THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE OR BREAK-UPS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE OR BREAK-UPS...

We commonly hear from people that 'He broke his trust!'...'I lost trust in her!'...'He promised me soo many things and now he has broken the trust!'...etc...

We keep reading sooo many posts in fb and whatsapp regarding TRUST. Unfortunately all those who write all those posts or create those memes are those who are of the same kind with the same knowledge about relationships...love etc.

What is trust and how it is perceived?...In case one out of the two in the committed relationship has friendship with one or more people, with emotional involvement, physical relationships, or spends more time, energy, money and other resources, then we say that the person has breached the trust. The trust is broken etc.

This definition emerges out of the POSSESSIVENESS which is negative. 'You are mine only. You are not the property of others. Once you have, and, are committed to me, you can not share your RESOURCES to others. Especially mind, body, Heart and emotions. Certainly not more social time too!!'...This emerges out of the expectations, control, rights and demands.

Therefore, this definition of TRUST which emerges out of the negatives can not give peace, happiness and good relationships in today's context of oppurtunities for ocean of easy relationships for every one. Also one human being can not be mentally happy with just looking at and talking with only one person. There is nothing wrong in having more friendships.

If one does not want to fall in physical relationships, then the gynaec system, hormone system are to be kept low. If they get aroused, then one gets attracted at the body level too. They might say pure love, true love, divine love etc. But the issue is body is involved.

One can get attracted to another person at the mind level, or soul level or heart level, at personality traits, knowledge, skills, wisdom etc too (these are the words used commonly...hihihi!!). But as long as the food and life style habits are not urging or provoking or craving the body then the body can be easily controlled or regulated. Mind can be easily told "Be on track!" and it can tell the body and make it to listen to also!!

Now, coming to Definition of Trust...

Here, in human relationships or life, any definition has to be in such a way that it gives peace, good physical-mental and social well-being to the individual in a long run (not short term).

So, the above definition about TRUST which emanates from negatives and against the NATURAL INSTINCTS can not be right, true and correct.

The right definition for the present social cultural climate that can give us peace can be ANY ONE WHO SHOWS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is trust worthy and we can not blame that person to have broken the trust if that person has more friendships or emotional relationships. As long as the person is caring for us, supporting us, does not expect anything from us, is unconditional, is devoted to us (it does not mean to 'us-only'. It only means whenever we are in trouble or loss of peace or happiness, that person is there with us to care, support and help us.That person accords priority number one, the highest priority to us!). These people are like gods. They are there every where and for every one. But we are special to them. Obviously many can not special to them, because in such a situation they will go mad as they can not care for many stretching their resources to breaking levels. As long as the person says 'I can not see you with loss of peace, happiness and good health. I will not allow you to fall down. I want you to grow, evolve, meet all your dreams, goals, aims, passions, and objectives of life. i want you to be successful in life!...My love to you is unconditional, devotional, motherly, godly, divine and human and therefore, it is pure and true also. You can trust me on this!!'...If some one says like this i think he or she can be considered as trust worthy.

With traditional and conventional definitions it is extremely difficult to find some one trust worthy, to be trust worthy etc. Then every one and every relationships becomes untrustworthy.

The above definition of trust may be difficult to digest or follow, but there is no other way in today's context.

So, the crux is...

1. The conventional and traditional definition of TRUST can not give peace and happiness in today's context of health compromising food and stressful life style habits in all domains of life, which provoke people for multiple relationships.

2. If one wants to be go by the old definition then one has to follow vedic life style of eating health enhancing foods and following health enhancing stress free life styles and belief systems of purpose of life and living. This will keep their body and mind in balance, free of urges and cravings. This will help their body, mind, heart and soul to listen to their inner voice in balanced state and in reality and positive orientation.

3. If one follows the typical today's stressful life, with all sedentary food and life style which stimulate and fire the body and mind to be animals, then the new definition only can help the m to be in peace, good health, happiness and with peaceful relationships in the present culture of explosion of relationships.

4. So, don't crib that HE OR SHE BROKE THE TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...VERY VERY IMPORTANT POST...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...VERY VERY IMPORTANT POST...

All of us have relationships of various kinds.

Without relationships with people we can not live here.

But all our relationships are based on BODY and MIND.

Basically based on needs, wants and expectations related to these two.

Body grows, ages, matures, evolves continuously and therefore its needs and intensities keep changing continuously. It also wants variety. If we connect with people for this obviously the relationship will get strained every day, no peace, no happiness, no good health. Life will be hell.

