hai all...
our ladies have got the habit of checking out 'whether my lover or husband or father loves me or not...how much he loves me?' etc...they are curious to know whether others love them or how much (in types, width, depth and what not!!) they love them.
love can not be measured. It can not be hidden. It is not shown by every one in the same way. It is not shown by one single individual also in the same way throughout his or her life. Some times verbal. Some times signs or body language. Some times by 'looking after nicely'...during normal days...during sick times...during confused times...during troubled times...during high physical and mental risk times...through all physical, mental, social, legal and what not!
the most important thing is 'they consider the workaholics as 'not loving' people'...they consider them as 'mechanical' 'wood' 'without emotions' 'does not know how to love etc'...first sample...
they consider those who adore their beauty, appreciate their work, give enough kisses, hugs and cuddles ('konjals') in verbal and by action...in short 'who satisfy them emotionally'...second sample...
if we compare both the type of men, it is clearly visible that the first group of workaholic men like their family...because the family is great they are able to concentrate and enjoy the work...which will give them elevations, status etc which the family also enjoys...this is one part...
the other part of these people are that 'they don't expect anything from their wives, i.e emotionally...they accept what they get...they give what they can...they are happy within the 'natural emotional envelope' that exists between them and their wives...they don't demand...in love life what you give is what you get and what you don't give is what you don't get...
the other part of people who are 'konjal' variety, can not continue with their love life if they don't give or don't get...their life revolves around this fulcrum...
if wives are ready to take the risk, they can stop providing all that their such husbands (sample two) want or expect and watch what happens to their 'konjals' and their love...how they change?...how they change in their other behaviors at home, office and society? etc...
research is after all all about 'study of cause and effect relationships'...dependent variables, independent variables and constants...
after all this study you will find that
the first sample are actually loving their family a lot, but unable or do not know to show their love...they show in their own way...traditional way of providing financial, social and legal security...and to an extent emotional happiness...the variables from the wife's side will not affect their way of showing love much...
whereas the sample two...will show all their anger, frustration, inadequacies, dire needs and wants, urges, longings, desperateness, thirst or hunger, shortages etc in various ways...it affects their functioning each second wherever they are and it affects their and others' social dynamics...
i only said about the majority and not those minority in both the groups who do not conform to the majority....
so, can we say that the sample one are the best and actual lovers????
rams
our ladies have got the habit of checking out 'whether my lover or husband or father loves me or not...how much he loves me?' etc...they are curious to know whether others love them or how much (in types, width, depth and what not!!) they love them.
love can not be measured. It can not be hidden. It is not shown by every one in the same way. It is not shown by one single individual also in the same way throughout his or her life. Some times verbal. Some times signs or body language. Some times by 'looking after nicely'...during normal days...during sick times...during confused times...during troubled times...during high physical and mental risk times...through all physical, mental, social, legal and what not!
the most important thing is 'they consider the workaholics as 'not loving' people'...they consider them as 'mechanical' 'wood' 'without emotions' 'does not know how to love etc'...first sample...
they consider those who adore their beauty, appreciate their work, give enough kisses, hugs and cuddles ('konjals') in verbal and by action...in short 'who satisfy them emotionally'...second sample...
if we compare both the type of men, it is clearly visible that the first group of workaholic men like their family...because the family is great they are able to concentrate and enjoy the work...which will give them elevations, status etc which the family also enjoys...this is one part...
the other part of these people are that 'they don't expect anything from their wives, i.e emotionally...they accept what they get...they give what they can...they are happy within the 'natural emotional envelope' that exists between them and their wives...they don't demand...in love life what you give is what you get and what you don't give is what you don't get...
the other part of people who are 'konjal' variety, can not continue with their love life if they don't give or don't get...their life revolves around this fulcrum...
if wives are ready to take the risk, they can stop providing all that their such husbands (sample two) want or expect and watch what happens to their 'konjals' and their love...how they change?...how they change in their other behaviors at home, office and society? etc...
research is after all all about 'study of cause and effect relationships'...dependent variables, independent variables and constants...
after all this study you will find that
the first sample are actually loving their family a lot, but unable or do not know to show their love...they show in their own way...traditional way of providing financial, social and legal security...and to an extent emotional happiness...the variables from the wife's side will not affect their way of showing love much...
whereas the sample two...will show all their anger, frustration, inadequacies, dire needs and wants, urges, longings, desperateness, thirst or hunger, shortages etc in various ways...it affects their functioning each second wherever they are and it affects their and others' social dynamics...
i only said about the majority and not those minority in both the groups who do not conform to the majority....
so, can we say that the sample one are the best and actual lovers????
rams
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