"sir, i am a young employee in an organisation. Whenever i attend a meeting involving managers of all the verticals and Heads of Departments and sections, i found every one is in disagreement with each other and fight. Why sir?"

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Qn. "sir, i am a young employee in an organisation. Whenever i attend a meeting involving managers of all the verticals and Heads of Departments and sections, i found every one is in disagreement with each other and fight all the time. Why sir?...They are all supposed to be matured seniors and role models for young juniors like us!!"

Ans: Generally, most of the bosses are Type A personalities. Only those who are self driven, hard working, impatient, aggressive, fast talking, determined to succeed, can't accept failures, competitive, ambitious, organised, focused on work, spend long hours of work forgetting other issues of life, become bosses or rise up in the hierarchical ladder. 

They have a strict career orientation of life. 

Their thoughts and internal processes have a tendency to multitask, feel impatient or irritated when delayed, feel stressed when faced with delays or other challenges that affect their success, focus on concrete ideas and the immediate tasks at hand and do not like wasting time, do not take breaks, keep criticising themselves when they have to leave something undone or feel they did not do a good job.

 They are Zero Error Syndrome People. They can not accept errors, deviations and shortfalls in productivity/performance and quality. 

Many of them would not hesitate to do anything under the sky to get their dreams or goals fulfilled. Family, friends, etc become secondary for them. 

Another thing is, if they perceive others as their competitors or having common goals, then they are most likely to pick up arguments, fights with such people. They may not agree to their rivals. Mostly they perceive the HODs in horizontals as their competitors. This is the reason for their disagreements and fights. 

One advantage is that there will be no secrets. Everyone will abuse the other and all secrets of each other and everything put under the carpet would become public. 

Therefore, it is their basic, natural, inborn personality trait which is difficult to change. This also leads to personality oriented diseases of the body, disorders of the mind and social issues in family, organisational and social life. 

If both husband and wife are Type A personalities, then you can imagine the situation at home. Imgine if their children are also Type A, which is most likely!!

Top Bosses can use this trait strategically to gain advantages for the organisation by playing around with the Type A people in forming teams or committees etc. 

So, learn how to be a Type A, without those negatives!!

Mothers have to check out if their children are Type A and accordingly groom a lifestyle and habits that would ensure that they don't get the Type A personlity diseases, disorders and issues in family, marital and social life!!

Lovers, Wives and husbands have to check out if they are Type A and accordingly practice therapies, unlearn the negatives and learn positives.

Type As are likely to indulge in health compromising stress bursting methods like smoking, drinking, using addictive chemicals, and unethical sex etc. They mostly learn these during the vulnerable window of life i.e adolescent stage at schools and colleges, initially for peer group acceptance and in later years for stress bursting. 

Mothers and fathers can play a key role in averting this by being role model parents by having a lifestyle which they expect their children to have. They can also use Cognitive and Behaviour Therapy, CBT, methods to their children to keep health enhancing life style as their breathe of life!!...CBT very much includes all that practiced in spiritual places!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!