Mind also keeps changing from childhood. Playful, to responsible, to child production and rearing to maturing etc. Therefore, the moods and interests required for accomplishing these roles and responsibilities only will appear at different times and it may not match with that of the other person in types and intensities. Therefore, if we go in relationship with a person for mind needs, committed or uncommitted, then also it will be stressful, no peace, no life etc.

So, therefore, all relationships based on body and mind are sure to break one day at some level some where.

The relationships are to be beyond these two ...i.e body and mind...based on some energy level match and one should be able to feel and know that....he or she will be happy even without that person in physical form, near by, without any needs, wants and expectations, and we only feel to help, care and support that person unconditionally, devotionally and giving all the freedom under the sky!!

So, find a person and live with that person.

Otherwise all the relationships that you keep forming in life again and again will result in failures only!!

WE NEED TO KNOW THAT ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE TO BE FORMED ONLY FOR SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT AND NOT FOR SATIATION OF NEEDS AND WANTS OF BODY AND MIND!!...ANY RELATIONSHIP FORMED FOR SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT WILL SUSTAIN FOR LIFE TIME, WILL ONLY KEEP GROWING, WITHOUT ANY DECREASE IN INTENSITY!! IT WILL GIVE OUT OF THE WORLD EXPERIENCE EVERY MOMENT WITH THAT PERSON FOR ENTIRE LIFE TIME. BUT ANY RELATIONSHIP FORMED IN THE USUAL MANNER FOR BODY AND MIND WILL, AND, IS SURE TO BREAKKKKKK!!!

Peacefully yours...rams...psychologist!!

THIS IS AN IMPORTANT POST FOR ALL MARRIED AND UNMARRIED...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL MARRIED AND UNMARRIED...especially those in the age group of 15 to 40 years of age...

We can classify the people in to three groups...

1. Most of us in the age group below about 60 years live in this group. These people mostly live a life which is centered around the lower two chakras...i.e below the diaphragm (i.e below the thoracic region)...This region consists mainly of the digestive system, gynaec system and excretory system. This region is mainly related to the PLEASURES of life. When you eat delicious food you feel and experience great highs. When you excrete you feel a great relief and feel the pleasure. When you indulge in recreational activities though the procreative organs...i.e gynaec system, then also you feel great pleasure, orgasm or elated feelings or enlightenment etc. The feelings of every one is different, but all are related to the PLEASURE, because it has the urge or craving to repeat the behaviours which are never ending till the systems become dysfunctional.

Their thoughts, feelings, habits, behaviours, life style, definition of life and day to day living is centered around learning cooking, or finding out the best eating joints, great varieties of foods, earning to eat at the best of the places, drinking or eating or breathing solids, liquids and gases which are PLEASURABLE...most of their talks or socialization are all about these stuff only...i.e eating, drinking, smoking, what we call as love which leads to physical intimacies and sex. They get attracted to people for their physical appearance, social status, wealth, money and fame for satiation of their wants, needs and expectations for body, mind and social needs.

People in this group also have their social belief systems like...education is for getting a good well paid job with authority and power in the society so that we can make lots of money, wealth, get all our pleasures, wants and needs satisfied, attain fame, fear value, socially respectable identity and image through the education and profession. Their social learning revolves around high ego development and satisfaction which is actually health compromising.

These people are dependent more on others for getting their body needs met. So, they indulge in vigorous socialization, especially with opposite sex, to gain physical and mental proximity to meet their recreational needs as explained above. They have high needs, wants and expectations from others.

So, they suffer a lot with disappointments, sadness, frustration, anger, possessiveness, obsession, addiction to people-relationships-pleasurable solids, liquids and gases.

They suffer from all sorts of life style diseases like diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular diseases, mental disorders like depression, anxiety, physical-mental and social stresses within their own selves, at home, at office and in social situations.They can't live in peace, contentment and fulfillment in life. Their family life is a stressed one, may be failure too. Their love before or after marriage within or outside marriage may not be successful.

They can't give caring, supporting, unconditionally, devotionally giving a total freedom environment. ie they can't love people unconditionally. Therefore, they will miserably fail in love in some domain or the other, as their selfish love is based on satiation of own needs, wants and expectations for self motives, vested interests, pleasure based etc.

Mostly they base their profession on body. But even highly educated and those who lead a profession based on brain also live a family, social and personal life based on body and pleasures, below the abdomen...i.e lower chakras.

