Let us change or else we will lose everything and everyone and will die as an orphan!

hai all...

We have many oldies at home or some rigid personalities groomed by some great parents and ‘sold’ off to us as our spouse to bear for entire life. They spoil their own life and the life of others.

Change is the only thing that does not change. Everything changes on this earth. 

We grow and change in physical appearance and behaviours. We are different almost after every 5 or 10 years of life. So, if we live for 70 years we will find that we change into at least 7 different people during this period. 

Climate changes. Cities, villages and towns change. Organisations and processes change. 

Technology, the main dictator of ‘way of living’ changes very fast these days. Life cycle of each technology is very small. So, all gadgets we use change fast. 

So, our ‘way of living’ – eating habits, foods we eat, the way we eat, the clothes we wear, place we live, cars and other comforts we use, dynamics at home, way we socialise, way we communicate, emotional exchanges, the way we get the things done, our beliefs on religion, caste, superstition, rituals, customs, traditions, social processes...eeeeeeeeeeeeeverything changes...culture changes...

So, our behaviours change and physical appearance change and we are new different human beings often.

So, is it correct to blame the spouse saying ‘hey, You have changed a lot! You are not the same person i got married to!...you promised me that you will not change! Now you have changed and betrayed me! You have broken the promise you made, the trust i had, the oath you took! etc’

We have to observe our spouse, accept and understand that it is a natural process, accept that we are also changing continuously without our knowledge (which we find it hard to accept) and change to match the other person or at least move ahead in life accepting everything in positive side.

This is the only way to be happy and healthy.

Those who change with people, time, society and nature will be happy, healthy and successful.

Those who are rigid and say ‘I am right. Come what may, i will not change!’ will suffer, get all sorts of diseases, will not be peaceful, blame all, kill others also, will be kept away by parents, children, relatives and every one, feel lonely, and die one day crying.

rams