THIS POST IS FOR ALL THOSE WHOSE LOVERS ARE SEPARATED BY DISTANCE...

Dear all...THIS POST IS FOR ALL THOSE WHOSE LOVERS ARE SEPARATED BY DISTANCE...haa.haa.haa!!

All animals do not have the ability to think...we think...so we perceive...so we feel inside in our heart and brain...we express emotions...we laugh...we wonder...we cry...we display behaviours...we call it love...there is no one on this earth ever who has not loved!!

In the past no one traveled far. They had oppurtunity to interact, communicate and express feelings, opinions etc with only known and nearby people. So, the PEOPLE WERE PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE TO THEM.

Today through internet one gets oppurtunity to interact, express, exchange feelings, discuss, talk with people far away by land distance, oceans, mountains and what not, as if they are just sitting in front of them!!...The only difference between the past and present is they can not physically touch each other. Only mental proximity is possible and not the physical proximity!!

This poses several problems of needs, wants and expectations not being met. Every one who is in love wants the other person to be next to them. Then why they fall in love with people far away? But it is also not possible to say who gets attracted to whom and it is a natural process and love can not be forced!!...So, forcefully we can not love the people near by. Our oldies say 'Interact and see with people around or with people near by, you will fall in love!!'...they go by physical attraction through body needs and limited mental compatibility.

But today in the e-age and 'high achievement' motive world 'intellectual compatibility and associated emotional compatibility, adaptability' takes paramount importance in formation of emotional friendship and love!!

Physical attraction comes distinctly as lust, separated from love, and they don't mix both. They lust and love same person or lust some one and love some one. All combinations and possibilities exist.

So, who falls in love with whom, when, what distance away are all not known. So, in such situations how to love without all negatives like sadness, frustration, shouting, anger, break-up etc?

1. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is the only way. There is no other way!! When it is conditional and when lover is far away, whether before marriage or after marriage, Life will be hell and that relationship 100% will not lost long. Break-up or divorce is for sure!! ...either physically or mentally or socially!!

2. when it is unconditional then anything available is felt as abundance. Even a small sms will give an enlightened effect of heightened feelings!!...Love can never fail. It can only increase every moment. So, if you like some one fall in love, unconditionally, always, throughout life, before marriage or after marriage.

3. There is a method of being numb or 'being numb selectively' with respect to feelings through cognitive methods like self-talk etc....so that we are able to show unconditional love, but why should any one miss that pleasure and happiness of 'feelings'..'intense feelings'...in life?...especially when it contributes to creativity, art forms, skills, beauty, talents, improved self concept, self esteem/self confidence, resilience, courage etc??...

So, we only need to train our brain to teach or tell our heart 'when to feel' and 'when not to feel and be numb or just observe the negative feelings and allow it to pass over like a passing cloud'. The passing cloud may pour water on us, but it is up to us whether to 'feel drenched' or 'enjoy the shower'. So, in distant love relationships we need to know when to feel and when not to feel so that we only enjoy positive emotions and not negatives!!

peacefully yours....rams!!