This is similar to animal life. All animals live a life like this. Based on eating and reproduction. So, all these people may not really love. They exhibit behaviours of caring and supporting to attract opposite sex for pleasures of physical intimacies and sex. They eat all foods that are arousing to taste buds and body...full of spices, oil (deep fried too) and animal food. So, they live an animal life, animal living, indulge in selfish animal sex of few minutes focused on orgasm and therefore, can never satisfy their girls, can never satisfy themselves too for a longer time, resulting in craving for physical intimacies and sex more often in a day, every day with all sorts of varieties beyond the comfort and knowledge zone of the other person. They are also emotionally high always with tantrums. I.e they experience extremes of emotions, multiple types of emotions and love feelings, within a short time and continuously, they are emotional-volcanoes, they may not hesitate to do anything to get their needs and wants satisfied, including self harming to show and prove that they are loving the other person. They are highly insecure, with low self esteem, parasitic, feel lonely often, get sidelined to be alone, they most often perceive loss of trust with their loved ones, they are highly possessive, obsessive, addictive, suspective, sniffy, with policing behaviours. They don't believe their partners. They most of the time live in unreality and fantasies.

Their id state is always very high. Their ego and super ego states of logical analysis, reality living are low. They end up with legal issues, extramarital affairs or premarital sex for pleasures. Their life is body centric. They appear to go always by their heart and not by their brain and their heart always go behind the pleasure needs directly or indirectly, consciously or subconsciously. They think they are right, but their decisions lead to health compromising decisions...i.e those which affect their physical-mental and social well-being in a long run.

So, this is the reason why we are suffering in life.

2. There are some people within this age group who live a life of yoga asanas, meditation, healthy sleep cycle, healthy food cycle and eating habits, they do all sorts of healthy exercises for the body and mind, they play group games, they value people and relationships more than the divisive factors like religion, caste, language, race etc, they understand that every human being is defective in the eyes of others, so they accept every one as they are, they are able to regulate their hormone and neurotransmitter systems through their health enhancing life style, so, they have a stable, cool and calm body and mind, they are able to strike great relationships with people, they are loved by all, their body does not crave or urge, they are able to enjoy all kinds of foods, they don't have the urge to repeat the pleasurable thoughts, fantasies, feelings and behaviours, their body or mind accepts whenever the sources are available and willing, they are generally happy with their life, contented, fulfilled, they are able to live a great reproductive and rearing family life, they get attracted to people more for their overall personality traits rather than their physical appearance, mostly on the mind related issues of people, their human nature etc. They accept destiny as it is. They believe in karma.

These people mostly live a life based on the upper chakras ie above the diaphragm....this region consists of the brain-the processor, all the five sensors, heart and lungs. Their life is centered around breathe and philosophical thoughts. They are generally spiritual. Their life is based on multiple knowledge, skills, wisdom etc. Their perceptions are generally positive and aligned with the Nature. So, their life is not centered around eating, foods, sex, physical intimacies etc. They eat for survival and to remain healthy in body and mind. They indulge in tantric love, tantric sex, tantric physical intimacies, tantric life. So, they are always spiritually high. They remain attached and remain detached too. Their id state is always low. They are more in to reality and within the legal frame work. They have stable rearing emotions. They are responsible to self, family and society. They are not self centric. They don't have vested interests. They are emotionally stable.

In general, they are opposite of all those listed in the first category.

They live a human life and living based on brain, reality, happiness and anandha etc and not like an animal life and living based on pleasures.

They are able to live a satisfactory family life of reproduction and rearing.

In fact, this is the way we are supposed to live, basing the life on top four chakras for peaceful, healthy, happy, contented, fulfilled, self actualised life and living.

But we don't know how to live like this, many do not know that such a life is possible, therefore, they define life like above as in sl no. 1, and say 'Life is a battle. Life is full of happiness and sorrows etc etc.

3. Third category is like buddha, They are not interested in family and social life. They want to live alone. They are totally into spirituality. They are too philosophical. They live generally in isolated places like forests, hills and mountains, far away from civilization. They are unfit for a conventional and traditional family and married life. Such people need to identify themselves and tell their parents explicitly and remain away from marriage, else they will spoil life of their own self and that of another person. They live even without food. They remain alive eating foods in nature without any cooking or mild cooking. In general plant foods. They don't have the conventional and traditional attraction to people and relationships. They are same with all. They don't define relationships with people. They just talk and socialise. They are not attracted to anyone, except the Nature and divine. They have all the positives of both the above categories related to healthy body and mind. They will not have any of the negative and health compromising of the above.

