THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO WANT TO EXPERIENCE LOVE!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL THOSE WHO WANT TO EXPERIENCE LOVE!!...a man loves a girl in three ways...before or after marriage....

1. Lusty love

2. Caring love

3. Society-sake love

When he experiences lusty love he becomes a Shakespeare!!...Rumi!!...All the best literature and poems of his life time are written by him. He will buy anything she wants!!...He goes unstable within his stability band. This tender love is the most liked by all girls!!...Of course, only till they also peak. After that if the boy goes nearby he will only get the kicks of an Arabian Horse (If you don't know watch it in youtube!!). This is the time he has to switch over to Caring Love mode!!

Lusty love commences and vanishes in few minutes unfortunately!!...Once he tastes the cherry on the cake it vanishes instantly. Then there is only caring love which is accepted by the girl like 'ok..ok...i agree that you love me!!...stupid!!'...After few hours again when the lusty love reappears he again starts shaking and becomes Shakespeare!!

Lusty love is mmmore before marriage. It is always accompanied by caring love also. Caring is mmmmore universally before the first experience. After that caring love keeps fluctuating and it varies from person to person. We can not specify a universal standard theory on this.

Lusty love decreases once the reproductive cycle is over and all dry up!...This is the time they start feeling 'My husband no more loves me!!'. It totally vanishes at the terminal years of life!...But girls long for it for entire life!!

Lusty love can vanish temporarily when challenges of higher magnitude are experienced in life by the boy (e.g loss of job, dangers of losing job, high competition in job, high achievement orientation, anxiety and stress disorders, other diseases and ailments related to the body and mind, death of parents-children-people whom he loves a lot etc). Such challenging moments in the girl's life also makes her numb for lusty love. She expects only caring love that time. Lusty love only brings irritation and 'dog!!...dog!!' feeling!!

Lusty love can permanently vanish due to terminal diseases or diseases that affect the brain, endocrine system and reproductive system. This type of love can get less pronounced with life style diseases!!

Lusty love is related to the health of his own neurotransmitter secretions in the brain (for mood), the endocrine system and the reproductive system. Those who live a non-sedentary active life have a positive, enhanced, more pronounced, long living lusty love. Those who live a sedentary life have a short, less pronounced, pleasure driven lusty love.

So, those who want to experience more and long lusty love in life have to keep their life style positive, active, bubbly bubbly, regulations in eating, stress, exercises for body and mind etc. If mind is empty then it can get filled with any type of love abundantly.Those who have pressure cookers in their brain and mind always can not even whistle, forget about any love!!

The arousal factor on the side of both the boy and girl is an important element of lusty love. Of course, arousal factor depends upon two elements 1. Physical Appearance 2. Personality Traits. Though, Personality Traits are sufficient for love to spring and remain active through out life, even to ignite lusty love, it is wiser to keep the Physical Appearance cream also of the cake!!

Caring love is the main cake of the pudding. If caring love is not there, then lusty love has no meaning. Caring love only is also not liked by the girl. She wants the cherry fruit also!...Love without caring love is not Love!!...Girls should learn to differentiate the behaviours related to both the types of loves to identify and classify the love of their lover and accordingly name the love and take a decision to continue the love for life or not!!

Caring love is the one that sustains the relationship at the later years. Also the recurring deposits done every day, every moment, over the entire life time from the lover-days to older-days and the accrued interests only brings in the interest to love and attraction to remain in the relationship.

A girl who marries a boy, whether love or arranged marriage, if comes to know that it was only lusty love and there is no caring love, cries for entire life time!!...Some boys are lusty and caring, but if their belief systems, personality traits, habits etc are nasty then the love is lost!!!!!!...All their lusty and caring love will go to the dustbin!!...(e.g of belief systems are 'all lusty girls are whores!', 'girls are only for sex!', 'a girl leaving her parents behind and eloping with a boy has to be a whore!') ....Then the girl renders only society-sake love!!...

Personality traits that make a girl to serve only society-sake love are arrogant short tempered behaviours always, liar to the core, barbaric and brutal, no respect for women, physically and mentally abusing and such other in-human personality traits etc.

Girls have the caliber to correct many of the personality traits of boys with their love and care provided the problematic personality traits of the boy are within the comfort and acceptability zone of the girl.

Society-sake love is a love where there is no lust and no caring. It is 'two people living inside four walls without any emotional relationship'!!...Truly there is no love between the two. They live 'to-gether but not together' for the sake of the children, parents, society, dependency of the girl/boy etc.

Peacefully yours....

rams...Health Psychologist.