you can win girls only through devotional love and empowerment and not with needs, wants, expectations, fear and controls!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

In our culture there are some people who accept people as they are, accept the life situations as it is so easily, faster and greatly. They are too good in adapting to situations in life without any problem and with greater comfort, even if it is damaging them, putting them in discomfort and uneasiness, in some way or other.

In fact they do not know, the brain or conscious does not look for, that there is an easy way of adapting to better and nice solutions. Solutions are there in front and they can easily change over to those solutions. But the solutions are not visible to their eyes and brain. The brain ceases to look for solutions. It accepts the situation and starts living in it.

So, though this type of flexibility is good but it is not good as it goes into a state of Learned Helplessness, may be in some cases.

In some love cases, due to the devotee kind of obsession, they cease to find solutions and accept the pain as pleasure and start living or adapting. It all depends upon our limits, boundaries, how much we can stretch or accept pain as pleasure, ability to cope up and adapt. When the breaking point reaches either they give up, fail and fall, but still don't leave the situation...Height of Adaptability!!

So, the crux is...

1. Let us not adapt to the tough or gruesome or painful or dangerous life situations or people so easily. Let us find if there is any better way to coexist or live with the situation but without danger, without being in a state of getting affected, in a state of comfort, in a state of being healthy.

2. Let us exercise the brain to find solutions and better life situations.

3. Easy, faster and greater adaptability, closing the eyes and consciously and quickly adapting without any thinking can be either dangerous or not good too!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Health Psychologist.