THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO FEEL THEIR LOVE IS A FAILURE!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO FEEL THEIR LOVE IS A FAILURE!!

Volumes and volumes have been written in my blog about love (type 'funnyrams' in google and click the top most link...if you like, tell all your friends and relatives too so that they also get benefitted!). Here is yet another one!

We keep hearing this word LOVE FAILURE!!

First of all 'What is Love?' and 'What is love failure?'

When do we say we love some one?...When we feel that we are 'attracted' towards some one for some reason known or unknown with or without physical or emotional relationship??

Ok, This situation can be one sided or both sided...i.e only one feels the attraction towards the other or both feel that they are attracted towards each other!!

When only one person gets attracted towards the other and feels his or her love is failure, then it is not correct, as we can't force anyone to fall in love with us as (because no one can force us to love anyone!) it is a natural feeling that springs inside a person!...One might turn the earth for the other person, but if the other person does not feel love, you can't help it!..But certainly this is a life time experience and it affects the person positively or negatively!

When we say 'attraction', then question comes, "How long it will or can lost?...How long the same intensity can lost?"...This changes from person to person!

Only in cases of DEVOTEE kind of love feeling it remains for life time!...What is devotee kind of love feeling?....i.e feeling that 'This person is my life!...I don't know for what i am attracted, but i am not possessive. I adore this person a lot and all my life is for this person. I don't expect anything from this person. There is no need for this person to be with me or talk to me or do anything for me. The moment i think about this person there is an eternal happiness that flows in me. I feel at peace. I feel out of the world!...This person need not take care of me or do anythingggggg for me! I don't mind this person having any type of relationship with anyone! It does not affect me anyway!...Because 'my love feeling is what matters to me that gives me peace and happiness, i always perceive love from this person...so, there is no question of that person not loving me, in my opinion!'. If one perceives such a love, then it remains for life time...It could be an obsession. But as long as the individual is able to do the chores of life, deliver her / his responsibilities to self, family, organisation and society, then there is no problem!! As this devotee love is beyond the interests, needs, wants and expectations, it can lost a life time!..After all love is a FEELING

All other loves break or get strained or turn into only acquaintance or 'some thing lacks some where'.

The interests, needs, wants, goals, passion, expectations etc keeps changing in human beings. Therefore people get attracted to different people for different reasons to different levels in their life time. It varies and depends upon person to person.

Moment we feel attracted towards some one, we have SOME need, expectation, want etc. Once the need vanishes, then love also vanishes. It can break or just become a friendship or acquaintance. Intensities also keep changing due to several reasons.

Therefore, LOVE FAILURE is OUR OWN PERCEPTION it is untrue and not reality!...Let us understand this love concept in a way, whether it is correct or not, but in a way that it can not affect our peace, happiness, health and self actualisation!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Health Psychologist!!