Now...coming to the crux...

1. The first category is minus-infinity. The last category is the plus-infinity. The second state is zero.

2. All of us remain within this continuum somewhere.

3. During different ages we remain in different states of the above.

4. It is better to be at zero state from childhood.

5. It is better to move towards plus infinity during old ages.

6. We consider those at plus infinity during childhood itself as abnormal. But it is not so. They are those maharishi variety. They become spiritual gurus. They are the true gurus. As long as a person is able to do all his personal, offical and social chores, remain conscious and clear orientation, he or she is normal and healthy.

7. Those who are at the center between zero and plus infinity are the staggering varieties, who are confused or even clear (ha ...haa..haaa) between family life and total rishi status.

8. Being at minus-infinity is dangerous and health compromising in all domains of life and living.

9. We have early and late maturers depending upon their life experiences.

10. In married life, it is better to marry people in the same state in the continuum at least at the time of marriage. So, marry people of same age or same state of maturity or immaturity. As we age, mature and evolve one may be ahead and the other may be behind. so, they will find their spouse to be changed and different, not matching, not adaptable etc always. It is a continuous process. We will always find our spouse to be changing and different every five to eight years. It is Natural. It happens to all. We have to accept this. Or we have to age and mature and evolve fast to match with the spouse. It is not abnormal. Any one can remain in any of the above three states or anywhere in the continuum at any age. If we want people, if we want relationships, they we have to accept this Natural phenomenon, adapt, change and be with our people. Maturing with the other person is better than remaining immature.

11. A person who is ahead in the continuum will always feel the other person is immature. The person who is behind in the continuum will always find the other person as abnormal or unfit for family life or social living etc.

12. When we marry people of too much of difference in age (i.e state of maturity....unless the aged person is still not matured or the less aged person is matured) , then we have to accept that there will be large gap in their thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, expectations, definition of life and living, definition of parenting, definition in everything in life. So, they will have to do lots of compromises and sacrifices and have to exercise higher adaptation qualities for a peaceful married life.

13. The zero and plus infinity states are good for peaceful, healthy and successful living. We should be either close to zero or close to plus infinity. Remaining in between is a confused state criticized by the society. But it is a slow process in moving in the continuum and therefore we have to accept the transient states of instability while moving from one stable state to the other.

I can go on typing on these issues endlessly...ha.haa.haaa...

so, more later....or depending upon specific questions if any one has...

Peacefully yours....rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY YOUNGSTERS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALLY YOUNGSTERS...

Today every one is running behind money and wealth.

Many do not have morals and values.

Today from lawyers to entrepreneurs to every person in any profession wants to learn psychology...they want to research on the ways they can change the thinking patterns, feelings, beliefs, likes dislikes, perception on truths, corrects and incorrect, what is status for an individual in the society, what gives them an elated identity and image etc.

Unfortunately most of them are HEALTH COMPROMISING.

They do it in ways that we can't even imagine that they can do such harms to humanity!!...There are some advertisements which beam certain frequencies, and methods of fast changing screen shots, that the brain is made to switch over to lower state of mental energy and become a slave.

They want to master the minds of human beings!!...So, that they can rule and enslave the minds!!

Why should we become slaves?

Why should we become such masters who do not have moral values and ethics and kill the humanity slowly??

On one side makers of all kinds of foods...health compromising liquids, solids and gases create a society or advertisements to make people, especially youngsters to become slave of sedentary and junk foods that can spoil their digestive system and nervous system over a period of time and make them get burnt out or die or succumb to life style diseases.

On the other side the health industry with all sorts of drugs which don't focus and kill the root cause) with superficial pain relievers and side effects are enslaving the youngsters.

So, the crux is...

1. Remember that the advertisements and media news are CREATED by manipulators with self motives. They appear to be good. But truly bad for your body, mind, relationships and life. They are HEALTH COMPROMISING FOR BODY, MIND AND RELATIONSHIPS.

2. Your thoughts are CREATED by them. They are infused. They are simulated. They are not Natural.

3. Here CONSUMERS ARE CREATED BY THEM. It only benefits the manipulators. They have slowly killed the Natural Consumers.

4. The aim of the manipulators is to RULE. Whoever they may be. To be masters. To enslave the humanity.

5. They have gone to an extent of making appearing NATURAL as UNNATURAL. They have made us to believe that STRESS IS NATURAL. Any one who lives with a health enhancing life style and belief systems has been made to be a odd man out.

