THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO FACED AND FACING LOVE FAILURES IN LIFE..

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO FACED AND FACING LOVE FAILURES IN LIFE....

Many in the past have love failures...they have their butterflies still fluttering or buried alive inside their hearts, and living(?) with their better halves!!

Even now there are many love failures...even while i am typing this there must be many facing break ups or love failures at this moment...!!

every day there are many love failures, before marriage or after marriage, or physical or mental or social love failures!!

of course, there are many new loves also formed each moment...even now at this moment...somewhere in the world!!

Why loves fail????

we always blame the other person...But the truth is LOVE FAILURES ARE BECAUSE OF US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1. One sided love from our side

2. Expecting other person also to love us (when we feel we can not be forced to love some one!!)

3. Not able to cope with the other person's needs, wants and expectations

4. The other person is not able to cope up with our needs, wants and expectations

5. our own various rigid personality traits, health compromising traits, our own traits that does not make the other person to perceive peace, happiness, health, contentment and self actualisation in the relationship with us

6. changes that continuously take place with in us like likes, dislikes, hobbies, thinking, beliefs, issues related to aging, job pressures, life and social pressures, financial hard ships, life threatening grave challenges like loss of job, parents, etc etc

so, love failures are allllllllllllllllllllllllll because of us...let us change ourselves....loves will remain...new loves will bloom...

let us stop blaming the other person for love failures...stop being sad, hating, harming the other person, harming ourselves, sinking, attempting to suicide, adopting health compromising behaviours etc...it just requires a change in us...that is all...adaptable change...physical-mental-social health enhancing change....then we will embrace the new world, new love and new people waiting for us in this vast world!!...this earth will appear to be heaven then for us and for others, through us!!

peacefully yours....

rams