THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS AND STUDENTS...THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN 'UNDERSTANDING' AND 'FEELING'!!

Dear all...THIS IS FOR ALL PARENTS AND STUDENTS...

A college girl cries to her lover and begs 'You are a jadam (wood) da!!...You don't have any feelings towards me!...Don't you understand how much i love you?'

How can he understand and able to feel her feelings, pains, cries, her heart when he does not love that girl (may be only lusts!) and has not ever experienced that kind of love or intense feelings to a girl of same age or stage in life!!

Of course, many boys also cry like this to many girls!!

Mother cries to her daughter 'How much i suffered to conceive you, bear you, give birth and groom you against all the odds of illnesses, dangers of all kinds from all, toughest life situations?...Why don't you realise all that?'. It could be to a son too.

The girl will realise, understand and feel the feelings of her mother after undergoing all these in her own personal life!! That time she will feel the feelings of her mother, run to her mom and say sorry!!

But a son can only understand but can never feel the same feelings of his mother, as he will never get an oppurtunity in life to undergo that reproduction and rearing process and feel the pains. But all the pains related to the poor economic conditions or social stigma etc he can understand and feel as he himself must have lived through that phase with his mom.

THE CRUX IS....UNLESS ONE GETS OR UNDERGOES OR PASSES THROUGH THAT PAIN OR PLEASURE OR HAPPINESS OR FRUSTRATION OR SADNESS ETC, HE OR SHE CAN NOT FEEL IT, GET THE SAME FEELINGS LIKE THE OTHER PERSON, RESPOND AND RECIPROCATE WITH EMOTIONS, THINKING AND BEHAVIOURS COMMENSURATE WITH THOSE FEELINGS!!...THEY CAN ONLY 'UNDERSTAND' AND THERE IS A GREAT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN 'UNDERSTANDING' AND 'FEELING BY UNDERGOING THE PROCESS BY SELF'!!

This is a reason why lovers do not get the same level or feelings of love and affection from other person!!

Mothers do not get from their children!

A wife does not get from her husband!

If we say 'i am suffering due to hunger!' then the other person is able to understand it, feel it in his stomach, as every one undergoes this hunger feeling and knows how painful or intolerable it is!...Similarly the feelings related to necessity to defecate, thirst etc...I.e all Natural and basic Instincts of living, survival etc!!...Every one undergoes these and therefore can feel all the pains and issues related to this (i.e causes, effects and feelings etc)

Intense feelings, menopause, menstrual periods, child bearing-delivery-rearing, social issues, etc are understood and felt deeply in heart by another person only after passing through this phase of life and undergoing all the agony, pains, pleasures, happiness etc by herself or his own-self.

If we know this then we will not shout at those whom we love saying 'why my lover is not able to feel my love?'

peacefully yours....rams!!