why a middle aged man behaves the way he behaves?

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why a middle aged man behaves the way he behaves?

Have you noticed a child?...what it does?...it does only those which gives happiness…pleasure!...when parents tell them to do something ‘responsible, serious, does not give pleasure or happiness to it’ it does not do it…or does it for name sake with resistance, hate, anger, frustration etc…without quality…without productivity…it is not their mistake…it is because their brain is developed only that much.

An adolescent also is a child but at times behaves responsibly with most of the time doing only those which give happiness and pleasure. The brain is still maturing.

It is sad that nature matures the body first for reproduction but not the brain.

A young adult to a middle aged adult…i.e from 20 to 40…when the body becomes ‘matured reproductive body’…when we start indulging in reproductive acts…when children are born…nature knows that he cannot behave irresponsibly…he has to look after the children…rear them...teach them to live…teach them behaviours to live…to protect…to identify enemies and friends…to identify good and bad…to identify dangers…so, it does not allow him to behave childish…the secretions are such that he behaves responsibly…only responsibility rules us…we do many things that does not give us happiness or pleasure…because we want to behave as a responsible husband, wife, father, mother etc…as we want to look after the small children…as it is a socially acceptable, appreciated and respectable behaviour…also our brain is matured…it is driven and drives the body towards achieving all the levels of hierarchy of needs (read maslow’s need theory)…so our thinking, talking and all visible and invisible behaviours are with responsibility…at this stage we feel ‘happiness and pleasure’ is achieved by fulfilling our responsibilities…anyone who does things which give only happiness, does not do things which have the element of responsibility is identified or referred by us as ‘irresponsible’ and ‘childish’ person…

When we reach 40s and 50s, (for some it is 60s) the ‘middle age’ syndrome strikes, most of us get struck at one level of (3^rd or 4^th level) maslows levels, menopause stages (even males), the brain undergoes lots of changes in secretions, reproductive system undergoes change towards less activity…so, the body slowly starts moving towards the adolescent stage…mind also behaves similar to an adolescent…secretions In brain are such…so, we start doing only those which give us happiness and pleasure…the lady at home or parents tell ‘don’t be childish. Behave responsibly’…’you have many responsibilities…but you are not doing…earlier you were responsible…now you are getting mad!’…we also at times feel ‘I have to do these things. I know that. But my mind is not telling me to do. It feels it is not happy in doing that. It tells me to do something else as it gives me happiness!’…the lady at home has to yell many times and keep telling him to do that something…responsible thing…which he had been doing on his own earlier…now he is not doing it…e.g some adults play cricket or country games with children on road…more than the usual…they like playing some instrument and spend more time than usual…they start spending more time with friends, more than usual…so that ‘more than usual’…’something which he has not been doing all these days’ is the one which identifies him that he is moving towards childishness…he has to be ‘reminded’ of his responsibilities…

This only increases with time, and when they reach 70s or 80s they really become a child…no responsible behaviours…get up late…do routines late…lethargy in doing things which they did with lots of energy and importance during early ages…loose teath…body crushes…muscles melt…shout at their adult children if they shout or beat their kids ‘children are children! Don’t scold or beat them!’…forgetting that they did the same when they were adults!...

Slowly they become an infant…an infant is always on bed…they also…an infant can not hear or speak…they also…an infant can only produce sounds…they also…it cannot see, hear, smell or identify people…they also…it only gives innocent smile…they also…infant needs constant attention of adults…they also…infant urinates and defecates on bed…they also…infant always needs physical support…they also…infant cannot walk…they also…infant cannot eat on its own and someone has to feed…they also…

Only thing is an infant lives. They die!

The aim of this post is to bring out ‘child-adult-child’ stages of life…identify the significant behaviours ‘happiness-responsibility-happiness’. If we know these then we know ‘why people behave the way the behave’ and not to get angry or frustrated…accept people as they are!...that is all!

 

ok guys and gals...enjoy...keep rocking!

 

rams