THIS IS FOR ALL IN RELATIONSHIPS....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL IN RELATIONSHIPS...

The best, simple, ideal, devoted, divine, true, spiritual, eternal, long standing, life long and sacred relationship is UNCONDITIONAL RELATIONSHIP, which dwells on Domain of Happiness, i.e Domain of Giving which is long-lived, with or without complete and all time mental connectivity, without involvement of the body in reality in the relationship!!

e.g Relationship of a Mother with her child. Relationship of a devotee to God. Relationship of God with an Ideal Human being. The relationship which has Longing and not craving.

e.g Relationship of Andal with Lord Krishna.

But in our culture and society all the relationships have been created based on...

1. Dependencies
2. Satiation of Needs, wants and expectations
3. Rules and Regulations
4. Duties and Responsibilities
5. Master and Slave concept
6. Limited freedom in every aspect of life within a caged social envelope
7. curtailing all the natural LONGING for universal knowledge, wisdom, expansion, growth, self-actualisation and self-transcending
8. Forced well living within walls
9. Robotic activities with limited and conditional creativity

All these animal relationships dwell on Domain of Pleasure, as backbone or soul of these relationships are always on ASKING and DEMANDING for Resources, to get Feeling of Goodness.

Unfortunately we confuse this short lived Feeling of Goodness to Happiness, due to our lack of wisdom,

One who holds the property, money, wealth, social authority and power becomes the Master and dictator of relationships. All others become weak-slaves. Therefore, they are CONDITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS with possessiveness, controls, demands, ego and never ending, life long, urges and cravings!!

Peace, happiness and good physical, mental and social well-being occurs only when the conditions are fulfilled, which are rare and occasional. Therefore, the relationships are forced, suffocating, stressful, short-lived and break at various levels in the life time.

Therefore, in this complicated relationship structure, the best way of finding peace is....

1. Ask the other person the current needs, wants and expectations. List them in a paper.

2. Meet these as far as possible.

Or pursue the UNCONDITIONAL relationship and teach the others involved in relationship with you also about this peaceful type of relationship.

Total, Healthy, Vedic, Nature based Life Style helps to pursue this kind of relationship!!

It is not possible to pursue this kind of relationship with the UNHEALTHY, PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND SOCIAL LIFE STYLE which our present culture advocates to live with!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!