"Sir, I am feeling too lonely at my home, inspite of everyone being around me. But all of them have far too many wants, needs and expectations from me that i am unable to satisfy them. I am feeling too stressed. Please help."

 Dear all,

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Qn. "Sir, I am feeling too lonely at my home, inspite of everyone being around me. But all of them have far too many wants, needs and expectations from me that i am unable to satisfy them. I am feeling too stressed. Please help."

Ans: I can only tell how to cope up with the situation and live peacefully. As others are not here for counselling.

We have sources of conditional love. We have sources of unconditional love. Almost all human beings are conditional. All the other trillions of organisms on earth are sources of unconditional love.

You should have more sources of unconditional love around you at home. So, have parrots, love birds, fishes, dogs, cats, cattle, lots of greenery, potted plants, feed grains to birds, spend time on gardening, spend more time with infants and children, fill the room walls with nature, keep many things inside the house that make you feel that you are living with nature, fantasize living with nature, love the potted plants, flowers, butterflies, beetles and strike relationship with them. Spend more time with these sources of unconditional love, caring for them, loving them, talking to them etc.

The significant people at home like mother, father, siblings etc may be partially unconditional. i.e between about 40% to 80%. Spend time accordingly with them in those domains you are compatible with them. Spend time on common interests and likes. Not in stressful domains of their wants, needs and expectations.

We ourselves are not able to meet our own plans of the day. We are not able to meet our own expectations. So, it is not possible to meet the expectations of everyone around us. Certainly not all the time. So, do your best without affecting your physical and mental health.

If you want to make others happy, you have to be happy first. A sad person cannot make others happy!!

First keep yourself healthy. Here people are not bothered about being physically and mentally unhealthy. It is a culture here. So, protect your body and mind. And do whatever possible to others, without stressing your body metabolism and brain.

Peacefully yours...rams...Psychologist!!

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