hai guns and roses!
...how are we?
...how are we?
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hmmm...human
beings are funny and crazy organisms by creation!...but our culture
adds fuel to the fire and we land up feeling lonely!
any
time we feel sad, there is an element of perception of 'feeling of
rejection'!...it could be real or perceived. Mostly perceived, as, only
when a person whom we like and liked tells / behaves in some way not ok
with us then we
feel rejected.
our perception depends on our neurotransmitters state in the brain. If normal secretion then you are rocking (like me!)...if less then you feel lonely.
)...if less then you feel lonely.
this is seen in hostel students who eat only rice and junk food, no fruits, (no balanced diet), no vegetables etc.
if we regulate anything that we munch in side the MOUTH and MIND, we will never feel lonely.
anyone
who has some music all the time in physical form or virtual form (brain
keeps playing some song or the other on its own from morning to night),
attach with nature and knows how to enjoy nature bit by bit, has some
art form in life every day, sings or dances, has come element of
service, philosophy, science (not physics or chemistry or biology but
questioning anything like why, why not, how, when, what etc),
walks,
yoga, meditation, silence, has only positive thinking, attitudes,
beliefs, emotions, perceptions and behaviours, he or she can not feel
lonely. They are always rich with people, happiness, good health and
success.
anyway,
many approach me (good that they know that they should approach) saying
'feeling lonely sir!'...mostly hostel students...
Other
day
one college hosteller came to me and said “Sir! No one talks to me in
the
class. This disturbs me a lot!”…(if we have fever (body problem) we can
take a crocin and sleep off to get well. When we have problem in the
'mind', only 'behaviours' can cure them, and not medicines!!)
Many come to
me like this and say this or such statements which indicate a ‘feeling of
rejection”…e.g ”my husband does not talk to me!”…”my friend does not talk to me”
etc…
When that
hosteller said that I asked…
“you know
mother Teresa?”
“yes!”
“Is there
anyone who does not like her?”
“No! everyone
likes her!”
“So, you
become a mother Teresa!”
“!@#$%^”
“Do you know
Shahrukh khan?”
“Yes”
“do you like
him?”
“yes”
“Does he
have many fans!”
“Oh, yes! In
lakhs and crores!”
“Then you
also become a Shahrukh Khan!”
“!@#$%^”
“Mother
Teresa is liked by all in the world for her KINDNESS and her ‘LOVING MOTHER’
nature. Shahrukh Khan is liked by all because he is bubbling with energy and
happiness in his characters. So, the crux is if we are loving and caring for
others, and bubbling with joy and happiness, then everyone will like us!”
“Everyone
wants to be happy. No one wants to be unhappy. To derive happiness, they socialize
with others. A person who radiates happiness spreads it to others also. So,
people of such nature will attract everyone”
“so, what
should I do sir?”
”help your classmates
and friends who are sick by taking them to doctor, providing food and medicines.
If required help with physical support if they need in doing their chores. Help
completing their assignments and teaching the class work. If required sleep in
their room to support them during nights”
“Don’t
forget, a hug and a kiss speak a thousand words of love!...so, start with it and end with it!”
“many suffer
with ‘low moods’, girls specially at least once in a month…be with them
providing the emotional support they need, take them for an evening stroll if
they are ok with it or provide whatever is ok for them, certainly a hug and a
kiss!”
“help those
who have problems with others in bringing them together again!”
“help the
weak students by teaching them!”
“basically
add value to their life, make them happy, make them feel not lonely, share whatever 'resource' you have for them, show that ‘you are there for them’, as a
friend, as a doctor, as a nurse, as a mother, as a lover and as a god’s savior!”
“be a fun
and bubbly with jokes and songs!”
“you will
find lots of peace and happiness spreading in you. You will find all your
negatives disappearing from you. You will find you radiating happiness. You
will find all those ‘rejected you’ accepting you in their ‘happiness’, as you
shouldered their ‘sadness’ during tough moments!”
“you will be
remembered by them throughout their life!”
“Remember,
LOVE IS THE BEST POSITIVE WEAPON THAT CHANGES EVEN A ROCK!”
After this I
could see some shine in the face of the hosteler.
"when
you practice this everyday, you will find slowly you becoming a mother
teresa and sharukh khan, whavvv, what a deadly combination!"
"you will become holy, a prophet, noble and god for
all!"
"make
the ones whom you helped, also to join with you, when you go to others,
so that, this forms a 'culture' and this happiness spreads to all, and
slowly and steadily we make a society full of happiness, good health and
success!"
This is
applicable not only for a hosteler, but can be applied by anyone under any
social condition, at home, in society, in organizations etc.
the
very next day that hosteler sent a message to me saying all good words
and explaining how she is a 'transformed and enlightened' individual
now!...till date no one has come back to me saying they were not
successful with this treatment!
Jesus or
Mohamed or Buddha are not sent by gods! We make ourselves jesus or mohamed or buddha with our behaviours!
yes...we are never alone...we are
surrounded by nature...we are filled inside with lots of good memories to
replay, cherish and enjoy...we have so many gardens and greens, insects, birds
and animals nearby whom we can visit and feel the love and happiness...we have
at least one person who has some people behind him and those some have some
more behind each...like this we can go on and find sooooo many with us...
in fact why should we feel alone...we have soooooooooooooooooo many of them in the world who can love us, only thing is we don't know who they are....where they are....we have not put in any effort to find out them....they have also not put in effort to find out us...may be they have put in their effort but not yet reached us...or some might reach us some time in our life later...each one of them can show us a different world of love, happiness and enlightenment and make us feel 'reborn' on earth...new knowledge, new skills, new form of happiness, ecstasy and you can add anything like this....even if we put in effort to find them out, it might take a long time, energy and effort and we should be ready to spend that...to get that 'new' later...we might also land up in troubles...that is where the experience and intelligence comes in hand to help us....
so, all the best to all to find their new people, new love, new happiness, new world and to take a 'new birth'!!!
in fact why should we feel alone...we have soooooooooooooooooo many of them in the world who can love us, only thing is we don't know who they are....where they are....we have not put in any effort to find out them....they have also not put in effort to find out us...may be they have put in their effort but not yet reached us...or some might reach us some time in our life later...each one of them can show us a different world of love, happiness and enlightenment and make us feel 'reborn' on earth...new knowledge, new skills, new form of happiness, ecstasy and you can add anything like this....even if we put in effort to find them out, it might take a long time, energy and effort and we should be ready to spend that...to get that 'new' later...we might also land up in troubles...that is where the experience and intelligence comes in hand to help us....
so, all the best to all to find their new people, new love, new happiness, new world and to take a 'new birth'!!!
keep rocking!
rams
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