hai all...i thought i will type every day some tips from my lips to the youngies!!! (as if i am old!!!)
i.e some tips for the young girls and guys 'about' to get married or 'just' married...
1. enjoy life to the fullest when both are together.
i.e some tips for the young girls and guys 'about' to get married or 'just' married...
1. enjoy life to the fullest when both are together.
2. enjoy the absence too to the fullest in dreams and fantasies. (don't
cry or get frustrated or shout/msg over phone or long, the way your mom
did or does!)
3. Like, accept and respect the 'dislikes'. 'sentiments' and beliefs. Love is the best and cool way to make her or him to 'change'!
4. Everyone is defective in the eyes of others, including us!
5. Every one is different as the life path was different till you met!
6. Every human being changes continuously...noticeable changes become visible approx every 5 to 8 years!!
7. 20 to 40 is generally the age of 'reproduction and grooming of off-springs'...so nature gives all love and responsibility hormones. Don't expect the same after that!
8. 20 to 30 is generally 'high body needs'. 30 to 35 is generally 'high security needs'. 35 to 40 is 'high love needs'. 40 to 50 is 'high self-esteem needs'. If not achieved then they fall down to 'extremely vigorous need of love, emotions and affection' (catch him or her there!!). So, marry a person of nearly same age so that needs and levels are same and changing of phases is also common. Otherwise 25 year girl will talk 'romance' on bed and guy of 35 years will talk of 'building house and loans!!'
9. Best is if both dwell in same need phase!...if you find changed interests then understand that he or she is into the 'changing phase'. Understand and give space. Else only frustration and fights!!
10. There can be no gender difference in 'division of labour' at home!
more tomorrow....
rams-psychologist and sociologist
3. Like, accept and respect the 'dislikes'. 'sentiments' and beliefs. Love is the best and cool way to make her or him to 'change'!
4. Everyone is defective in the eyes of others, including us!
5. Every one is different as the life path was different till you met!
6. Every human being changes continuously...noticeable changes become visible approx every 5 to 8 years!!
7. 20 to 40 is generally the age of 'reproduction and grooming of off-springs'...so nature gives all love and responsibility hormones. Don't expect the same after that!
8. 20 to 30 is generally 'high body needs'. 30 to 35 is generally 'high security needs'. 35 to 40 is 'high love needs'. 40 to 50 is 'high self-esteem needs'. If not achieved then they fall down to 'extremely vigorous need of love, emotions and affection' (catch him or her there!!). So, marry a person of nearly same age so that needs and levels are same and changing of phases is also common. Otherwise 25 year girl will talk 'romance' on bed and guy of 35 years will talk of 'building house and loans!!'
9. Best is if both dwell in same need phase!...if you find changed interests then understand that he or she is into the 'changing phase'. Understand and give space. Else only frustration and fights!!
10. There can be no gender difference in 'division of labour' at home!
more tomorrow....
rams-psychologist and sociologist
thank you mukil...
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