Hai all...
another FAQ...
"sir, nowadays my wife does not listen to me!!...but she listens to others and spoils our peace and life!!...why?"
this is because in a relationship where there are unfulfilled needs, one will not listen to the other...
they will listen to all those with whom they don't have any need based relationship or their needs are met through them...
needs could be in any dimension like financial, physical, mental, social, emotional, legal, intellectual, spiritual, etc...
as we have created all our relationships with needs, based on needs...need satiation as the purpose...need as the nucleus...the atom of relationships is never in a stable condition...the proton and neutron do not listen to each other always...even if they know that the other person is talking sense, reality etc...
during the initial days of marriage generally the needs of both are same or they generally bend to any level to get the needs satisfied, as the need for physiological need satiation is the basic of existence, and so can make the organism change to the best levels of adaptation...so, one listens to the other...
but later as the physiological needs fade away or diminish and other needs take priority, the adaptation levels decrease, so one is unable to or not in a mood to satiate the needs of the others...as they evolve to different levels of needs and wants stages of their life individually and also in the family environment...(the family environment changes when they are lovers...immediately after marriage...when the children are less than 13 years of age...and children before marriage...after they leave home getting married...)...slowly the 'i don't agree with you' condition worsens and a stage comes where one does not listen to the other completely...so, though there are likes and dislikes here and there somehow the bullock cart moves on the pitty roads of their life throwing them up and down...here and there...
where there is an obsession of one with the other even if the need satiation is not there the obsessed person will listen to the other person completely, always and ever...obsessed person might think logically and realistically, but will do as per what other person says, as, for the obsessed person nothing matters, only the other person matters!! Now don't ask me 'Whavvvvvvvvvvv...this is great sir!!...tell me how to make any one to get obsessed with us!!'...it is not with the object, i.e us, but depends on the mental state of the other person...but obsession is not a healthy state of mind!!
devotees also listen to their Master or the object of their obsession...depending upon their level of devotion...
you might have noticed that one listens to the other whenever the needs are satisfied. If the needs are satisfied to a less level then accordingly the 'listen' level also changes...
so, the crux is...........
1. if you want the other person to listen to you, make their needs satisfied either through you or by other means...if it has to be always, then see that the need satiation is met all the times...if you want it to be there only when you have needs, then you can meet his/her needs at that time (provided there is a need of that for that person that time!!)
2. don't try to make a person obsessed or devoted (devotee) to you using wrong methods of using natural or man made chemicals to change the neurotransmitter levels in the brain (the way some masters or swamijis do!)
3. Love is the only best tool to make a person tuned to us!!
peacefully yours...rams...psychologist...
another FAQ...
"sir, nowadays my wife does not listen to me!!...but she listens to others and spoils our peace and life!!...why?"
this is because in a relationship where there are unfulfilled needs, one will not listen to the other...
they will listen to all those with whom they don't have any need based relationship or their needs are met through them...
needs could be in any dimension like financial, physical, mental, social, emotional, legal, intellectual, spiritual, etc...
as we have created all our relationships with needs, based on needs...need satiation as the purpose...need as the nucleus...the atom of relationships is never in a stable condition...the proton and neutron do not listen to each other always...even if they know that the other person is talking sense, reality etc...
during the initial days of marriage generally the needs of both are same or they generally bend to any level to get the needs satisfied, as the need for physiological need satiation is the basic of existence, and so can make the organism change to the best levels of adaptation...so, one listens to the other...
but later as the physiological needs fade away or diminish and other needs take priority, the adaptation levels decrease, so one is unable to or not in a mood to satiate the needs of the others...as they evolve to different levels of needs and wants stages of their life individually and also in the family environment...(the family environment changes when they are lovers...immediately after marriage...when the children are less than 13 years of age...and children before marriage...after they leave home getting married...)...slowly the 'i don't agree with you' condition worsens and a stage comes where one does not listen to the other completely...so, though there are likes and dislikes here and there somehow the bullock cart moves on the pitty roads of their life throwing them up and down...here and there...
where there is an obsession of one with the other even if the need satiation is not there the obsessed person will listen to the other person completely, always and ever...obsessed person might think logically and realistically, but will do as per what other person says, as, for the obsessed person nothing matters, only the other person matters!! Now don't ask me 'Whavvvvvvvvvvv...this is great sir!!...tell me how to make any one to get obsessed with us!!'...it is not with the object, i.e us, but depends on the mental state of the other person...but obsession is not a healthy state of mind!!
devotees also listen to their Master or the object of their obsession...depending upon their level of devotion...
you might have noticed that one listens to the other whenever the needs are satisfied. If the needs are satisfied to a less level then accordingly the 'listen' level also changes...
so, the crux is...........
1. if you want the other person to listen to you, make their needs satisfied either through you or by other means...if it has to be always, then see that the need satiation is met all the times...if you want it to be there only when you have needs, then you can meet his/her needs at that time (provided there is a need of that for that person that time!!)
2. don't try to make a person obsessed or devoted (devotee) to you using wrong methods of using natural or man made chemicals to change the neurotransmitter levels in the brain (the way some masters or swamijis do!)
3. Love is the only best tool to make a person tuned to us!!
peacefully yours...rams...psychologist...
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