THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE OR BREAK-UPS...

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...ESPECIALY THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE OR BREAK-UPS...

We commonly hear from people that 'He broke his trust!'...'I lost trust in her!'...'He promised me soo many things and now he has broken the trust!'...etc...

We keep reading sooo many posts in fb and whatsapp regarding TRUST. Unfortunately all those who write all those posts or create those memes are those who are of the same kind with the same knowledge about relationships...love etc.

What is trust and how it is perceived?...In case one out of the two in the committed relationship has friendship with one or more people, with emotional involvement, physical relationships, or spends more time, energy, money and other resources, then we say that the person has breached the trust. The trust is broken etc.

This definition emerges out of the POSSESSIVENESS which is negative. 'You are mine only. You are not the property of others. Once you have, and, are committed to me, you can not share your RESOURCES to others. Especially mind, body, Heart and emotions. Certainly not more social time too!!'...This emerges out of the expectations, control, rights and demands.

Therefore, this definition of TRUST which emerges out of the negatives can not give peace, happiness and good relationships in today's context of oppurtunities for ocean of easy relationships for every one. Also one human being can not be mentally happy with just looking at and talking with only one person. There is nothing wrong in having more friendships.

If one does not want to fall in physical relationships, then the gynaec system, hormone system are to be kept low. If they get aroused, then one gets attracted at the body level too. They might say pure love, true love, divine love etc. But the issue is body is involved.

One can get attracted to another person at the mind level, or soul level or heart level, at personality traits, knowledge, skills, wisdom etc too (these are the words used commonly...hihihi!!). But as long as the food and life style habits are not urging or provoking or craving the body then the body can be easily controlled or regulated. Mind can be easily told "Be on track!" and it can tell the body and make it to listen to also!!

Now, coming to Definition of Trust...

Here, in human relationships or life, any definition has to be in such a way that it gives peace, good physical-mental and social well-being to the individual in a long run (not short term).

So, the above definition about TRUST which emanates from negatives and against the NATURAL INSTINCTS can not be right, true and correct.

The right definition for the present social cultural climate that can give us peace can be ANY ONE WHO SHOWS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is trust worthy and we can not blame that person to have broken the trust if that person has more friendships or emotional relationships. As long as the person is caring for us, supporting us, does not expect anything from us, is unconditional, is devoted to us (it does not mean to 'us-only'. It only means whenever we are in trouble or loss of peace or happiness, that person is there with us to care, support and help us.That person accords priority number one, the highest priority to us!). These people are like gods. They are there every where and for every one. But we are special to them. Obviously many can not special to them, because in such a situation they will go mad as they can not care for many stretching their resources to breaking levels. As long as the person says 'I can not see you with loss of peace, happiness and good health. I will not allow you to fall down. I want you to grow, evolve, meet all your dreams, goals, aims, passions, and objectives of life. i want you to be successful in life!...My love to you is unconditional, devotional, motherly, godly, divine and human and therefore, it is pure and true also. You can trust me on this!!'...If some one says like this i think he or she can be considered as trust worthy.

With traditional and conventional definitions it is extremely difficult to find some one trust worthy, to be trust worthy etc. Then every one and every relationships becomes untrustworthy.

The above definition of trust may be difficult to digest or follow, but there is no other way in today's context.

So, the crux is...

1. The conventional and traditional definition of TRUST can not give peace and happiness in today's context of health compromising food and stressful life style habits in all domains of life, which provoke people for multiple relationships.

2. If one wants to be go by the old definition then one has to follow vedic life style of eating health enhancing foods and following health enhancing stress free life styles and belief systems of purpose of life and living. This will keep their body and mind in balance, free of urges and cravings. This will help their body, mind, heart and soul to listen to their inner voice in balanced state and in reality and positive orientation.

3. If one follows the typical today's stressful life, with all sedentary food and life style which stimulate and fire the body and mind to be animals, then the new definition only can help the m to be in peace, good health, happiness and with peaceful relationships in the present culture of explosion of relationships.

4. So, don't crib that HE OR SHE BROKE THE TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS!!

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!