Dear all...THIS IS FOR PARENTS ARE 'READY-TO-MARRY' CHILDREN...
It is sad to see that some of the traditional-minded parents screwing up their precious life and the life of their children saying 'relatives are asking or pestering or pressurizing'.
1. They want some how to get their children married off (wasting their life time earning!) so that they can walk upright (!!).
2. They want their children to some how have sex with their spouse and produce a child so that they are free from their relatives.
I don't know how much of peace or health or happiness value the so called relatives have in their life!!
These parents also can not think of a family or married living other than the conventional/traditional one. They want every change that is happening in all the domains (e.g education, jobs etc) without any change in the family living which is not possible without sacrificing the vitals viz peace, happiness and health.
This is across the board irrespective of educational or exposure or economic status of the parents.
They think in a state of learned-helplessness that life is full of problems and social issues which is unavoidable as they don't know or can't think creatively about peaceful, happy and healthy living.
In fact, if some one wants to live a traditional married life, then it is better the boy marries some remote village girl or an uneducated servant maid (in future one can not get such people also) or both the boy, girl and their parents sit and discuss and accept and implement the mutually accepted things in words and spirit without any strategic game play like in tv serials.
1. It is better not to marry rather than screwing up the life of another person.
2. 'who will look after when we get old?'....if some one thinks he has produced children to look after them at their old age then he/she is not aligned with Nature and is a fool and their life will be doomed (including that of their children). Social systems also will change and new concepts like life-style-matching old age homes and societies-of-like-minded will emerge. Nothing wrong in them. They are welcome changes!!
3. Changes in language, organisations, social systems (marriage, family etc) and everything is Natural and nothing is in our hands. Everything evolves and changes, matching to the changes in other domains.
4. People will marry but live away from each other due to their job requirements or passion. ('then why to marry if they can't live together?'....marriage for them may not be for sex but for companionship!
5. Many may not be interested in producing children and rearing due to the nature of their job, passion, responsibilities and demands of time, energy, money and various other reasons.
6. For many, sex or reproduction may not be a priority.
7. Many families are likely to be single parent families, all responsibilities shouldered singularly by the girls, even if they live together.
8. Marrying only for sex is like buying a coffee shop saying i like coffee. The marriage will fail miserably.
9. Most of the boys and girls do not know why they are marrying and what they are interested in with the other person...sex? family life with children?...emotional support?... just their physical presence?... or a mixture of more than one of these?.....only after some time after marriage they realise, by then it is too late, and they accept to live like that or break-up legally or physically or mentally or socially. So, one needs to be clear as to what they want out of the marriage or family.
10. Every person and personality is different. Some personalities are fighters that they become politicians or activists or lawyers. Some are highly intelligent and introverts that they become scientists. So, job selection, course selection and marriage partner selection is based on personalities and their professions. If there is a mismatch then marriage will fail.
11. Applying force or tactics or strategies will only fail miserably. Some might appear to be a success but in overall reality they will turn up to be failures.
so, the crux is....BE WITH THE CHANGE AND SUPPORT THE CHANGE TO BE STABLE, HAPPY, HEALTHY AND PEACEFUL.
Peacefully yours...rams....
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