6. No one can become successful and an achiever in life, keeping great health of mind and body, keeping great family life and great relationships, with out being DISCIPLINED IN ALL DOMAINS OF LIFE AND LIVING.

7. HEALTH ENHANCING THOUGHTS, FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOURS, HABITS ETC WILL ONLY MAKE YOU BEING SUCCESSFUL IN ALL DOMAINS OF LIFE. HEALTH COMPROMISING WILL ONLY DESTROY YOU IN REAL SENSE, EVEN IF YOU BECOME AN ACHIEVER.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL IN WHATSAPP AND OTHER SOCIAL GROUPS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL IN WHATSAPP AND OTHER SOCIAL GROUPS...

Any issue where differences of opinion can be there, it is better not to post in a group, as it generally brings only egoistic arguments, and unpleasantness!!...

When friendships and people are more important than our opinions and beliefs, it is better not to discuss all those!!...

Also, where we don't have control, sensing and processing such data or information is of no use, brings a spoiled day and health, and only wastes our valuable life time on this earth and we lose people and relationships!!

Our media is full of such news!!

Of course, there can be a view that our views might change and make others to grow...also we can grow and improve when we listen to the ideas, opinions and suggestion of others...True...this can happen as long as our purpose is to learn, we are ready to discuss and not argue, we have open mind to listen to others to change and improve.

Also we can say that it can be a best method to vent out our feelings. Why to sense, process and get agitated?...If at all we sense, then it is better to think for a while, as to, what i can do for this?...We can just do that and leave it.

Participating in a discussion is good. But we should have lots of time and energy. Participating in an argument is a waste.

It is better to limit and spend value time for positive thoughts, positive feelings and positive behaviours. It is better to spend more time on self development to become policy makers in organisations and society, so that we can bring in some positive change.

Though, in a society, discussions are better methods of venting out our feelings, aggression, and positive outcomes. Otherwise the energy built up in a system can result in a volcanic eruption and result in a major damage one day!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

How to be successful, famous and achieved in life??

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

People say "I sit for meditation. But i am unable to focus the mind!!"

As long as we eat animal foods and products...as long as we keep eating all sorts of junk foods and masalas etc we will not be able to do real and true meditation!!...They will only increase the urges and cravings, they will drive the body like mad animal, and this animal body will keep occupying the mind all the time and will not allow the mind to think productively towards our goals, passions, objectives, aims etc without anxiety and stress. They will also drive the body for animal sex only, which can never be satisfying for self and spouse!!...So, it can only lead to loss of peace, no satisfaction ultimately in anything in life. No achievement of goals. Always frustration. All relationships will get ruined. No family and social harmony in life!!

Resorting to plant food, that too mainly leaves, stems, flowers, watery fruits, and non starchy roots and attaching more towards Nature, gives a self regulated body...it does not urge or crave...it takes only when we give or when things are available...the body is stable, calm, cool and quiet...it is a fantastic feeling...it is slim, shiny, radiating and healthy. Such a body does not occupy the mind. It remains disconnected from the mind. Such a mind automatically gets enlightenment on its own, it understands what is life, what is the purpose of our birth, it gets interest to learn many things, acquire many skills. It is able to focus on subjects. It is able to concentrate on our job at home or office or social settings. It is able to be in the present. There is no anxiety. There is no stress. it is blissful. It is calm, cool, healthy and stable. There are no disorders. It only spreads love and peace. It can't think negatives. It automatically knows what is good or truth or correct on its own. It automatically unlearns all the wrong learning that have robbed the peace, happiness, good health and spoiled all the relationships so far. It is able to make the person a good human being at home, office and society, the person is able to reach greater heights in life and profession. The person will achieve global fame, wealth, money etc without spoiling the family, personal and social life and health.

In such conditions, the person will enjoy and give tantric life, tantric love, tantric sex, experience orgasm or pleasure or happiness or aanandha each second in a relationship with or without sex or any sort of physical intimacies. There is no way that both the spouse can be dissatisfied with each other in any domain. No love between any two people, married or unmarried can fail. No divorce. No fights at home. No fights between lovers. No break-ups. There is only pure and true love. No hates ever.

So, the crux is...move on to plant foods as mentioned above, leave the animal food and products. leave all the foods or preparation or cooking methods or masalas which arouse the body to animal life, animal love, animal urges and cravings, animal sex, animal living, animal relationships, being an animal at home, at office and in society. Move on to loving the Nature, being with the Nature, adoring Nature, Yoga asanas, true meditation, understanding the life, day to day living, differences in people and live a healthy, happy and successful life enjoying knowledge, skills, experiences, wisdom, success, achievements, fame, money, wealth, great relationships, physical intimacies, sex.....Evvverthing that you want in life!!

