Atomic theory of RELATIONSHIPS!!

Hai all...

We all know that atom is the basic element of any matter. Yes....atom matters in our life too.
Human beings are social animals. They can not be alive without socialisation. Father, mother, brother, sister are default reltionships formed at the time of birth. As we grow all other relationships are formed.

There is a lot of dynamics between us and others around in our relationships. This dynamics affects our physical-mental-social health, happiness, peace and success either positively or negatively.

Now, how to handle the relationships????...if we know how to handle them then there is no problem in life.

Like atom is the basic element of matter, atom is the basic element of relationships too.

Husband and wife form the nucleus. One can be positive like proton. It is better the other person remains neutral like a neutron so that the stability within the nucleus is maintained. Who is proton and Who is Neutron keeps changing depending on situations. This philosophy could be extended to lovers also. 

 

Let the bonding between the couple be as strong as a real nucleus. Let any one not enter the nucleus. Who ever it is. Because if any external particle can break the nucleus and enter in between the proton and neutron then the entire atom will explode. 

 

In a combined family system which still exists in a modified form or diluted form following people freely, authoritatively and emotionally enter the nucleus bringing in breakage of the family...

 

1. parents of the boy

2. parents of the girl

3. close relatives and friends of both boy and girl

 

They all have a sphere of influence on the couple. But it should not affect the intimacy and basic of EMOTIONAL FRIENDSHIP BONDAGE between them.

 

It is impossible for the husband or wife to meet all the emotional, financial, intellectual, professional, personal, social, mental and physical needs of the other all the time. So, there is a tendency to seek for the support outside the relationship or family for the deficient ones. It depends upon the priority or direness of the need. If it is body related then it is extremely difficult to contain the needs though there are so many methods available to decrease the need, suppress the need and divert the need or meet the need safely.

 

If it is mind related then it is easy to tackle using all the methods available. So, instead of two people inside the nucleus there are more than two at a time or at different times. There are many cases (divorced situations) where the nucleus contains only two people but they are different at different times. Therefore, it is a challenge to keep the nucleus safe!

 

The first orbit around the nucleus forms the 'children electrons'. They form the best and closest to the nucleus. They have more influence on the nucleus but should not be allowed to enter the intimacy and friendship between the husband and wife. 

 

All relatives, friends and others in office, social groups, society and outside remain in the outer orbits but within the atom. Let the electrons in the outer orbit not enter inner orbit or nucleus.

So, it depends on us as to how we form our nucleus, outer orbits and keep the atomic particles wherever they are supposed to be.

If we can do this then our life will all be Healthy, Happy, Peaceful and Successful (HHPS). Otherwise we will only be fighting the forces or elements that try to destabilize the atom which will not give us HHPS.

Keep rocking!!

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