THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY YOUNG AND MIDDLE AGED PEOPLE...

Hai all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY YOUNG AND MIDDLE AGED PEOPLE...

The name of stigmatic 'Old Age' home has to be changed to something pleasant so that it is not a taboo or social evil issue. So, let us change it, and not blow it up, and create a 'TV' serial like culture of blaming youngsters!!

If people cry and crib in being such places, then they are the negative minded TV serial like characters who have created their own destiny due to negativity.

If they feel it is hell, then it is self created. Their own deeds, their own karma, bad parenting, bad value systems, by being bad examples, they have landed up there.

They have only grown the children...with whatever value systems they followed and taught them...if children are money or wealth minded, then it is due to their own grooming...if the children are emotionless then it is due to the grooming of the parents....

all the blames of the parents of their children goes back to them for their grooming...

if parents blame that their children don't know how to live, then the parents have not taught them how to live...

No one would keep any one away, if that person is of use, full of positive energy, potential resource, not a pain, not a personality disorder case, of good emotional, physical and some support, and if not a help, at least not a pain!!

If we are alone in this highly populated world, then it is due to our own selves...our own distressful, suffocating, neurotic and non-harmonious, rigid, unacceptable, personality traits. Due our own adaptability issues.

It is not possible for two people who are dwelling in different phases of life with different interests, likes, dislikes, duties and responsibilities, bio drives, etc to live together if they are not adaptable with each other, if they don't understand each others stage in life, accept people as they are etc.

Old people have to accept that due to aged, deteriorated, less secretions of neurotransmitter condition etc of brain will be scared, will not be risk taking, may not be confident to do things, so they should not keep scaring and discouraging, shouting at young people, who know the oppurtunities and new skills and ways to come up, excel etc.

They have to accept that everything is amenable to change, including culture, life style, way of living, definitions of marriage, living, family etc. Based on profession and it's demands.

They should only say 'We are old and belong to a different obsolete generation. As long as you pursue health enhancing life style and be a good role model human being it is ok. Tell us how we can support you. We are full of positives, love, care and unconditional support for you. Tell us how we can be of use to you!'...I am sure such parents will not be thrown out of the hearts and homes!

TV serial characters are sure to land up in isolated places, alone as they are personality disorder cases!!

When the children are weak without education, money, ability to stand on their own, they will remain quiet and when they become independent and confident, then they are sure to throw their parents out of their lives, out of their homes etc. The aged people reap what they deserve.

so, the crux is...

1. Be a positive role model parents. Do yourself what you expect from your children later.

2. Be a positive energy attracting people around you.

3. Don't keep nagging youngsters with your 'those days...' stories.

4. Remember, our parenting methods are negative motivational methods and are sure to make the children win, but as burnt out and emotionally damaged people. Shouting, stick dependent and egoistic, rigid, MASTER-SLAVE conceptual parents are sure to end up alone.

5. Live with people of your age, likes, dislikes, 'those days...' stories, like minded, like life-styled people.

6. Create your own fantasy world and live like the way children do.

7. Create a reality life of nearby children, nearby youngsters...be useful and helpful...show love and affection, which only you can give at old age.

8. take some time pass activities you like e.g temple, bhajans, satsang, gardening, pet animals, loving birds, nature, climate, sun, moon, forest etc etc. Don't keep your life as 'my children are my life and everything!'. This is not the way nature has created life. It is only our culture creation.

9. Don't through your life weight on your children. it will burden both.

10. Never be dependent on the children. It is not negative. This is the way we are supposed to live. It is out duty to nature, god, earth and the creator to just produce children, groom to self confidence, and leave them to live their life. If you have created them in a way they will look after you, they will surely look after you.

11. We are not here to some-how save the culture. we are here to live peacefully, happily, harmoniously, healthily and allow others also to get these in their lives.

12. THIS IS FOR YOUNGSTERS.....Mostly life of a person is changed from others depending upon their profession/job they pursue, their passion, goals, interests, personality traits (mostly related to profession and social living) and the place of work, culture around, food available there, climate etc. So, every one can not follow the same model of life and living...but our parents do not know or understand this...they force or expect every one to live like them or their culture or people around them with the same model of family, marriage or life and living. This causes distress and life becomes traumatic!!....So, define your concept of life, family, marriage etc. But always be a good human being, try to to towards being an ideal human being. Never derail from peace, happiness, good health etc. On the name of safe guarding the culture model which was set during the era of 'social evils, no education and job oppurtunities, no oppurtunities for skill development and life experiences'. Love all. Help all. Support all. Without compromises and sacrifices in your peace, happiness and physical-mental and social well-being!!!.

13. With oppurtunities in education, skill development and job all over the world it is not possible for every one to be inside the four walls like in the past when these oppurtunities did not exist. So adapting to this change through positive changes in culture, thoughts, definitions, life style, living is the only way. Else both the parties will suffer blaming each other and the system, culture etc.

14. Govt and private organisations have to buildup many places of living with all support facilities necessary for them...depending upon the paying capacity, likes and dislikes, community they want, etc of such people so that they can live peacefully

Peacefully yours...Rams....Psychologist!!