All the best!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL BOYS WHO WANT THEIR LOVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL BOYS WHO WANT THEIR LOVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL...

Remove the needs, urges and cravings for physical intimacies... and thoughts, feelings and behaviours related to physical proximity and sex.

Your love will become genuine, understood, get respected, will get loved back, true love, pure love and sure to be successful!!

It will be true caring, supporting, unconditional and devotional.

It will not only be successful, it will burn and live for entire life!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

a great comment received for this is below...

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'எல்லாவற்றையும்' இருக்கும் போதே விட்டு விட்டால், 'எல்லாம்' கிடைக்கும் !!

புரிய வேண்டியவர்களுக்கு புரியும்.

there are sooo many changes occurring in all domains of life. Should we adapt to all and everything?...Is it possible?..

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Adaptation is the basis of peaceful, healthy and successful living.

Adapting to people, places, environs, organisations, life situations, climate, destiny, changes in life style, culture, education system, economy etc is the minute to minute and day to day activity, whether consciously or subconsciously.

When we don’t adapt, we feel stressful, we lose peace, happiness and life becomes a hell!!

But there are sooo many changes occurring in all domains of life. Should we adapt to all and everything?...Is it possible?...Will it not be stressful?

Some of the changes are HEALTH ENHANCING. Some of the changes are HEALTH COMPROMISING.

So, we should adapt to health enhancing changes...which are called the good changes.

We need not adapt to health compromising changes for any feeling of goodness we derive due to it.

Wherever we adapt, we must find out the methods of adapting through health enhancing methods and change with the change.

e.g All types of fast food, non healthy liquids-soilds and gases are available with the status-brand. An image has been created by the manufacturers that by drinking or eating them or visiting such places where they are available can give them a status symbol, or give a modern or educated or elite person image/identity. They should be avoided at any cost.

Health enhancing life style is sleeping at 10 pm, getting up early at 5 am, doing yoga, meditation, walks, runs, group games, being in present, defining life as a “Journey of Learning”, accepting people and life situations as they are, attaching more with nature, caring and supporting people unconditionally and devotionally, day by day improving step by step in different knowledge, skills, experience and wisdom till death and giving all these to others.

Health compromising life style is not sleeping 7 hours during night, not doing any relaxed physical exercises that result in sweating, elated feeling etc, eating all health compromising foods, missing meals, late or early meals, not eating balanced diet, drug abuse, sending health compromising gases-liquids and solids inside the body, mind full of negative thoughts, experiencing negative emotions and feelings, having health compromising habits and behaviours etc, following beliefs, convictions, rituals and definition of life and living which are health compromising.

So, the crux is adapt to health enhancing changes and in health enhancing ways!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Psychologist!!

If u think FITNESS is costly, try ILLNESS....!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

Many think FITNESS is costly. Then they can try out ILLNESS!!😉

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS AND STUDENTS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS AND STUDENTS...

Mostly the parents who are born, brought up and living in the birth place try to live a community or relatives centric life. Even if they know that it may not give them much of growth etc, they are scared, not interested in any change, and still make compromises and sacrifices and live as per the likes of their community/relatives circles.

Most of them force their children also to live the same type of life. Children feel this is idiotic and get highly stressed, as they feel it is obsolete and redundant type of life which no more exists. So, a war goes on between the children and parents. In to day's world of whatsapp and facebook when they see their classmates doing very well in all domains of life, they feel frustrated and suicidal.

The point is If we have to grow in wealth, health, global fame, power, authority, achievements, money, happy relationships etc more than our parents, then we have to live differently!!...Our definition of life, day to day living, hobbies, marriage, family, relationships, professional life etc has to be different from that of our parents!!!

Our parents might have taken to greater levels compared to our grand parents. But if we have to go further, then we have to further change everything mentioned above.

So, the crux is....

If we live like our parents, then we will either reach only their levels or less than that!!

WITHOUT A CHANGE, CHANGE IS NOT POSSIBLE!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

THIS IS FOR ALL...SPECIALLY FOR THOSE ABOVE 40 YEARS OF AGE.

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...SPECIALLY FOR THOSE ABOVE 40 YEARS OF AGE...

