Hai all…
With adolescents we get generally angry seeing their behaviours…we have crossed that age…but still we are not able to understand their behaviours. (we have not reached the old age, how can we understand our aged parents??...if we read Geriatric Psychology then we can!!!)
Their behaviours are due to the violent, volcanic, rapid changes that are taking place in hormones and the resultant changed functioning of organs, rapid growth and maturing of new systems and associated metabolism changes.
With adolescents we get generally angry seeing their behaviours…we have crossed that age…but still we are not able to understand their behaviours. (we have not reached the old age, how can we understand our aged parents??...if we read Geriatric Psychology then we can!!!)
Their behaviours are due to the violent, volcanic, rapid changes that are taking place in hormones and the resultant changed functioning of organs, rapid growth and maturing of new systems and associated metabolism changes.
This is similar to connecting a coiled piple line to a variable super
high pressure water tap with the other side open…what will happen?...the
pipe line will jump and move here and there violently…if we try to
catch the pipe and control it we will only get hurt and drenched and
stand like a donkey while the pipe is still moving violently.
Adolescents are like this. Can we control the water pressure in adolescents?...yes, to an extent with healthy veg diet, yoga, and other physical and mental exercises. Can we stop their growth…i.e closing the water tap?...No…so, we have to show lots of patience, ability to discuss the issues…etc…
Advices, talks, speeches, control, strategies etc will not work.
Change is possible only if they feel to change. Of course, death of a person at home, loss of job for parents, loss of siblings, serious illnesses to people at home etc are ‘step-input’s that can change their behaviours…but they have to be natural…not self created.
That is why grooming with good mental and physical habits from the infant hood with an ability to take their own decisions is vital!!...under such grooming there is no way that they will go wrong!!...as they will always have faith and trust and feel ‘my parents are my ultimate people on earth with whom I can discuss anything under the sky!!’ Freedom from infant hood onwards gives self control. Our concept of freedom spoils a child is wrong. Also ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ is also a wrong concept. Throw the rod and take the ‘love’ in hand!! The biggest problem is we want them to be like us and do what we feel is right!!...which is wrong!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist
Adolescents are like this. Can we control the water pressure in adolescents?...yes, to an extent with healthy veg diet, yoga, and other physical and mental exercises. Can we stop their growth…i.e closing the water tap?...No…so, we have to show lots of patience, ability to discuss the issues…etc…
Advices, talks, speeches, control, strategies etc will not work.
Change is possible only if they feel to change. Of course, death of a person at home, loss of job for parents, loss of siblings, serious illnesses to people at home etc are ‘step-input’s that can change their behaviours…but they have to be natural…not self created.
That is why grooming with good mental and physical habits from the infant hood with an ability to take their own decisions is vital!!...under such grooming there is no way that they will go wrong!!...as they will always have faith and trust and feel ‘my parents are my ultimate people on earth with whom I can discuss anything under the sky!!’ Freedom from infant hood onwards gives self control. Our concept of freedom spoils a child is wrong. Also ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ is also a wrong concept. Throw the rod and take the ‘love’ in hand!! The biggest problem is we want them to be like us and do what we feel is right!!...which is wrong!!
peacefully yours...rams...health psychologist
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