How to tackle and change the parents and grand parents and how to manage the dynamics at home?

Dear all…THIS IS FOR ALL…HOW TO HANDLE THE PARENTS AND GRAND-PARENTS AT HOME?

In a system where we have a dependent variable that is dependent on many other variables, change of one will have its impact on all other variables.

Any system where two or more human beings interact with definite roles and responsibilities in an organized manner becomes a social system. And the elements, i.e human beings are of different characteristics, origin, development history etc. Therefore, marriage, family, all the love affairs involving body etc become social systems.

During olden days following were not there:-

1) Oppurtunity for basic and higher education
2) Global education and working
3) Job oppurtunities
4) Oppurtunity for global socialization
5) Oppurtunity to pursue varieties of professions
6) Oppurtunity for skill development in varieties of skills and competency levels improvement in skills to global standards
7) Oppurtunity for global travel and that too instant travel possibility
8) Oppurtunity of cheap and instant communication
9) Oppurtunity of global entertainment, education, work and entire living and life on palmtop.
10) Easy affordability of all the above

We can list many like this!

All these have changed the way we live…AND THEREFORE, THESE HAVE CHANGED THE DEFINITION OF RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGE, FAMILY, SOCIETIES, ORGANISATIONS, ROLES, STATUSES AND RESPONSIBILITIES of every one IN THESE SOCIAL SYSTEMS.

All these therefore, have changed the beliefs and definitions we had in the past about girls, boys, man, woman, husband, wife, siblings etc, their capabilities, their characteristics, their likes, dislikes, interests, freedom, personal space, their social envelope, their strengths and weaknesses and the entire social dynamics between all these people.

We need to understand and accept all these!!

If someone decides not to change, then they can’t be part of any of these social systems anymore without damage to peace, happiness, physical-mental and social well-being. 

Therefore, we need to change…redefine all the above in accordance with the changes…in way they are health enhancing!

These kind of changes always existed, but only thing is now it is happening rapidly and adaptation is a challenge and requires conscious efforts and skills. The old people at home, relatives’ circles and society may not know this or may not be able to change, they may not have required skill sets and also at this pace. We need to explain all these and keep them stable and confident, as the best Change Agents!!

All the best!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!