don't think there is only one way to live in family life!!

Hai all...

Every human body is different. Every mind is different. The way we grow, we perceive, the way and to the extent of developmental tasks we get exposed, the love and affection we get, the grooming we get etc decides what we become.

Even the twins are different in Behaviours.

So, the life (beliefs, faiths, rituals etc) and the way they live (behaviours), their definition of happiness, social health and success are different.

There fore we can not force or expect every one to live the same way we live or their community people live, or others live.

Some enjoy the family living as a child, some enjoy hostel, some enjoy with few friends, extroverts enjoy more friends, some enjoy married life, some enjoy being alone, some enjoy live-in, some live as per the 4 stages i defined in one of the posts earlier on LOVE...i.e loving some one without ANY expectations like a pure devotee (like Gopis, Andaal, Meera etc who loved Lord Krishna and devoted their life), serving their lover etc...they live a pure karma life...for others they might appear to be fools, don't know how to live etc...they believe in 'self less service is the true form of love and life' which is true also...they are out of the materialistic world...for others it might appear to be a fantasy life...not reality...but when reality is not giving peace, happiness and good health and fantasy gives, what is the wrong in following that...especially when they are only helpful to every one and do not harm anyone...

so the crux is...

1. marriage or family or married life what we perceive is not just the only way of correct or right living

2. we can not expect or force any one to live like this only

3. any life or practice of living where they get peace, happiness, good physical-mental-social health and self actualisation/self transcend without affecting others life negatively and living positively for others is a good and correct life only

4. so let us format our social brains and start writing the new peaceful philosophies

peacefully yours...rams...social psychologist