'Sir, my lover cheated me and suddenly went out of the relationship, and married some one else!...I want him to die tragically!'

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Qn: 'Sir, my lover cheated me and suddenly went out of the relationship, and married someone else!...I want him to die tragically!...I want to do something to him!'

Ans: Cheating is only our perception. There is nothing known as cheating. Because

"EVERY ONE CREATES HIS OR HER OWN DESTINY"

Some say our destiny comes with us when we are born. It is already pre decided. Whatever our ancestors did will also have effect on our destiny. This may be right or wrong. It is debatable and no one either prove or disprove. But certainly this belief will put us lazy and not trying for best things in life.

But the above philosophy, "EVERY ONE CREATES HIS OR HER OWN DESTINY", helps us to be hardworking, to be good human beings, to be ethical, legal, to be focussed on doing good for self, others and the environment. In most cases it is seen becoming true also.

Doing any harm or negative or bad to the other person will only affect our future life, as either he or she will harm us back or we might end up in a crime and get punished legally. It is a waste of time and energy. Waste of a significant part of useful life time of this small life.

Instead, if we learn the lesson of life out of it and move ahead with something positive in life then we will improve, bring happiness and peace in our life.

The other person will be looked after by his/her own deeds. We will or will not come to know their suffering. We will not be able to quantify and identify their suffering that is relevant to the misdeed they did to us.

Life is a journey. We all move on in it. We keep meeting people. We come across many challenges in all forms. If we have good, positive, ethical and correct intentions behind every thought and action of ours, then we are creating what we deserve. We are creating our own destiny. We will get what we deserve to remain peaceful, happy and healthy (physically, mentally and socially). We may not get what we want.

So, don't try to punish your father, mother, sister, brother, friend, lover, husband or wife or anyone who has cheated you or you perceive a cheating by them. Revenge is a negative thought, emotion and action. It is not a positive one. If it gives a feeling of goodness, then it will be only temporary and can harm us later. Also, it is a negative-pleasure, which is not good for our mental well-being. Those who cheat are creating their own destiny by their deeds. Their suffering out of their misdeeds is theirs. Their body is theirs and the pain in that is theirs. Their mind belongs to them and the suffering inside is with them. They only have to face the pain, agony, wrath and sadness. You continue to be good with them and every one. If you find them to be harmful to you, then leave the relationship. Be independent and don't depend on anyone for anything.

So, the crux is....EVERYONE CREATES HIS OR HER OWN DESTINY. SO, THERE IS NOTHING KNOWN AS CHEATING. NO ONE CHEATS ANY ONE. EVERY ONE SUFFERS PAIN IN THEIR BODY OR MIND DUE TO THEIR OWN MISDEEDS. SO, WE NEED NOT PUNISH THEM AND LAND UP IN LEGAL ACTION AGAINST US OR END UP IN LOSS OF TIME, ENERGY, PEACE AND HEALTH. JUST BE POSITIVE AND MOVE AHEAD IN LIFE!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!