how we become rigid by attaching ourselves to the 'first' fantasies we come across in life!

hai guys!

what is knowledge?...knowing that salt has its unique taste. What is wisdom?...knowing that we should not mix it with sweets.

when we read something, we tend to form 'bed rock' mental structures or other mental short cuts...'this is like this only! It can't be other way!'...we are convinced about it...

this makes us rigid...makes us to argue with others...as we close our mind with just one concept of something...one definition of something...

whenever we read something, we associate that with our past knowledge or wisdom or mental structure that is stored in the brain...then we form opinions...whether it is right or wrong...if it matches, then we feel it is right...if it does not match, then we feel it is wrong...and vehemently oppose it...because we are 'emotionally attached' with out belief...e.g if we are convinced that 'god exists' then we oppose anything that is different from this. We are unable to accept anything different than this.

this is wrong as it closes our brain, stops growth and we will not learn anything new or correct.

that is why we should not learn only one side of any issue or follow only one religion or read only one holy book or listen to only one guru etc.

this is what people call it as 'when we read more, we lose our common sense'...I differ with this...when we read less, we lose our common sense...and we get locked on to that 'one or two' we have read...when we read more and all the sides of an issue, we become more knowledgeable and analyse with our common sense too...

we need to read, listen and think more...be open to wisdom, ideas, concepts etc...

otherwise we might become lonely walking coffins!
 

at a young age i.e before 25 years of age, the first girl, the first love, the first holy book, the first religion, the first guru, the first swamiji, the first place which gave pleasant memories, the first dog, the first cat, the first motivator...the list is endless...all these 'firsts' which gave us happiness, peace, a path to progress attract us and we get locked on to this 'hard', leading to rigidity...we think 'this' or 'he' or 'it' is the best and nothing else can be better than this. e.g a 14 year old boy when he looks at the fame and richness of a super star, he gets locked on to him and wants to become like that...many students have got motivated and attracted towards the Abdul kalam way...the right thing is 'we need to know everything...listen to all...parents have to show all the possible ways of working and living...all courses...all types of careers...pluses and minuses...and then one has to be selected...they might get confused...but we, as parents should measure the skills and weigh his interests (which changes) and accordingly guide him...other wise this 'model'ing (choosing a role model in life) behaviour and fantasy choices may not put him in the right track...scientists say till the age of 40, all decisions we make in life regarding selection of guru, career, 'life plan' etc are all out of fantasy choices and the 'reality choice' happens only after 40...

 

now some comments from people... 

 

"Perfect Subbu, well written. Are we looking into Swami Subbu or Manickarajan Ramasubramanian of future? Why not teaching or imparting lesson is such an important thing in life."

 

 now it is me....

 

 "thank you so much sir! about 23 years ago, when we both served in the same organisation, you were near the top in the hierarchy and i was the junior most officer...so, when such a senior officer or a senior person in life says such encouraging words, i feel happy and motivated sir. As i said earlier, i just type what ever comes to my mind when i look at people, the way they live, their concept of life and the way societies are evolving...that is all sir...it does not matter to me whether the readers agree or don't agree...but i am sure they will ponder over the issue and it will result in some change in them to the betterment...i am told by a professor that these posts are discussed amongst them and with students...so, some one will benefit somewhere! (smile)"

  

"Age is just a number, knowledge and enlightenment is what matters, learning is a continuos process and one must learn from anyone and everyone who is capable to pass on something good. I take it even simpler than that, if I want to learn how to pluck a coconut and chop it to drink its water or enjoy the inner core , who can be best teacher than a most likely so called uneducated person who has been doing this job for ages or generations ? Keep penning."

 

bye guys...keep rocking

 

rams

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