THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE FOR ALL PARENTS.....

Dear all...THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE FOR ALL PARENTS...

Every human being should do some service or perceive what ever they do as a service for contentment and fulfillment in life.

The best, noble and biggest service one can do is...."NOT ASKING OR PRESSURIZING THE OTHER PARENTS TO MARRY OFF THEIR CHILDREN" with all their learnt experiences or hear-say stories.

The parents who hear such suggestions also should not get frustrated or pressurized and do things in haste. They should take their time and do things to the satisfaction of the two people who are going to live together. Marriage is much much more than just a function, or celebration or arranging a hall or inviting people and serving them food. Marriage is much much more than matching the educational qualifications or caste or religion or status or height or colour etc. IT IS MAKING A LIFE. For some it is SPENDING THEIR LIFE LONG EARNING. Haste in this leads to waste. Gone are the days when girls adapted as no other way to be alive. Today, they don't. If they divorce, then life of both the parents and the children gone...status gone...all their hard earned money gone...many remain inside their homes as they are shy of coming out in society!...Why all these pains and losses??

The biggest loss in life is in failure of a marriage rather than failure in buying any other item or even a property!!

So, why to be in haste, listening to others?...Sadly marriages are a big business in India and therefore, smart parent wins the business deal. Loss is always to the two who get married in a business deal. Marriage agents are interested in their own profits and most of the others are tv serial characters...either have vested interest or want to get that cruel-happiness spoiling the life of others!! 

Today, every one's life is different depending upon their profession, place of living, likes, dislikes, ambitions, goals, passion etc. So, the old standard formula will not work out.

Every parent of today is equally qualified than the other. Every child of today is more experienced than their parents. No boy falls for the next door girl or no girl falls for the next door boy, as a healthy socialisation persists at school level, unlike in olden days when girls were not allowed to socialise with boys after attaining age. Today's world is totally different from old. So, every one knows everything.

The girls and boys, who get pressure for marriage from the parents and other elders also should not act in haste, due to emotional issues. It is a life time issue of your only life on this earth!!...How to handle the issue and the parents etc have been explained in the blog funnyrams (the top most link in google search).

So, let us not keep asking or suggesting or advising or pressurizing other parents. Instead, we can spend our valuable life time in our own entertainment, skill and knowledge development for fun, improving our life etc.

Peacefully yours...Rams...Psychologist!!