We and our Heads!

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WE AND OUR HEADS

We are born to be happy, healthy (physically, mentally and socially) and successful.

All these require behaviours. Some are visible (overt). Some are invisible (covert).

When we are in coma state we don’t exhibit any behaviour. All those who are not in coma exhibit behaviours.

So, all of us exhibit behaviours all the time throughout our life, day and night.

If these behaviours are right, then we are happy, healthy and successful. If not, we land up with all sorts of physical, mental and social problems, illnesses, diseases and failures.

All the behaviours originate from brain, our head! If we don’t have head, then there is no behaviour. But all of us have one! That is the problem! It depends on us whether we keep it as a nuclear bomb or thorn or a rose.

What is there inside the brain?

Two types of behaviours.

First one is ‘natural behaviours’.

This is present in all the human beings. Natural behaviours are two types.

-behaviours that are vital to be alive (e.g eating, breathing, drinking, defecating, sexual, protecting from threats, socializing etc)

-hereditary behaviours

Second one is ‘learnt behaviours’

These are of two types

-out of conscious learning. This is what we learn from books, listening to others, own and others’ experience.

The other one is…

-learning without the conscious mind in use

Right from the time umbilical cord is cut, the learning without the conscious mind in use starts. Various sensors in the body continuously acquire the data from the environment throughout our life and store in the brain. This data is used to form behaviours by our brain without our consciousness. We don’t come to know about this.

These are the behaviours which cause all the problems in life…physical, mental and social problems. They generally don’t allow us to be happy, healthy and successful. If we take a paper and write down all our behaviours that do not keep us healthy, happy and successful, you will find that they are all unconsciously learnt, learnt from others, learnt from our culture.

All these behaviours are ‘cultural behaviours’.

They are acquired from people at home, relatives, friends, school, college, social gatherings, society, work places etc.

They are habits, beliefs, value systems, attitudes.

Some of them are…

Foods we eat, time we eat, number of times we eat, regularity and irregularity in eating, how we cook etc.

The dresses we wear and how we keep them hygienic.

The entertainment behaviours we follow.

The resting behaviours we follow.

The religion, cast, race and the related beliefs and behaviours we follow.

Most of the people have all their problems due to their own ‘belief systems’ they have formed without their knowledge due to the unconscious learning that has happened in their life through their development stages in life.

If you take a paper and write down the reasons for all your problems you will find they are due to the ‘conflicting behaviours, beliefs and habits’ we have. We might have two beliefs which contradict to each other. They might appear to give you happiness but might affect your other two issues..i.e health or success for e.g Indian women do all the house chores and go to bed late and get up early as they believe that ‘late to bed and early to rise’ is the good trait of a house wife which actually leads to less sleep, more physical and mental stress and life style diseases. There are many such.

Most of us have ‘life style’ diseases because our life styles are wrong. Life style behaviours are due to our habits, culture, attitudes and value systems. This shows that we are following wrong habits, culture, attitudes and value systems. So, it is time to wake up and redefine these. Our children are learning these wrong behaviours from us without their conscious.

No one teaches how to be a husband or wife or father or mother. All these roles are learnt from us without their knowledge. We have learnt from our parents.

 

 

Our life every day is full of only three elements…1. Thinking 2. Emotions 3. Behaviours. Thinking involves processing of stored data. i.e our beliefs, learnt information, attitudes, cultural issues etc. As our stored data is wrong i.e data acquired from others, culture and environment is wrong, our thinking also is wrong. I.e negative thinking about items, places, people, situations and occasions. When the thinking is wrong or negative the resultant behaviours and emotions are also wrong. E.g anger, frustration and we know all the others.

All the adaptability problems between people inside the house, outside, all types of relationships are all due to the above.

 

 

Now take a paper and write down all those behaviours which give unhappiness, bad physical, mental and social health and failures. They could be due to any of the above discussed. Please know that all these behaviours of yours are wrong for you. You need to change them. If you don’t change then you will continue to be unhealthy, unhappy and failed.

All inside the brain, the head!

So, what you want to do?

 

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