Our people generally stabilize with their definitions of life and living, what is right, wrong, good and bad etc by about 40 years of age and thereafter they don't want to change. They become almost rigid. Unless doctor tells 'You are in danger! You can't live any further unless you change your life style in thoughts, feelings and behaviours!!'.

They only want fun and do not want to hear anything which is different from their convictions. They also feel insecure and worried if the people at home will change and leave them or start creating discomfort at home. So, generally they protect them also and ensure that nothing different enters the home, or their ears or eyes. They feel "After lots of struggles i have convinced my wife/husband and children about life and living! I don't want any one to change them!!'

So, what happens to them?

After 40 they don't grow at all...in knowledge, wisdom, money, wealth, power, fame, authority, maturity, evolution...everything!!
They waste their rest of nearly 40+ years of life!!

They perceive everything and everyone as threats!!

They are always scared and worried!!

They become possessive!!

They are anxiety struck always!!

They are always stressed!!

They are always worried about the unknown future!!

They just sit in the easy chair at home and keep criticizing people at home, in society, politics, relatives, friends...everything and every one!!

They are rigid and have high expectations, needs, wants, demands etc from every one at home and around!!

They even threaten every one!!

They create a suffocating and toxic environment around them for self and others!!

They make their life and others life a hell!!

They are slaves to their own selves and slave others too!!

They don't know the meaning of freedom and feel what they enjoy is freedom!!

All these become a perfect breeding ground for diseases, ailments and disorders of their body, mind and social relationships!!

They become lonely and keep blaming others for their state, land up in old age homes and mental asylums.

They even don't like reading posts like this and perceive people like me as threats for their life and family!!

There are sooooo many who live like this in our families and society!!

So, the crux is...

Those who change with the changes around in all domains enjoy freedom, live happily, peacefully, get the love and affection of others, are not thrown in old age homes and mental asylums, spend their rest of their life meaningfully, allow others also to grow, see that their family tree grows in real sense and define the perfect way of living, meaningful family and leave a perfect and great culture for their off-springs and progeny!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!

Are you interested in enjoying the pleasures for entire life?...You want to achieve bigger goals in life?

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR YOUNGSTERS!!

Air Pollution!!

Water Pollution!!

Land Pollution!!

Sound Pollution!!

RF Pollution!!

We blame all these pollutions for our loss of peace, diseases, ailments, disorders, happiness etc.

We are bothered and worried about soooooooooooooooo many pollutions happening around us spoiling our habitat!!

Are we bothered about our own BODY POLLUTION?...MIND POLLUTION?...RELATIONSHIPS POLLUTION??

Body pollution due to consumption of chemicals mixed in the food like preservatives. Packaged foods contain these. Melting of carcinogenic chemicals from packaged containers into food. Especially hot foods. Chemicals added to food for making them tasty and attractive. Food cooked in a health compromising way (deep fry) and using oil and such other dangerous stuff is a slow poison. Food polluted with polluted air, water, land etc. All these pollute our body, and bring-in diseases, ailments and disorders. We eat medicines which further pollute the body with side effects and kill the organs and systems slowly and steadily.

When we eat all these our body gets ignited and occupies all the mind, drives the mind, for satiation of further urges and cravings of the body. Body gets stressed. It creates thoughts, feelings, needs, wants and expectations from our own selves, from others around and from environment for satiation of the needs. It drives the mind, mad!!...End result is wasted time, energy, money, spoiled relationships, loss in productive time towards other things in life which we are interested in (passion, hobbies, goals, aims, achievements, activities that give happiness (social service, gardening, pursuing art forms, sports, listening to music, watching non provoking soothing movies, reading etc))

Mind pollution due to polluted body as described above due to polluted liquids, solids and gases that enter our body. Mind also gets polluted due to all the wrong (untrue) health compromising ideologies, faiths, beliefs, way of living, definition of life that we have created against the Dictate and Mandate of Nature, in the form of Strategies, Norms of Social Living, Myths of Social living etc. All these result in personality traits that are health compromising. Polluted mind further affects the polluted body. It drives body to indulge in unsafe activities, illegal activities and crimes which can cripple our life in jails.

Polluted body and mind also affect our socialization, as we go to others for needs, wants and expectations, there by affecting our relationships and making us alone and feel lonely leading to depression and suicides.

