How to handle when life does not happen in the way we want?...THIS IS FOR ALL......ESPECIALLY FOR THOSE WHO CRY SAYING 'MY LIFE DOES NOT HAPPEN THE WAY I WANT!!'...

💐💐..Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL......ESPECIALLY FOR THOSE WHO CRY SAYING 'MY LIFE DOES NOT HAPPEN THE WAY I WANT!!'...

Our life does not happen the way we want or feel...especially schools...colleges...courses...jobs...marriages...place of living...wants...needs...desires...goals...promotions...medals...awawards...rewards...We want something, but what happens is something else...Nature has given us Coping skills and Defence mechanisms to face these challenging situations...

Defence mechanisms are psychological strategies brought into play by the unconscious mind to manipulate, deny, or distort reality in order to defend against feelings of anxiety and unacceptable impulses and to maintain one's self-schema or other schemas.

there are so many like fantasizing, repression, denial, projection, displacement, regression, sublimation etc.

These can be taught or it can automatically arise in our minds as nature driven to cope up with the situation...

those who do not get naturally, can be taught through counselling and therapies...

when things do not take place the way we want, we get stressed...we get pressurized...we get energized...there is an energy release block which does not allow the energy to get released...But most of the coping skills and defence mechanisms result in suppressed energies or release of energies in health compromising methods and therefore, it stresses the body and mind, which results in psychological and physiological reactions like diseases, disorders, depression, anger, frustration, dangerous decisions etc.

So, THERE HAS TO BE A POSITIVE METHOD OF ENERGY RELEASE, THROUGH POSITIVE COGNITIVE METHODS, POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR METHODS, RELEASING POSITIVE EMOTIONS...to avoid the diseases, disorders and ailments etc due to defence mechanisms and coping strategies and skills.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!