Why multiple relationships?...what will happen to evolution?

hai friends...how are you?...

hope you are nicely laughing and enjoying the life!...the short life!...before you go to the furnace!!

about music...

so, at home there are people who like music...and who do not like...actually those who do not like are not actually disliking or hating music...it is just that they are not in a mood to listen to it and enjoy...no romantic moods...they get it only when on bed for just few seconds or two / three minutes and after that again get anxiety struck!...it is because our culture of always remaining in 'anxiety' (fear of unknown), 'stress', mentally preoccupied, responsibility struck etc...in our culture if we are singing and dancing we are marked as irresponsible...if we are serious, sad, restless, thinking, in a spin always, then we are marked as responsible, good husband, good boy etc!!!...is this correct?...what a bloody culture we have created!!!

i had an uncle...my father's sister's husband...he never liked music...he used to shout at me when i played any music...i used to think 'Bloody mad guy!'...does not know how to be happy and enjoy!...

do you like seeing sad faces?...No, is it not!!!...so, if we put up a sad face who would like to see us or be with us?...so, the best way to keep people with us is to put up a smiling face!...then you will become a honey comb and all bees (both male and female) will be lined up in front!...it is not the youthful skin or colour of the skin or good face that brings beauty but it is the smile that makes the face beautiful.

woffff...i have gone out of the topic...where i was???...oh! yes!...that mad uncle!...one day my father had borrowed an Akai two in one music system...the state of the art latest system (i am talking about 70-80s!!!). I was extremely happy and listening to the songs throughout the night. My bed was near a window. Other side of the window this mad uncle was sleeping. So, he could hear the music. He was not getting sleep and was shouting all the time. So, i kept the speaker cloooooose to my ears that i only can hear. He kept quiet. I was enjoying. Time passed. At about 4 am i can hear the sound of he getting up from his bed, opening the door and coming inside. I got scared and switched off. He quietly came and said 'Mani! just play the previous song!...keep the volume little high!...ok!'...he said this and went to his bed. Then what, i just played that song many times, as i also liked it very much. Here is that song...just check if you like it...if you don't like it then you are worst than that uncle!...or you are a true indian soaked in anxiety all the time...so, what are you?...mad mad person or true indian?...here is the link...http://youtu.be/35MsK32jRgw

if you like that song, then here is a bonus melody song from the same movie...

http://youtu.be/NLMI93Adt98

ok...enough of jing bang...let us move to the topic of the mail...

we have a north pole and south pole...a magnet has two opposing ends...we have people with just the opposite characteristics...but still there are forces of attraction connecting them to show that world is round!...to show that sparks can take place...to show that relationships can exist between them...

yesterday, i had said in my mail that multiple relationships are unavoidable in the years to come and we only have to look at how to look at it...or tackle it...the reason is here...

the world will be increasingly competitive as years go...due to less natural resources and more demand...so, to be successful and surviving organisations have to be CREATIVE...i.e different from others...in their products, services, processes, raw materials, technology used etc. To bring in creativity, the people have to be creative...if they are not they would be thrown out...in fact, only creative students will get jobs!

children are highly creative...nature has produced us with creativity...but our memory based education system kills this creativity...at the end of 16 years of education when we go for interview they want creativity!...what a bloody sad state of affairs!!...so, let us groom creativity at schools, colleges, if not, at least at homes!

we are not machines...to work without using our brains...in most of the jobs brain is required only during initial days of learning...after we learn and get experienced, our hands and legs can just do it without the need of brain...e.g bathing, shaving, cooking, cleaning etc. So, we get bored with jobs fast and our quality and productivity reduces.

that is why in Job Design, we try to bring in the CREATIVITY element, i.e thinking all the time on job and every time and every job differently...out of box...this is a real challenge for the job designers, as bringing in creativity in every job is exttttremely difficult...e.g typist's job!

