What is that ONE WORD that is most important in life!

Hai all...What is the bottom in a relationship?...What is the key word for peace and happiness in a relationship?

When we analyse the reason for poor mental health, loss of peace and happiness in the life of people, mostly it is only one word emerging prominently, PERCEPTION!!!!

the issue is....'We don't see things as they are, we only see things as WE ARE'...so, if we find fault with others or our relationships with others, mostly our definition or belief or perception is wrong. 

For e.g

One person says 'Sir, my wife has cheated me. She is in relationship with another person'. The wife says 'Yes, I agree. I am in relationship with another person. But no physical relationship. It is only an intellectual relationship. How can it be considered as cheating in a marriage relationship?'

One mother says 'Sir, my teen age daughter is in a relationship with a boy!'. What she means is physical relationship. But the girl says 'No, he is only a friend. Friendship is also a relationship. No physical relationship between us!'

Some do not consider hugging and french kiss as physical relationship and some consider it. Some consider only reproductive act as physical relationship and some consider any act related to physical contact with the body as physical relationship.

Surprisingly no one talks about MENTAL RELATIONSHIPS, i.e losing the mind to some one else (also?)...may be because it is considered as an accepted culture, unspoken and not discussed norm of our life or living. They are only bothered about sharing physical body, time and other material resources, but not the MIND, the most important thing in any relationship, Surprising!!!!

There is another person who says 'Sir, I know my wife is involved in a relationship which involves physical also. But I know their relationship is much more than the physical need. Every one needs tens of things which the other person is unable to provide at the time of need and in the right quantity, type and quality. But I know that she loves me a lot and she knows that I love her a lot. The bottom line in our relationship is I WANT TO SEE THE OTHER PERSON HAPPY!'.

So, what is right and what is wrong is not universal. It depends upon the people concerned. Their PERCEPTION!!!

So, if we want to be peaceful, happy and maintain our body, mind and social relationships in a healthy state then we have to have the SUITABLE PERCEPTION. We should be ready to unlearn our old learning and learn the new thing. With respect to people and relationships we have to ask only one question to ourselves to take the decision...WHETHER I NEED THIS PERSON IN MY LIFE OR NOT? If the answer that comes is YES, then we have to change ourselves.

Peacefully yours....rams...health psychologist...