Dear all...THIS IS FOR PARENTS AND CHILDREN...
Today with the flourishing of social networks, mobiles in the hands of every small children with their active presence in social media and the dynamics between girls and boys due to gender inequality in classrooms...RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT is an issue!!
We need to teach the children the positive meaning of people, relationships, how to identify good human beings, how to initiate-grow-maintain good relationships for life time and also how people change in life in different ages and stages which will also change them regarding the time and importance they give for relationships.
First of all, we ourselves need to learn. Does every parent know, has every parent learnt all the above. A big NOOOO!...They think they are experts and they know...but the truth is a big NO!...Any formal education on this...NO!...Has any one been taught...NO!...Every one learns on his or her own and makes 'perceptions' about what is right and what is wrong about making images/assessments about people, relationships etc.
What is to be taught to children?
1. Love nature, grow Nature, Worship Nature, Don't destroy Nature, Live with Nature, eat Natural products that have less starch and less fat. Live a Vedic Life. Radiate and let this spread to all your people around.
2. Do yoga, running, walking, cycling and playing group games. Let people around you see the radiance in you, positive thoughts, feelings and behaviours in you due to these and follow in their lives too!
3. Be kind, good,helpful and positive to all around. Don't differentiate people based on their religion, caste, language, region etc. Instead, love their different life style and imbibe those which are healthy, positive and suitable to you.
4. Read all books of different religion, sciences, management, history, geography, engineering, medicine and every book that you feel can add value to your 'life'. Let 'LEARNING' be purpose of your life. i.e becoming a good, healthy, peaceful, happy, multi-skilled, multi talented personality with lots of knowledge and wisdom.
5. Live a meditative life i.e BE IN THE PRESENT!...Remember, there is no rise or fall in life. There is only learning in life. No one takes everything that he has 'earned'. Every one takes only those he has learnt. So, travel all over this earth (not just the 'world' which probably means only the 'land'!). Live with people of different religions, races, on hills, forests, oceans, seas, deserts, mountains, valleys. Read, observe, enjoy, experience and LEARN.
6. Give double the goodness to your friends when they give some goodness to you. Teach them also how to keep doubling this goodness we give in relationships and multiply and make it strong and long in life!
7. Remember that the interests, wants and needs of people keep changing approximately every 5 years of living. So, they keep changing the time, quality, importance, priority and intensities in their relationships too. But, remember, when there is a selfless, devotional, strong, positive, enduring, 'giving' is the backbone of the relationship, it will last forever as the backbone and life line of life!
8. If you live like this you will on your own find out and be able to list down your friends, your priorities for them, their importance in your life, the value that they have in your life and be able to decide your life partner or soul mate.
Then what else, go ahead with your life with them!!
This is what, i suppose, we need to teach the children from the age of 5 years!!...Do we know this?...Do we do this?...What do we teach them?...Are we teaching the right thing?...If we are teaching then why are we anxiety struck every moment about the children and their relationships?
Peacefully yours...rams...Health Psychologist.
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