and we want the job to be entertaining...so that we are able to be more productive in quality and quantity...free from feeling boredom...creativity itself reduces stress and refreshes...of course, dead lines will not work in creativity...the idea can come in just one minute and can even take hours...good environs are important...may be in natural setting...that is why when we get bored or stressed during job we can play golf and come back...golf ground is all green with grass and trees...when trees are there birds are there...natural sounds...silence...peace every where...and you are playing!!!...this is the reason golf grounds or billiards are there in software companies or modern companies...so, natural setting, stress free mind, cool thinking is required for us to be creative...

also when we are single and scratching the balls, we feel not that good...when we are a team, group where cohesiveness exists...feel friendly...no hierarchies...no distances...peer group...no competitive feeling...the feeling or aim is to win as a team, and not as individuals...fun...fun and fun...then creativity is at its peak...specially when we have handsome guys and good looking girls (of course, brainy too!!) in the team!!!

creativity unfolds in any art form...in painting...drawing...sculpturing...singing...playing an instrument...dancing...in fact, any thing that is done with creativity and body parts is an art!!!

any art eases the mind, makes us to feel like a feather...lighter...relaxes...a feeling of ecstasy...a feeling of out of the world...floating in space experience!!!

and now a days there is no discrimination between boys and girls in education and jobs...all are equals...so, equal or in fact more number of girls are in to organisations...in intellect demanding jobs...

so, if we look at the environment in organisations...creativity...working as a group...good natural environs...artistic form and feeling in work...more girls...group entertainment...group games...fun..fun...and fun...sparks can occur in the minds of the people...people tend to like others in the groups and teams...they might like spending more time in their jobs...as the whole environment is refreshing and soothing...full of happiness, happiness and only happiness!!!

Tell me who will hate this job or company or environment or PEOPLE???...so, we start liking and loving the job, company, environment and people!!!...so, likes can mature to become loves...or both can co-exist...here the like or love is not from the physical looks (even not so beautiful group members can also get attracted between each other) but from the radiating happiness from each member and the 'intellectual compatibility'...it might be from they might have lots of differences in their likes, dislikes and personality traits...but they unite in one particular aspect...being creative...being intellect...being happy loving...so, this is out of the ambit of 'physical attraction' and 'personality traits'...because members might have many traits not liked by the others...but the prominent trait of flexibility or compatibility of the need on job can make them get attracted towards each other...

Now, tell me, will this not lead to multiple relationships?...of course, most of the girls may be clear...might be able to clearly distinguish and mark the limits, borders and comfort zones...might clearly identify the type of relationship they have...but MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMen???? who generally can feel only one relationship with all girls, we know what it is!!!

in such an environment 'possessiveness' and 'expectations' can lead to disasters!

so, the positive mental state which some people have...remember that village girl?...in yesterday's mail...that is the type of mentality which can keep us positive...

anyway...it is a never ending debatable topic...

but we should remember one thing...culture is not defined by us...inside the home...it is dictated by environment outside...which is not in our hands...however much you restrict being inside the homes we have to come out...even small societies can not remain closed groups...even the big closed and heavily guarded soviet union broke out!!!...so, where are our homes, caste groups, societies etc!!!...nothing!!!

culture is not defined by human beings, it is the technology which always dictates the culture...our way of living...the way we perceive the life to be!..e.g mobile phones and internet have changed the culture upside down.

There is no point in discussing what is right and what is wrong!...we can do sweat 'f' all about it!!!

we have to only look at how to be happy, healthy and successful within the envelope!!!...or try to find an orderliness or system within disorderliness (may be perceived!)

any change will have a transient phase where the system goes unstable and depending upon the 'tow'...the time constant...the system settles faster or slower...so, in the society, organisations and homes too we will find all sorts of problems of divorce, break ups, tears, murders, chathak chathaks...dumeel dumeels...frustration...depression...suicides etc...but after many years it will settle down...

all differences, discriminations, rules and regulations have been created by us...nature has not created...so, in the evolution process we will reach where we started with!...making it a perfect circle!!!...the universal theory will hold good...nature always wins...and not the human beings!!!!

bye guys and gals...keep rocking...hope you enjoyed this mail...

bye

rams