hai guys and gals...hope you are reading and enjoying the posts!
most of the time when our needs or wants are not met, we look for sources of these.
If the sources are human beings, then we can get the needs and wants met by forming a relationship or without forming a relationship.
when we form a relationship for meeting our needs and wants...ie for getting one happiness, we might land up in getting more sadness...as we are looking at only the shining thing, our needs and wants for that moment...and we presume that the need or want would persist for ever in our life...some of them persist...some of them do not persist...they are momentary needs and wants, which we are not knowing...
so, we latch on to a human being for that short lived need or want...when it is getting fulfilled we don't see the springs of sadness in that person. When it is quenched or reaches a steady state of flow of happiness from one to the other, then the springs or traits of sadness become prominent, some times masking the springs of happiness in that person, and we no more sense the happiness.
At this stage the source of happiness becomes a source of sadness!
also, the legal and social issues stem up and stand in front as monsters...which affect the flow of springs of happiness from one to the other.
so,
1. identify if the need or want is a permanent thing in life (e.g emotional support, physical support, financial support, sexual support etc)
2. if permanent then form a relationship
3. if not permanent then do not form a relationship
4. see the legal and social aspects. They can be overcome by migrating to a place or country or a society where it is acceptable.
5. weigh the happiness and likely sadness
6. if the balance goes down on happiness side then go ahead. If the balance goes down on the sadness side then do not go ahead.
ok guys and gals...keep rocking!
rams
most of the time when our needs or wants are not met, we look for sources of these.
If the sources are human beings, then we can get the needs and wants met by forming a relationship or without forming a relationship.
when we form a relationship for meeting our needs and wants...ie for getting one happiness, we might land up in getting more sadness...as we are looking at only the shining thing, our needs and wants for that moment...and we presume that the need or want would persist for ever in our life...some of them persist...some of them do not persist...they are momentary needs and wants, which we are not knowing...
so, we latch on to a human being for that short lived need or want...when it is getting fulfilled we don't see the springs of sadness in that person. When it is quenched or reaches a steady state of flow of happiness from one to the other, then the springs or traits of sadness become prominent, some times masking the springs of happiness in that person, and we no more sense the happiness.
At this stage the source of happiness becomes a source of sadness!
also, the legal and social issues stem up and stand in front as monsters...which affect the flow of springs of happiness from one to the other.
so,
1. identify if the need or want is a permanent thing in life (e.g emotional support, physical support, financial support, sexual support etc)
2. if permanent then form a relationship
3. if not permanent then do not form a relationship
4. see the legal and social aspects. They can be overcome by migrating to a place or country or a society where it is acceptable.
5. weigh the happiness and likely sadness
6. if the balance goes down on happiness side then go ahead. If the balance goes down on the sadness side then do not go ahead.
ok guys and gals...keep rocking!
rams
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