THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS...(FUTURE PARENTS TOO!!)....

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS...(FUTURE PARENTS TOO!!)...

Every human being is born as a child. It has to be GROWN and DEVELOPED to be a RESOURCEFUL human being to withstand all odds and live on its own.

If it is left on its own from childhood, it will face all the challenges every second and with the Nature's support and gifted ability to cope up, it generally develops resilience and survives to live.

But wrong parenting in our culture makes the organism to be DEPENDENT on others for even small things and becomes incapable of living independently on this earth. So, parents need to subject the children to adversities and positive adaptation right from the time of birth.

There is no point in protecting the children saying 'He is a child. What does he know. He will learn as he grows later. We have to protect him now!...Exposing to adversities will make the child to get burnt in life!'. If this is done then the child never develops to an adult in real sense and there is no point in blaming the child later that the ward is not capable of living independently, not capable of facing the challenges, wants the parents always to their sides etc.

Of course, the adversities and positive adaptation levels required should be commensurate with the capabilities of the child!

Physical growth is not the growth. Mental growth, skill development, resilience build up through facing all kinds of adverse life situations and developing positive adaptation are the indicators of growth and development.

Parents can play the role of only trainers, guides, mentors, supporters, teachers, motivators to groom their children. So, let us be POSITIVE PARENTS, using positive methods of parenting.

If we are already grown up in to adolescents or adults, then let us voluntarily expose ourselves to adverse and challenging situations in life beyond our boundaries of comfort, commensurate with out stage in development, with an attitude of positive adaptation to the developmental tasks or challenges so that we really grow, mature and evolve!!

Peacefully Yours...Rams...Psychologist!!