Dear
all....THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS....
The
body drives the conscious mind through the subconsicous mind for various needs,
wants, comforts, definitions, beliefs...body has its larger share in all these,
compared to the social components!!
So,
body decides everything in life!!...our thoughts, our emotions, our
behaviours!!...Our defintions of life at different ages and stages…our
definitions of relationships… aims… goals…. passion… evvvvvvverything!!
Every
one's body is different. Every one's life style is different. The life style
takes it's major share in deciding the body functioning. e.g one who misses
foods and delays food timings, stresses the body, affecting the mind and
therefore, the behaviours. (more anger, frustration etc). Food plays a big role
in deciding the body functioning.
Some
people mature late and some early. Some have less gynaec system actvitiy or
functionality and behave like sadhus and some have vigorous and more and behave
like animals.
The
body does not remain like this for entire life time. With ageing the
functionality changes. So, sadhus can become animals and animals can become
sadhus.
But
some have permanently no or less
functionality to become budhas….to live a brahmacharya life on only knowledge,
wisdom and skills. But they do have an ‘affect’ domain i.e emotions, other than
cognition and behavioural domains!!...So, they attach themselves to human
beings at that domain and with animals and nature!!...For some of the behaviours,
affect is the cause (e.g beating a person…without ‘anger’ you can not beat a
person), and for some, affect is the effect or by product. If parents do not
identify such people, compel them for marriage and family life, it results in a
drastic failure, full of hassles, the development and life of children gets
affected.
We
adore rishis…run behind and follow them…we get connected to them as Guru etc…but
we don’t want our children to become a rishi or sadhu!! (laughing!)
Some
have mediocre functionality to become sadhus like vashishtha and live a family
life and sathu life, focussing both on family life and the life of wisdom,
knowledge and skills. Here also two people of same drives should marry, else
dissatisfaction and all the resultant negatives happen in married life.
Some
have excessive activity to live like Vishvamitra to live with many, produce
many varieties of children, and be a rishi too, dwelling into wisdom, knowledge
and skills!!...This also has its hassles and matrimony disputes.
Some
live a life centered on only the body…make money and wealth, may be get some
fame too, eat, drink, smoke, enjoy and die. They are not interested in the
responsibility of ‘reproduction and rearing’…or interested in reproduction but
not in rearing. They also have life full of problems.
Therefore,
the crux is…
1.
Body decides the peace, happiness and
health. Life style decides the kind of body.
2.
Emotional life satisfaction is a key
element for a satisfied life. So, long term, life long relationships are
important. Realisation of all kinds of relationships with living or non living
is important. When body is not involved in relationships it has all positives
with peace, happiness and good health. When body is involved then it has all
kinds of negatives spoiling the life…it has only spills of feelings of goodness
in pleasures, and the mind feels feeling of goodness in happiness during the
acts of caring and support….i.e service.
3.
The marriage should not be forced
when the body is not ready. They body of the past and present are different, as
the life styles are different.
4.
Every one should be allowed to live a
life based on their body functionality. Imagine budha’s life had he been forced
by his King father to live with his wife and child!!
5.
By life style changes…mainly in food…changes
can be brought in the body functioning.
6.
Almost 99% percent of the problems in
married life are centered around body. Outward manifestations are different.
7.
Controlling body is stressful which
results in stress reactions in body and mind. Regulating the body through life
style changes is healthy and not stressful.
8.
Mind becomes animal, because of the
body. Mind can regulative the body through cognitive methods.
So,
REGULATE THE BODY, RULE THE LIFE WITHOUT STRESS AND EFFORTS!!
Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!
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