Hai all...by default from the moment of birth we are involved in social relationship...before even being born we are involved in a relationship with the mother...after birth we have father, sister, brothers, relatives as default relationships...as we grow we get relationships like friends, lover, husband, wife, soul mate etc...i don't think any one wants any good relationship to break or go away...
all of us are human beings and we are social animals...without socialization we can not be happy, healthy and at peace. Therefore we want the good relationships to last a life time.
for any relationship to remain strong and lost for entire life time following conditions are required...all of them are within us and not outside...correcting ourselves is the most simplest and easiest thing and correcting others is the toughest thing...we always try to correct others, the toughest, and do not put in any effort to correct ourselves, which is the easiest...(because we think we are always right and others are wrong!!)...therefore our relationships suffer...
if the following conditions are not met then any relationship whether it is father, mother, wife, husband, lover, friend, relative, soul mate or any damn relationship on earth will break at some level or the other (few strings of bonding wire will get cut off) and at some time or the other in life...
1. there should be no expectation (more the expectation, less the happiness, peace and physical-mental-social health. Less the expectations, more of everything. Zero expectation means ABUNDANCE of everything!!)...you can take a paper, list down all the expectations, the length of list and importance you attach and the efforts involved in giving it by the other person will show you where you stand in that relationship...
2. there should be no exploitation
3. there should be no possessiveness
4. there should be no longing
5. the relationship should have only happiness and no sadness
6. it should be based on only GIVING and SERVICE and not TAKING
7. it should be beyond body needs and mind needs
8. there should be no perception of cheating
9. there should be no obsession
10. there should be no control and compulsion
11. one should breathe freedom in the relationship
12. one should feel heavenly while thinking about the person and the relationship
13. there should be no demands
14. the person in the relationship should radiate peace, happiness and good health to the other person and both should radiate the same to others around them.
15. one should help the other person in achieving all the physical, mental and social needs and wants of the other person i.e making the other person to achieve all the six needs of Maslow through own efforts
16. one should see father, mother, wife, husband, sister, brother, lover, soul mate, teacher, guide, mentor, philosopher and god in the other person.
17. both should become devotee of each other... like the relationship between Aandaal and Lord Krishna...she saw all types of relationships with Lord Krishna...for her it was only Lord Krishna for everything...she served him in temples, lived there, sang songs, chant mantras and died...but lives in the heart of every one and indian epics as a true example of DEVOTION and DEVOTEE.
if the above conditions exist then that relationship will remain strong through out the life as 'eternal love' or 'spiritual love'. Otherwise it will not exist long or exist only for society sake with some strings cut, some lose, some missing.
keep rocking!!
rams
all of us are human beings and we are social animals...without socialization we can not be happy, healthy and at peace. Therefore we want the good relationships to last a life time.
for any relationship to remain strong and lost for entire life time following conditions are required...all of them are within us and not outside...correcting ourselves is the most simplest and easiest thing and correcting others is the toughest thing...we always try to correct others, the toughest, and do not put in any effort to correct ourselves, which is the easiest...(because we think we are always right and others are wrong!!)...therefore our relationships suffer...
if the following conditions are not met then any relationship whether it is father, mother, wife, husband, lover, friend, relative, soul mate or any damn relationship on earth will break at some level or the other (few strings of bonding wire will get cut off) and at some time or the other in life...
1. there should be no expectation (more the expectation, less the happiness, peace and physical-mental-social health. Less the expectations, more of everything. Zero expectation means ABUNDANCE of everything!!)...you can take a paper, list down all the expectations, the length of list and importance you attach and the efforts involved in giving it by the other person will show you where you stand in that relationship...
2. there should be no exploitation
3. there should be no possessiveness
4. there should be no longing
5. the relationship should have only happiness and no sadness
6. it should be based on only GIVING and SERVICE and not TAKING
7. it should be beyond body needs and mind needs
8. there should be no perception of cheating
9. there should be no obsession
10. there should be no control and compulsion
11. one should breathe freedom in the relationship
12. one should feel heavenly while thinking about the person and the relationship
13. there should be no demands
14. the person in the relationship should radiate peace, happiness and good health to the other person and both should radiate the same to others around them.
15. one should help the other person in achieving all the physical, mental and social needs and wants of the other person i.e making the other person to achieve all the six needs of Maslow through own efforts
16. one should see father, mother, wife, husband, sister, brother, lover, soul mate, teacher, guide, mentor, philosopher and god in the other person.
17. both should become devotee of each other... like the relationship between Aandaal and Lord Krishna...she saw all types of relationships with Lord Krishna...for her it was only Lord Krishna for everything...she served him in temples, lived there, sang songs, chant mantras and died...but lives in the heart of every one and indian epics as a true example of DEVOTION and DEVOTEE.
if the above conditions exist then that relationship will remain strong through out the life as 'eternal love' or 'spiritual love'. Otherwise it will not exist long or exist only for society sake with some strings cut, some lose, some missing.
keep rocking!!
rams
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