemical reactions, biological, physical and chemical changes that occur in our systems and brain only get converted into our thoughts, feelings and behaviours!!

Of course, all these can be kept stable by our food, life style, habits, culture and various other things like beliefs, constitution, definition, meaning, purpose, passion, aim or goal of life etc.

The present race to excel in comparison with others around, at school, college, organisations, societies leading to spoiled sleep, rest, food cycles, unhealthy entertainments, health compromising beliefs-definitions of life-living, stresses in body-mind and relationships etc  is what is pushing the girls and boys towards such unstable health compromising relationships.

Wake up every one!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!

If you are interested in thinking...then you may read this post...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

The biggest problem in our lives is that we have a body of limited abilities with a brain of unlimited abilities or potential or energy on its top.

Can this be proved?

All other organisms have a body and brain both of limited energy and abilities. So, they are stable, peaceful, happy with whatever they have. The body and mind are in resonance with each other. At least within themselves they are peaceful and probably contented and fulfilled too.

So, human beings have landed up in this chaos during the process of evolution.

Can anything with limited mass and volume have unlimited potential and energy?...If energy is conserved then what happens to the energy after the brain is dead?

Now...is it possible to make the body also with same unlimited capabilities and energy?...Or is it possible to make the brain with only limited capabilities and energy?...Should we do it?...What should we do to make the balance and equivalence to occur so that the system as a whole is stable?

Technology certainly can do it. It might result in some diseases or disorders etc initially but over several years the situation can be improved.

The free and true mind wants to drive the body to healthy pursuits, knowledge, wisdom, learning and skill development.

But the body drives the brain mad and creates a mind of evils and devils and gets damaged and killed ultimately which is an excellent example that negative intentions lead to self destruction. So, the limited body can screw up the unlimited brain easily!!

Is it the brain that drives the body or body that drives the brain?...Right, both drive each other...accepted...But the Cognition of the brain can change the behaviour of the body. Yes, the behaviour of the body also can change the Cognition of the brain. Can there be any behaviour without cognition?...So, who influence whom more?...who is more powerful out of the two?

Mind gets bored easily in monotony with people, places, jobs, relationships, items and wants variety for it to be healthy. Body also gets bored faster and needs variety to be healthy. Why so?...Darwin?...What makes the mind to look for varieties and what makes the body to look for varities?...Same causes?

Interesting things to think about...using the same brain and body...

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

How a relationship should be between two people??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL BOYS AND GIRLS...

In a relationship, there are two people involved. They may be of same sex or opposite sex. Both have their parents. They may be perceiving some amount of unconditional care and support from their parents. If one can perceive more unconditional care and support in the relationship than from his or her parents then that is the ultimate thing to happen for the relationship to become the best forever!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Girls need to be shy, innocent and timid only under safe social environments...i.e only at home...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL GIRLS AND PARENTS...

In olden days the girls were shy and innocent. Of course, they did not know anything due to lack of scope for moving out of the home for education and jobs. They were mostly domestic servants and nursing people to keep the house and surroundings clean and meet all the physical, mental and social needs of those at home. Before marriage they did this at parental house and after marriage they did this at in-law's house.

Today, all those old men who see women as above, keep blaming the change in culture and the girls that they are not shy, timid and innocent like their wife or sisters or mother.

But in today's world such girls will get easily cheated and exploited. Thankfully the social dynamics between boys and girls in schools and colleges also revolve around equality which is healthy. In this atmosphere a girl has to be bold, assertive to say "NO" when required without hesitation, be intelligent, and be like a boy in thinking, feelings and behaviours, but be innocent and girly at the required safe moments of life or life situations e.g at home with the husband, siblings or with parents. She should not be shy, timid and innocent all the time, everywhere, with everyone, and all life situations. Then she is sure to get exploited and abused.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

A simple philosophy in life to be peaceful, happy, healthy, achiever etc.

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

The most important requirement of us, the human beings, is to live on earth peacefully, happily and healthily.

For this we need plants, animals, clean air, clean water and clean earth.

Nature wants us to move...keep moving...face challenges...learn...develop...grow...mature...evolve...and not to get locked inside a room or on a bed or a chair...to get peace, happiness and good health.

For this whatever philosophy of life required, we need to follow. It need not be same as that of others.

There are many philosophies based on different perspectives.

Our deeds are our God. They decide our future. Therefore, we decide our destiny. Everything is in our hands. Our life is decided by us. Good or bad. Evils or blessing. Hell or heaven. Our deeds decide. We may not get what we want, because they may not result in long lasting peace, happiness and good health as we think. Instead we will get what we deserve to be healthy, happy and peaceful!!...We need not please people out of comfort zone to keep them with us, but we will get help from a right person when we face challenges without even asking for it!!

This philosophy helps us to be active. Go out and face challenges. Learn and mature. Does not make us to be weak and parasitic or dependent. It makes us strong, increases the self concept. Helps to accept the outcomes of life with positives. Helps us to live in harmony with plant life, animals and human beings. We will be successful too in both our perception and the perception of right people.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

One can't be an achiever and develop as a human being by sitting inside the home...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR STUDENTS AND PARENTS...

If a kite has to fly to skies, it has to go out of its shelter...go out and face the head winds...

the kite flyer has to leave the thread and allow the kite to go up, the flyer has to encourage the kite, support it's going out, flying up facing the turbulent winds, protect it in a manner that it flies high!!

If we have to be achievers in global professions, and grow as a better human being by self experience, then we should leave the home, village, city, state and the country. We have to leave behind the emotional shackles and obsession baggages of language, caste, religion, race etc to keep us light and enable us to fly up!!

Else what is the use of a kite??

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!