There are many good human beings who all the time worry and fight against animal killing, animal abuse, advocating stoppage of consumption of animal food and products of animal foods. Some of them even tell plants have life and therefore don't kill the plants, it pains them, so eat only fruits and vegetables, by plucking which the plants do not feel pain and they produce these for consumption of others, don't eat leaves, stem and roots etc. But are the aware that their own body cells, tissues, organs and systems are crying against the pollution and due to their abuse of body and mind with preservatives and other chemicals which go along with food while cooking, packaging, serving, transportation etc.

Are we born for eating only?...That too all these health compromising foods??...Are we born to live and enjoy the life with only the BODY URGES??...Have they ever given peaceful happiness other than urged-craved-never satisfying-pleasures??

Sedentary life style drives the body for such sedentary health compromising foods resulting in diseases, ailments and disorders that give PAIN. Pain is unbearable. It makes us to feel 'IT IS BETTER TO DIE RATHER THAN LIVING WITH THIS PAIN!!'. Are we ready to take injections every day??...During such painful times and when doctors tell us 'You have cancer!.You have AIDS!...Your liver is gone!...Your kidneys have failed!...Your heart is gone!..You have ulcer!!' we realise and it is too late by then and we can't save our body. We lose the only opportunity of enjoying this life!!...Our dreams, aims, passions, and goals will all get burried in the grave with us or get burnt on pyre in crematoriums!!

What is the way out?

Body is asking and driving you mad due to wrong health compromising life style.

Do yoga.

Sleep by 10 pm and Get up early and go for walks, runs, cycling etc.

Breathe fresh oxygen. Take long and deep breathes as many times as possible.

Play group games involving fun, physical activity and sweating. Play to enjoy rather than winning.

Do meditation at least for 5 mts. Practice meditative living.

Laugh a lot.

Eat only fresh foods. Avoid unhealthily cooked, packaged, chemically treated and cooked foods. Carry stainless steel containers for parcels.

Eat more of leaves, stem, flowers, vegetables, water rich fruits, radish and carrots.

Avoid other roots and fruits.

Avoid animal food and products.

Indulge in health enhancing life style pursuits...Keep away from health compromising life style pursuits.

Be with Nature, or create Nature around you.

Be assertive to say NO to any one when they urge you for all the health compromising thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Your body and mind are the most important than anything and anyone. Not worth gaining anything by spoiling these two vitals which are important for making all our dreams to come true, to achieve all our goals and aims in life. Back bone of relationships is RESOURCEFULNESS!!....So, if you are having good human qualities and other resourcefulness, no one will leave you from relationships!!

Slowly reduce all the above. Slowly change your life style. So, that you are able to sustain the change for entire life. Abrupt and aggressive change over night will stress the body and mind, will urge you, force you not to change, then you will give up, fall prey to the devils of health!!

When you do the above, slowly you will relieve your mind from body. You will enjoy everything, every moment, every activity, every person, every relationship. You will enjoy the pleasurable feeling of goodness too without urges and cravings. Your body will listen to the mind. Your mind will listen to the body. Both will reach the self regulating capacity. They will not disturb your life and living. Your mind will be balanced, peaceful, calm, cool and steady. You will be able to focus, concentrate, be in the present. You will understand everything you read. If you read one page, your brain will be able to think hundred pages out of it. Your intelligence, creativity and hardworking capacity will improve. You will never get tired. You will always feel fresh and rejuvenated. You will do well in your profession, passion and relationships. You will be able to work hard. You will not feel tired. No pains of body, mind and relationships. No Diseases, ailments and disorders. You will be able to plan, coordinate and execute all your plans at home, office, personal and social lives. You will reach your goals. Your aims will get achieved. There will never be confusion in your mind. You will always be able to take decisions that are good for you and others. You will understand the value and meaning of life, relationships, people etc. You will become a good, noble human being. You will be liked by all. you will be successful. Never you will go wrong. No one can exploit you or cheat you. You will always be able to sense, avoid or break the strategies of others on you. You will have a strong body and mind. You will have the best of the people in your relationships. You will always feel enlightened, elated and orgasmic through your mind, without usage of the body for these. You will be successful in your personal, social, organisational, family and spiritual lives!!..Your life will be happy, healthy, contented, fulfilled, self actualized and self transcended.

And most importantly, GOD, KARMA WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU!!

So...... the crux is....everything and all the above depends mostly upon the liquids, solids and gases that go inside our body!!

When these are healthy, create and motivate us for health enhancing life style, help us to sustain this life style to form a habit...and help to radiate and spread as culture to all around!!

Mothers are the best people who can bring this inside the homes through positive methods with love and affection in words, feelings and behaviours.

Peacefully yours....Rams...Psychologist!!