Many Indians love to have nuisance value than usefulness value!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL...

In a competitive society of present, we need to see only the positive things from other people who move forward in life (in our perception), how they went ahead etc so that lessons can be learnt and we also can move forward in the direction we decide. Friendships with these people with positive thoughts, feelings and activities will help us to usefully gain in life and move forward!!

But generally people take up wrong, negative direction of feeling JEALOUS!!

When some people say 'Every one should feel and talk good and great about us!!'...'naalu peru nalla padiyaa pesanum!'...'naalu peru mathikkanum'...what they mean is 'every one should feel jealous about me!'...Jealous being a negative, why should we make others to jealous about us?...Why should anyone feel jealous about others?...Some parents are role models for their children in this 'feeling jealous about others' and they spread around!!

When one feels jealous, then that person loses the usefulness value to others...they only become nuisance value to their siblings, friends and relatives...they only become a bundle of negative energy!!

Many enjoy REVENGE, another thing of negative energy, which only comes back and keeps coming back and going to others...to spoil our life!!

Many Indians have more nuisance value than usefulness value!!

Many Indians love to have nuisance value than usefulness value!!

We fear with police, politicians and other people in financial, legal, religious authority, power and administration due to their nuisance value than their usefulness value!!

Parents also portray many times themselves as having more nuisance value...to bring in fear in the minds of children!!

Gods also are portrayed with dangerous attires or appearance so that fear spreads in the minds of people, with more of nuisance value!!

'God fearing people' are believed to be with good morals and ethics!!

It is believed that fear only can make a person to be a good human being!!...so, 'fear' is being used as a weapon in our culture to bring in positive changes!!...Nuisance value is being used to induce fear!!

Parents expect the children to have a fear of parents, teachers, gods, religious leaders, spiritual leaders, administrators, elders etc.

Behaviours that emanate out of fear or mingled with fear, for a person, his positional authority, status in society are all seen as respect to that person...his status etc...fear is associated with respect!!

So, fear is a part of grooming and parenting...both at home, organisations and in society.

People like when people exhibit fear towards them. Many extract work out of people through their fear or nuisance value. This is seen as the best or only way of extracting or making people to work by some leaders and administrators.

Many adolescents want to become police or IAS etc so that people fear for them.

Expecting people to fear for us is an ego need. This shows that we have too much of ego...i.e Me...I...I am the boss...I am the king...every one is below me...workers under me...slaves...i am the master...etc...which is not good for good mental and social well-being. As every one will go away. Relationships will fail. We can only retain the body. Not the mind.

Sad!!

One person said other day that he gets immense pleasure in taking revenge on others...i also found this person feels jealousy of others almost all the time!!

Peace is more important in life than all these!!

Mental health is important!!

Without peace, it is not possible to get happiness, good health, contentment and fulfillment in life!!

Unfortunately, the population increase, material maniac culture-society-life-living induces more survival challenges pushing people to derail from morals, values and ethics...to 'survival of the fittest' game...urge to be the fittest in the competitions...(perceived??)...to 'over night fame'...'over night money and wealth'...'over night power and authority'...leading to 'over night loss of health and life!!' also!!

Culture needs to change from fear, jealous, revenge, ego, nuisance value to...love, positive thoughts, positive feelings, positive attitudes and behaviours...like usefulness, caring, kindness to mankind, helping etc.

Only then physical health...mental health...and good social relationships can prevail in life...as life is more important than living!!

Peacefully yours...rams...Psychologist!!