Why some one is rich inspite of being a bad person, and why some one is poor inspite of being a good person. Why a bad person gets a good wife and a good person gets a bad wife? Why relationships are suffering?

Dear all…ONE QUESTION AND ONE ANSWER…

Qn. Why some one is rich inspite of being a bad person, and why some one is poor inspite of being a good person. Why a bad person gets a good wife and a good person gets a bad wife? Why relationships are suffering?

Ans: Anyone can give many answers for these questions. No one can prove any answer to be right or wrong. There is no scientific proof. If we discuss such issues with others with a closed mind or fixed belief then it can lead to only ego centered argument with no positive end result. If we discuss with an open mind to analyse and accept the answer that gives us good health, peace, happiness and other positives then it is good.

All of us and various societies have a yardstick of measurement…quality standards of life and living to be good, bad…we measure rich and poor by money and wealth, beautiful and not beautiful by external appearance...But Nature has different method and yardstick of measurement…We may think that yardstick as 'how much a person is peaceful, happy or physically, mentally, socially healthy, contented, fulfilled, matured, grown, evolved etc towards becoming an ideal and noble human being somewhere near equivalent to god or becoming a true deciple of god'.

If one is good, only good will happen to that person, only thing is, that...(1) He or she should know the definition of a true, ideal and noble human being and should know whether he or she is one of that Nature, where does he or she stand in the continuum between good, bad and neutral ...(2) So the person should know that whatever happens is only good for that person to grow...mature...expand...evolve...

We will not get what we want...we will only get what we deserve!!

What we deserve is whatever is required for us to become an ideal human being!!

Relationships are suffering because our ‘immediate’ ancestors believed that ‘dependency between people for needs and wants only can keep a relationship forming, growing and sustaining’. But under these circumstances only fights, frustration, anger and sadness and distancing only will occur when needs, wants and expectations are not fulfilled….but our ancestors felt that ‘this is life…this is how it is!’ because they felt that after some time when the needs, wants and expectations are fulfilled then these negatives will go. So, the believed that both positives and negatives are part of relationships, life and living.

And many psychology counsellors born in this same culture feel it is right and talk the same thing 😰

But independence and total freedom brings out the true love in them for the other person!!

A culture of dependency, slavery, ruling, demanding, Division of Labour will only bring agony...pain...fights...sadness...bleeding of hearts!!!...A failed relationship and family system!!😰

When one loves the other truly, he or she will not keep quiet seeing the lover suffering. Then automatically compromises and sacrifices arise...caring and supporting arise...not when demanded and ruled...through rules and regulations!!...Love can't be demanded....It has to spring from within on it's own.

Here i am not referring to the words,feeling and behaviours of caring and supporting that arises when one is aroused for pleasures from the other. i am referring to THAT ARISES WHEN ONE IS NOT AROUSED FOR NEEDS AND WANTS!!...When it arises out of human being or humaness in a person when no rules, regulations and expectations are there!!

Peacefully yours…Rams…Psychologist!!